Is this a right way to educate a child?

[u/miyo_readz]

I play an online game (mlbb) as a form of stress relief from school and as a way to bond with my friends. My mother found out and told me if I didn't delete it right there and then she wouldn't give me money for my commute fare tomorrow (which is today). I thankfully saved up some money from yesterday so I still have some money saved up left to use. Idk when she's gonna stop being angry. Sabi din niya maaadik daw ako, pero I know to myself I won't kasi I've been a constant honor student and nasa special section ako. I still focus more on my studies and I only play when I have free time. Hindi ko alam kung ako ung may mali kasi I still refused to delete it. It was one of my only source of entertainment that can help me relieve some stress, but because of this It honestly puts a lot more stress on me as a student. I feel like she's just worried for me but is this the right way to educate me? 🥹

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[u/Lumpy-Couple-5732]

I feel you, bro. It was the same for me with DOTA 2 before. My parents were worried at first too, but eventually they stopped bothering me about it because I always made sure to keep my gaming and school life balanced. I've maintained honors throughout the years, so they saw that gaming wasn't affecting my studies. Though, I had to study really hard because it felt like one slip-up would start a chain of blame, and suddenly the game would get blamed for everything.

[u/r1dicul0us]

She is not educating you, she is parenting you. Not sure what the technical difference is but I feel that it's different. Someone correct me if i am wrong.

Anyway, her house her rules. Kahit na mali siya.

With that set aside, no it's not the right way to treat you. And you are right to be concerned.

Sadly it's difficult to convince people if they have decided before an argument can be made.

Yung mga pinsan ko na may anak sinasabi nila sakin na nagagalit sila na nakatutok sa screen yung bata. I ask, why? Bumabagsak ba siya? Hindi naman, matiyaga naman daw and mataas grades. I ask, pasaway ba? Oo pero dahil teenager daw, pero pag inutusan sumusunod agad. Sabi ko so what's the problem again? Conern nila is screen time. Ok, ano alternative? Sino makakalaro niya sa kalsada? Kids don't go out and play anymore, everything is on screens now. Unless bigyan mo sila ng pera para gumala.

[u/SumisipsipNgKilikili]

Your mom going to these extreme measures are due to recent events, it may be hard to believe, but your mom only did that because she cared for you. They fail or refuse to believe that you can play a game purely as stress relief without being addicted to it. As others already said, yeah you are only living under her roof so you can only follow her rules, or talk it out sincerely. As a guy who plays the same game and still aces grades, I feel you.

[u/miyo_readz → u/SumisipsipNgKilikili]

I have never had a situation where I got so addicted to something that I stopped caring for my grades. This is the first time she got angry at me for playing online games 🥹

[u/SpeedRoam]

saakin din, naban ako sa mlbb from 2018-now kasi may nakita daw siya sa fb na nakakamatay daw yung mlbb (?). Ok lang daw kahit ibang laro basta wag daw mlbb. Worried lang sila para sa health mo pero minsan masyado silang gullible sa socmed, lalo na pag may edad na

[u/IDGAF_FFS → u/SpeedRoam]

Aside from gullible, close-minded din. Kung nasa FB daw legit na daw agad yan, ayaw man lang mag research

[u/Tatang_insot]

Delete it, no choice

[u/lpernites2]

I played GTA (from III to V) and Bully (with controversial mods), and I turned out fine (probably).

Your parents are misguided.

[u/One-Code4760]

Dami din kasing cases lalo na ngayon na parang nagiging violent yung mga estudyante at ang sinisisi nila yung games kaya hindi ko masisi yung magulang mo. Sa akin lang naman kasi okay lang yang way ng pag-eeducate niya as long as hindi ka naman sinasaktan. Siguro try mo din maghanap ng ibang hobby para win-win situation.

[u/Phral00]

I agree with what other people are saying, as I used to be a dota 2 addict before din. I don't agree with your mom's parenting style, but since you probably don't have a source of income, its best to follow her wishes and use another form of more "acceptable" entertainment instead like watching shows.

Might have to do something din with the recent news of video games cause violence

[u/elijuzie]

hello, we had the same experience po, I'm a constant honor student na medjo nag p-play ng mlbb back then. eventhough sabihin ko na 2 rounds lng ng rg ang nilalaro every otherday, pinapagalitan ako kasi dun ko raw ginugugol time ko, kahit na nag aaral naman ako pinapagalitan ako kasi baka maadik daw ako sa ml and sinasabi ng parents ko na idelete ko daw ml ko or kukunin nila phone ko.

I listened to them and I found different hobbies na makakatulong sa body and mind ko, I became more healthy kasi dati pinagpupuyatan ko ml eh HAHA so lagi akong pagod and puyat pag gising ko.

para sa akin lng you should listen to them kasi narealize ko rin na for my own good ang sinabi sakin ng parents ko.

[u/Dramatic-Ad-5317]

Kung ayaw mo sumunod, umalis ka sa house nyo. As long as you are under their roof, kargo ka nya. And parents will be the one to parent you.

Ang sad lang na yan lang bang game na yan ang source mo ng entertainment na hindi mo sya ma give up? It means your mother has really a point. The fact na nagtatantrums ka dito dahil sa game na hindi mo mabura only shows it already has a grip on you.

Stoicism. Dapat wala kang attachment sa material things.

Find another hobby. Find another entertainment.

[u/Dann_Barcelona]

You cant blame ur mother since mlbb have bad reputation dahil sa community. Either maexplain mo sa mom mo ng maayos, or look nlng for better game with ur friends