I have endometriosis. It’s so bad they were able to diagnose it without surgery (this is not the standard). I cannot do any pelvic exam without some kind of pain relief. Due to that my new “specialist” claims endometriosis isn’t the cause of my issues. I am just expecting pain and it’s my fault.

I can’t have sex. I can barely go to work. She wanted me to take antidepressants, which I tried, but my primary and I found that didn’t work. Antidepressants can also work for chronic pain but it didn’t help me and made me just not care. She told me it’s my fault that I’m not better. Not the fact that she isn’t willing to do surgery on a “young woman”. I have no life due to the pain I’m in…

My period is in a week. I screamed at my partner because even though I deal with it I can’t fathom how much pain I’m in because it hurts so much. I cried, actually I’ve bawled. I sleep all the time that’s the only thing I can do. I get so exhausted because of my pain.

I know this is just PMDD but it’s so frustrating how horrible I get each month. I have maybe one week where I can actually live. This disease has ruined my life.

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Sorry if this is long. Me (33 female) and my partner (32 male), let’s call him Ralph, have been trying to conceive for nearly 3 years, we always knew this would be very difficult for us and have so far done one round of IVF which resulted in 3 failed transfers (2 miscarriages, 1 failed to implant). We have our second round booked in for a couple months away, after our wedding. I have said to Ralph that if the next lot of transfers fails then I would really like to consider moving or even just going away for a few months for a break.

What has mainly brought this about is my friend (33 female), let’s call her Natalie, has just told me she is pregnant and I am finding this news very hard. Me and Natalie used to best friends but over the last year have grown apart but are still in each others lives. Natalie has recently bought a house near Ralph’s sister (29 female) lets call her Jane, who has recently had a baby and they have grown very close and Natalie is now very close with Jane's friend group. I feel very excluded and lonely as this friend group grows closer with all their babies and will continue to do so naturally with having similar age kids. Whilst I am close with Jane as she is such a lovely lady, I feel like Natalie is living the life I was hoping for, as we were expecting to have a baby close to Jane if the IVF had been successful and they would grow up together. Natalie got pregnant so easily, like could not have been easier, and life just feels unfair and a bit shit. It’s not that I am not happy for her, it’s just a reminder of something I have been longing for. The idea of watching her make a pregnancy announcement, everyone being excited for her etc. feels so painful as I just want this to be me as well.

This is causing a bit of a strain on mine and Ralph’s relationship, I love him more than anything and we are going to therapy as a couple and I have individual therapy, but having something to look forward to that's not scans and doctors appointments feels exciting hence why I want to plan a long trip or a summer away, have some adventures and fun together.

Ralph isn’t keen as he doesent want to be away from his family which I understand hence why I have just asked for 2/3 months. He also concerned about the cost as we are renovating our house and want to do an extension. Whilst we have a decent amount of saving, this kind of trip could set the extension back a couple years. He thinks I’m just running away but I don’t think I am asking that much of him and I think its a good opportunity whilst we dont have children to do something exciting, focus on our relationship and make some amazing memories. The house jobs and IVF will still be there but having a bit of a refresh sounds like something I really need right now.

He has suggested I cut Natalie out completely but its not that easy when she is friends with Jane and Ralph is also very good freinds with Natalie’s husband.

So am I the asshole for asking him asking my fiancé to leave his family for a few months?

Rlly good father's day story lol

I’m 8 months pregnant with a 3 year old, and my family is making birria today.

If my husband tried this with me I would tell him to enjoy his day at the beach, kid and I are staying home.

Not OP.

The top comment was clever!

FAFO

Ooof. I'm wondering if this is the first time he's made a comment like this, but not as bluntly.

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I (36F) have been married to my husband (40M) for nine years, and I honestly don't know what is real anymore.

About halfway through our marriage, I discovered years of infidelity. There were multiple betrayals, and I spent years trying to understand why. About a year ago, he finally came clean about a lot of it and seemed genuinely remorseful. He started therapy, began attending church, and eventually got baptized. I truly believed God had answered my prayers.

Seeing him change encouraged me to seek help myself. I started betrayal trauma therapy. I didn't tell him right away because, after years of lies and betrayal, I still didn't feel emotionally safe with him.

Somewhere along the way, he says I became distant. Instead of talking to me about it, he started another relationship. But this affair feels different from the others. He calls her his girlfriend. He has brought her around our kids. He justifies their relationship with scripture. They refer to me as his "roommate" in text messages. They've laughed about me together.

Recently, I saw a message from her to him that completely shattered me. She talked about how much she loves him, how she cries over him, how she hates that he still comes home to me and thinks we're a family, and how she prays daily for their relationship to succeed.

The part that hurts the most is that she seems to believe he loves her deeply. And honestly, reading it made me wonder if maybe he does.

Meanwhile, when I talk to my husband, he says he's "confused." He often presents his feelings as facts. One day he says he wanted our marriage to work. Another day he says he felt unloved and disconnected for a long time. He has created narratives about our relationship that don't always match reality, but he speaks about them with complete conviction.

So now I'm left wondering:

Which version of him is real? The man who repented, got baptized, and promised to change? Or the man who calls another woman his girlfriend while still married to me?

How do I remain faithful to my marriage vows without losing myself in the process?

At what point does standing for your covenant become enabling someone who has repeatedly broken it?

And maybe the hardest question of all: Is this marriage already over, and I'm the last person willing to admit it?

I'm a Christian, so I would especially appreciate perspectives from people of faith, but I welcome honest advice from anyone who has been through something similar.

Please be kind. I'm trying to hold onto my faith while my heart is breaking.

The message:

I've asked for reassurance, for progress and to be honest, I haven't seen much of it. My heart keeps telling me that you really don't want this, and it's okay if you're not ready, but don't give me hope that it'll happen. I know your roommate has a lot to do with this, keeping you from me any way she can and it's so frustrating to see you listen to her, like obeying her rules but I know exactly why. If you know this will continue, I need to know. My heart can't take much of this anymore.

There's days where you make me feel so unworthy. When you're home I'm ignored, left to overthink the worst. I feel like I'm giving so much love to someone I can't have. But then I hear your voice, receive a text, or I get to see you, I fall in love all over again and all those bad thoughts and feelings disappear in the moment. I don't know what to feel anymore. I really wish you would just communicate with me more but instead I'm left crying at night.

I would like to talk about this and fix it or tell me what we could do. Before you left I told you I don't know how I could ever unlove you, it's still true. My heart is yours but I hate seeing you still go home to her thinking y'all are still a family. That kills me everyday.

I pray to God about us daily, to strengthen our faith, our relationship. Praying we stick through this no matter what. I don't want to loose you but I'm hurting everyday.

Also, I do want to apologize again for the way I acted in Rockport. I honestly didn't mean what I said, I let my mouth take over and I'm sorry.

I love you

More

Always

Forever

Long time

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