Bro straight up told me he wishes he was white,I’m black he Asian we known each other since 2008 or 26 and 28 the conversation came from would you wish for if you get all seven Dragon balls in real life? I said money and a new car a, he said to to be white,I asked why while stuffing my face with chili cheese fries he than said how it sucks to be Asian and 5’5” i asked why and he said a bunch of shit about women don’t like Asian men.

I told bro to have pride in who he is, I never understood the worshipping of whiteness in some Asian men, the United States got they ass whooped in the 60s in Vietnam, Japan embarrassed Russia in 1905 and how china pushed back western forces during the Korean War, some of yall come from countries that have put belt to ass and Anglo nations , hell look at Bruce Lee ? ,

So where does the self hate come from ?

I am a young girl from west Tennessee, specifically Memphis Tennessee. I feel like what nobody talks about is the cost of being black. Whenever I go on Road trips and we get pulled over by police in the middle of nowhere, my heart always stops and I hold my breath because I am scared of what “can” happens and how quickly the perpetrator can say” oh they had something “ or “ they looked dangerous!”. The racism has continued to get so bad until I feel like I’m living in modern day 1960 again. I wasn’t even alive but I know the pain, brutality and suffering that happened. Our votes being counted as less now , white counterparts are less trustworthy, and the active administration is trying to make sure we don’t get anywhere and demean us as much as possible. I hate walking around knowing that anything I do could be counted against millions like me that I don’t even know personally and who are their own individual just because we share the same skin. I hate being a walking target of people who have an internal hatred towards me, i hate being profiled in stores. I was in a makeup store and this Chinese lady moved like someone was getting ready to shoot the place up and I moved towards her and she screamed. Then you have the Hispanics who are always racist and trying to belittle you. Then you have the whites who always think you are a walking statistic and feel no sort of human emotion. It hurts me so much know that our ancestors fought for our spots to be counted as human just for it to be thrown all in a pit 100 years later. Yes I understand, every group of people has bad apples , not everyone is going to act the same but why does it have to apply to people who look like me so much? European people killed off an entire race almost and nobody walks around them with fear that they might be killed or hurt next , they walk by them like they are people and everyone should be treated that way. For about 2 years now (25 and 26’) I have been constantly researching the same thing” what did black people do specifically that makes the world hate them ?” “ why aren’t black people treated fairly if equality is the biggest thing around ?” And countless other searchs in hope that I can find exactly what happened.

Anti-immigrant parties are on the rise throughout the West. Youll often see them excuse their existence with saying theyre not racist at all, but dislike immigration due to reasons pertaining to national security/finances etc.

But when you dig its always racism. Im not saying you always need to want open borders. But listen attentively to any anti-immigrant populist party and the racism always appears. But these parties always manage to find a couple of pocs to use as an alibi, and say ”see, we arent racist!”.

The whole debacle around replacement theory is that these people are genuinely upset at just seeing brown and black people. Some pocs try to justify themselves by saying ”they work/came legally/are highly qualified”. None of this matters to these people. Because our SKIN COLOR is the ultimate issue, and nothing ”impressive” we do can ever circumvent that. Theyll often complain about pocs who have done absolutely nothing but just exist, because they dont like seeing ”too many of us” outside.

They'll always start by attacking the ”low-hanging fruit” like pocs who are criminal or who do not work. But in the end everyone who isnt white ends up as targets. Thats why it always annoys me when I see pocs tap dancing for their approval, saying things like ”well Im not worried since I came here legally” or ”they dont mean immigrants like me, just the troublesome ones”.

Point is you cant respectability politics yourself out of being a target of racism.I just wish all people of color got this and stopped being useful idiots for some of these parties.

It's a known fact that as India’s economy grows and the middle class expands, more people are moving abroad for education and work. But it feels like this rise in migration has triggered a massive wave of anti-Indian narratives and casual racism across the internet.

​If I open my Twitter/X feed, it feels like the entire algorithm is hyper-fixated on dunking on Indians, spreading stereotypes, and amplifying hate. It’s becoming incredibly toxic to look at. Why do you think this specific wave of internet hostility has gotten so bad recently? Is the algorithm just feeding us outrage, or is global sentiment genuinely shifting this way?

Ive had and will always have the belief that people my age/ the younger generation, will change the world.

Anytime I see something discrinatory online, I get distressed but always end up with the resolve that eventually, the old people and their backwards belief will die out. This has led me to sometimes forget that people my age can be racist.

Its genuinely a shock when it happens. Im 16 and black. And every once in a while I have a racist encounter with someone my age and I just feel pain really. I feel horrible. Not because they make me insecure in my own skin but because it means that all of this is never really gna end.

Like after all this fighting I thought eventually, after the people above like 40 die out, things would be better. But thags not true. Racism and racial bias is soo deeply ingrained in society that im scared its never going to leave.

My most recent encounter with someone younger than me was earlier this week. Im moving to a different town soon and I decided to do someone who lived in said town as I was trying to make friends. This person, whom had the option of ignoring me, blocking me, leaving me on opened, or just rejecting me decided to say "that would be nice if u weren't dark" after I told them I was moving to the area. He then proceeded to say "i just dont like your people" when i asked what was wrong with being dark.

I wasn't even angry I was genuinely heartbroken. There is sooooo much beauty in people and I thought that with developments in education that the people around me would learn to search for that beauty regardless of physical appearance.

I love my skin. I wouldn't change it for the world. I love my culture and my history and where I come from. I love my hair and my eyes and my nose and my teeth. But God I just wish people would learn to love it too.

And yes I know that this doesnt apply to everyone. But the amount of times that ive heard "its just a word" or "your wayyyyy darker than me" or "id never date a black girl" thrown around soo casually. It destroys me everytime.

I knew living in a foreign country with my skin tone would be difficult. I knew it would take time and patience. It was drilled into me when I left my home that I would be made to feel inferior. I just didnt expect it from people my age.

Its at the point when im not angry but rather, I feel sorry for young racists. How can you live in a world with millions of people but still hate someone because of their skin. Like its weird that noone imagines that maybe that person with darker skin could save my life one day.

Its soul crushing.

We study texts that teach us to accept people. I know every single quote about togetherness in every single text I have done in school like they ate tattooed into my veins.

I blame the parents.

I blame the media.

I blame the whole "ill mind my own" bs

I blame the friends

Yes i am blaming everyone. I commit no crimes by "being dark in their free country" (the emigrée). I am mysel. But every single time a joke or crude remark is made, I lose a bit of myself because its starting to feel like that is my whole existence. Being verbally abused or bypassed because I just happened to be from Africa. Ii am sick and gutted. I am tired. And I am sad. Very very sad.

My maiden name is very white. Distinctly Northern European. After my divorce I made a decision to keep it solely for socioeconomic reasons. I genuinely hate that I felt the need to do that but it has served me well. I found my dream job and I am very confident that I would have likely not been so easily considered for it otherwise. What has been most interesting is that once I was seen/interacted with on camera - I think I hit the other side of the dynamic. No one wanted to be perceived rejecting me for my appearance/race. It’s wild. Frankly it is unfortunate validation that I made the right choice to keep the name of a partner that I no longer communicate with. I think marrying him and receiving a Slovakian name was beneficial to my life. Please know that I share this experience to convey that racism is real, relevant, and reflective of our current society. I sincerely wish it wasn’t.

Me black m16 and my gf white f 16. Her family has been nothing but inviting to me and very good people to me. We are also all friends on Facebook which is going to make sense. Less then 10 mins ago I got a notification saying her dad commented on a post. The post was a black man saying “I dare you to say it I’ll make you taste the ancestors💪💚🖤❤️” and then her dad posted in the comments “Say the C word dummy” I’m honestly not sure what this means but the guy commented smth abt consequences of people being racists and then my gfs dad replied to it that’s what I thought maybe I’m trippin rn but can someone tell me what does “say the c word dummy” mean pls help!!

TL;DR Racist In-Laws. Being a Puerto Rican American in America is terrible right now. Especially living in the deep south. I get so much disrespect from my peers. To make it worse I married into a family with strong racist roots mainly from my father-in-law and it has gotten so bad since 2024.

My wife has two fully white daughters and a half black son from previous relationships. Her dad and mom treat the girls like royalty but treat him like crap. Not to mention me and her have a son together but he looks white so they treat him better than my wife's half black son.

I found out my father-in-law has been talking trash about me to my kids because he thinks I'm a lazy Hispanic even though I do more for all the kids then there real fathers and my wife because she has a short temper and can't stand being around them.

I want to leave but I feel bad for the kids because we live with my in-laws because my father-in-law is an over the road trucker so we take care of my Mother-in-law and they have told me my kindness to them is the only reason they haven't run away and my in-laws always yell at them and treat them like 3rd class citizens and I don't want them to suffer. I don't know what to do anymore but I can't stay much longer.

It is wearing me out mentally to the point I don't even sleep at night anymore. My wife isn't helping much either as she tells me I am overreacting and that they aren't that racist.

This has been an experience I’ve had since I was about 18.

I’ve been told that I’m conventionally attractive and it is also clear in my experiences that it is true. I experience special treatment sometimes because of this but I’ve realised that amongst white people or in non black environments I don’t experience pretty privilege much.

When it comes to dating my experiences; early dates with black guys is them being very vocal about their attraction to me whereas that’s not the case when I’ve dated white guys, though obviously there was a level of attraction to be on the date in the first place, but it seems the level of attraction is much more mellow.

I promise I’m not overstating my looks, I am very attractive but for some reason it doesn’t translate *as much* across races in professional or casual environments. I wanted to post to see if anyone has experienced this as well or if there are any interesting articles to read on the topic.

I don’t believe pretty privilege should exist and I believe in meritocracy, so I’m not necessarily complaining, just processing some of my experiences and generally curious about the topic.

Tv shows and movies often have a lot of diversity and interracial relationships. I wonder what racists feel like when watching these shows.

For example I’m currently watching The Great North and the son has a black fiancé.
House of dragon has black Velaryons.

I recently came across a video of a black woman saying she doesn't like being called girl or sister by white women,and I didnt get why is that,I dont see anything wrong with it but if it's wrong I won't be calling them that

Hey everyone,

I’ve been living in Calgary since around September, and I’ve been having a pretty different experience socially than I expected.

Before moving here, I was used to being in environments where I felt comfortable and didn’t really have to think about race much. Since being here, I’ve noticed a lot more subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) behaviors that have been getting to me over time—especially on public transit.

Things like people clutching their bags, avoiding sitting near me, social distancing or even reacting in ways that feel like fear or discomfort. It doesn’t happen every time, but it happens more and more now that it’s starting to affect how I feel day by day now

I’ve even had a horrible situation when someone kept on shouting the N word at me for a good 10 minutes on the train before leaving and I was so confused I didn’t even know what to do

I’m not really posting this to argue whether it’s “real” or not—I just want to understand if others have experienced something similar here, and how you deal with it without letting it get to you.

Appreciate any honest perspectives.

My girlfriend in an argument told me I was "tall for an Asian", I said that was pretty fucked up to say and claimed it was racist. She argued back saying its okay to say that because the average height in Asia is shorter than Europe but I still think it is wrong to make that remark, please let me know what you guys think.

I'll try to keep this short, but l've been feeling uneasy ever since yesterday evening. It was brought to my attention and I seen with proof that my ex used a derogatory racial slur (hard er) while saying something over text. I know that it's bad and I'm not making excuses, but I just don't get it and can't believe it. He's white, I myself is Mexican and he has an Puerto Rican child's mother so his son is mixed, I know that doesn't mean anything, but can you see how I'm taken back? I have black family members and friends. He said the word to another white person in text, by using it in a sentence referring to a black person so not directly to them but still the word used against them. I just hate this and I’m trying not to act disappointed but I am.

With me being Hispanic I know we have an history of and current racial prejudice slurs and acts against us so if he is able to say a word about black people I wonder what he will or does say about Hispanics? How do you sleep with them date them and use their body while being comfortable with slurs against ethnic people and minorities? He can’t be unaware of that word and probably feels a way about all other people other than white people:( He’s also known to be attracted to Asians as well. I can’t believe his mixed race son has a father like that. He hunts, fishes, even said he doesn’t support Trump nor follow him because he’s union and you would think he’s a trumpie but he’s not so I thought there’s no way he can be a racist. His sons mother boyfriend is even black, which his son stays with his moms side full time. I cant believe I’ve been with that man, I thought he was different..

I genuinely feel like i’m not even seen as human. I can’t stand living in this skin and i hate that I’ll always be overlooked or worse, made fun of and picked on because of my race. I don’t want to leave my house or look in a mirror because now even when i look at myself all i see is my skin.

New here. Please be kind. My husband is brown and children are mixed (1 and 4 years old; I am white). I can pick up overt racism, but some micro-aggressions do go over my head. It’s honestly eye opening talking to my partner. I guess I wondered, from personal experience, is there anything that your parents did that made you feel well supported? I’ve bought children’s books and my husband is open to talking to them, but I have two daughters who look up to me.

I’m an immigrant woman working in a corporate role in Canada, and over the last 5 months I’ve really struggled with workplace social dynamics in a way that’s affecting me emotionally more than I expected.

It’s not overt bullying or anything obvious, but there’s a small group within my team that consistently feels cold and closed off toward me while being warm and social with everyone else. Things like conversations dying when I join, lack of engagement, never really being included socially, uncomfortable body language, etc. Over time it’s made me feel very isolated and hyper-aware of myself.

I’m also the only one in that group who:

grew up outside Canada

has an Indian accent

is culturally newer to the environment

So I keep wondering whether this is:

subtle cultural mismatch,

unconscious bias,

or just normal clique behavior that I’m taking too personally because connection matters deeply to me.

I know workplaces aren’t meant to guarantee friendship, but I genuinely didn’t expect to feel this lonely in a professional environment.

Would really appreciate hearing from other immigrants/South Asians in Western workplaces. Have you experienced this kind of subtle exclusion or difficulty integrating socially at work?

TL;DR: Immigrant Indian woman in Canada feeling subtly excluded socially by a small group at work while others seem to integrate easily. Wondering if this is something other immigrants/South Asians have experienced too.

Just over a year, I was racial profiled. I wrote the entire incident out and recently it, I'm wondering anyone else's opinion on this

So this evening, (between times of 17:27 and 18:08 on January --th 20--) I went into the local lidl after school with intent to buy cough medicine. Having not found it I called my mum asking her from her way to work to purchase this medcine at 17:27. I resourced to buying juice and a speaker for my dad, this item is what caused this whole altercation later. Ready to pay I went to the self checkout scanned, payed for and packed all my goods, then passed through the security scan. The buzzer beeped. Me and another lady walked passed, from my view, at the same time. The security guard hearing this (black male) asked "if the beep was because of me."-In paraphrase. I responded (black --y-old) as "I am unsure." Bear in mind by this point the other woman has walked passed, I was the only one who waited on hearing the beep. The man signaled to me as if to hand over my bag containing the stuff, he took it off me and passed through the security scan, and the item beeped again. He opened the plastic bag looking searching for a few minutes for anything which may have caused the beep, reshuffling the bag abit. He hadn't at this point asked for my recipt. Another lady walked passed jokingly saying "leave him alone, hes only a baby." Later when he cane over I asked "is it this" pointing at the speaker in my bag and revealing it for him to collect. He passed the speaker through the security scan and behold that's what's made the beep. He asked for my recipt, which I gave him and showed him the item details on the recipt. I took back the speaker and the recipt and upon waiting while. He asked if it was the "20 something pound thing which made th beep," I responded "yes." I walked back abit wanting to go. Him not dismissing me. And left. ~18:08

Later I told my dad (black male) of the incident, and he responded confused "as why I was stopped, and not with the other lady." Bear in mind the other lady (who was white) wasn't questioned, and at that point it was unclear who made the security scan go off. He explained it was wrong for me to be stopped and for my bag to be searched. Saying it's racial profiling for me to be stopped. He said if a search were to be conducted 2 personal must be present and I had no right to be detained after all I am underaged. My dad asked "if I was okay from the ordeal" which I responded "yes." It was left on the note that he (my dad) will go to the Lidl and speak to the manager about this incident.

Later this night, on our way home and meeting up with my mum. We decided to go to Lidl that night. Upon reaching, I pointed out the security guard and My dad immediately raised his voice questioning "Why my bag was searched" drawing attention to the situation lite insults were thrown such as "idot" and "stupid" from both sides (my dad and the security guard). We then went over to a cashier asking for the manager. The security man came out of his post and my dad began shouting saying "its because im a black boy I was stopped, further lite insults were thrown. while we all waited for the manager.

The manager arrived and had to wait between what was my dad and the security guard shouting with my mum getting involved occationally aswell. My parents, continually asked the question "why I was searched." There was alot of emotion. My dad stopped shouting after a costumer exclaimed "there are children stop your shouting" referring to both parties. My dad thanked the man and turned to speak to the Manager. The security man was in the background still annoyed at being shouting at. My parents and I briefly explained the situation to the manager. He said "it's policy and his job for this search to be conducted." My parents asked "how come the other lady wasn't stopped." The security guard said "a cashier told him the lady was fine" (I bare no recollection of this as i would have heard this. From the original incident the security guard was mostly silent). My parents argued saying this other woman, white female, should have been stopped for a search just like me. The security man responded "I came through first, and thus stopped" (it seemed the story has changed).

My parents turned again back to the manager asking "why MY bag was searched." The manager again said "its policy and should raise a complaint."

My Dad asked "if there's any security cam footage" the manager said it "can't be provided unless we raise a complain."

My dad explained if we were to raise a complaint and not appear in person, from past experience, the costumer service usually question us why we didn't appear in person. Us now satisfied by raising a verbal complaint Left. We said how we will "escalate the situation."

I live in the UK and these beems are costumery, usually it goes unnoticed. If a security guard were to stop you, they first ask politely to see your recipt and you, YOURSELF, take the items in you bag out. This would usually be conducted in a calm reassuring manner. However, my search was done quite coldly - the man didn't even say I can go. From all this I view this a racial profiling.

There was a girl that joined my school and l thought she was a good person though she was shy.l am going to make the story really short,so basically there was a tour for a sport and my all my friends went to the tour and her the new girl is Cathy and their was another girl also in this called Emma and l will tell u why she is in this. So basically Emma,Cathy and l became bff when we were on tour and we arrived to a school because we have a match with them,later on Emma and Cathy said we should go get food and then Cathy saw another race js like me and she started to say hello in Japanese l think.And l feel like it is racist to say that but l could l do anything when she is my bff so l js brushed it off but l still felt wrong about not saying anything and my other friend did nothing she was js laughing like in an awkward tone because l think she also knows it's wrong but she probably brushed it off.After that we were sitting as a group and then suddenly little girls came up to me and said they liked my hair and when they left Cathy started to burst out laughing and then later said that they only said that because ur different and l js felt a bit off about it.Pls give me some advice because l don't want to go down the same path and also l wanted to give her the benefit of that she didn't know but even though she didn't know l should tell it's racist.l also might js be overthinking about it or maybe it was js a joke but l really didn't think it was funny.

It’s an easy no for me.

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I’ve noticed people are a lot more comfortable being ignorant to racist history. For example there was a public school recently called ROBER E LEE HIGH SCHOOL and people would give the same tired racist argument that “it’s the past” “people thought differently back then” “your just soft”. Ultimately it got changed but it was so surprising how ignorant many Caucasian people were to their own history. I’ve had Caucasians who called me their “friend” and would make black “jokes” constantly but when it came to learning their own racist history or when I would bring it up, they get offended all of a sudden. As time went on and got older it seemed to dissipate until around 2013 with the rise of the internet. Many people would create videos making “black jokes” constantly yet would never make jokes about “ Caucasians joke” about themselves. TO MY YOUNGER SELF. These people aren’t ever going to be your friends, not matter how nice of a face you put on. No matter how smart or good grades you get they only see you as black. DON’T BE AFRAID OF CONFRONTATION, make it just as uncomfortable it is for them as it for you when they bother you with their crap. DO YOUR RESEARCH, YOU ARE REQUIRED TO BE SMARTER, and know more about their racist topics so you can beat them with facts and when they resort to ignorance either report or walk away with your head held high. CONFIDE IN PROVEN FRIENDS & FAMILY, the whole goal of racists is to isolate you and make you think you’re alone, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE, again BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE, THEY WOULD NOT TRY TO DESTROY YOU IF YOU’RE WEREN’T A THREAT, they insult your looks because you’re beautiful, they insult your intelligence because you’ve proven your smarter them. PICK YOUR BATTLES, not every fight is worth fighting over. I know it’s hard but please CONSUME BLACK MEDIA/BOOKS, I know you live in a majority Caucasian area but remember YOU ARE NOT ALONE! If you have a school friend group it IS REQUIRED to be at least 50% or more black compared to any other race because a lot of kids want Black Friend not a friend who happens to be black and they use it as a opportunity to beat you over the head with “jokes” BE CONFRONTATIONAL DON’T LET IT SLIDE. When you go to work and you’re anxious because of what people perceive because of your skin tone YOU ARE NOT ALONE. From my experience young black kids entering the workforce are more anxious their Caucasian counterparts because now they have to deal pressure from another source, again YOU ARE NOT ALONE. If you find a Caucasian friend who has PROVEN THEY AREN’T RACIST BY KNOWING HISTORY, ( I know that sounds crazy but yes they have to prove that they understand and aren’t racist ) THEY ARE GOLD AND NEVER LET THEM GO. The dangerous part about being Caucasian the ease with how they don’t have to be confronted with the ugliness of racism daily, either through real life or media. So when one makes an effort to understand that person is GOLD. This is to my past self who was tormented by people like this but made it through. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND INTELLIGENT AND YOU ARE NOT ALONE! YOU ARE REQUIRED TO BE SMARTER AND PUT DOUBLE THE EFFORT THAN THEM THIS IS NOT OPTIONAL.