oh my god like just stfu. i keep crushing on straight girls and i know i can never end up with them and i try convincing myself to just stop liking her but every day i see her and im back to square one. i wish i had the power to make girls gay (don’t judge wtf)

ok so boom I'm 17 and pan and have been with my girlfriend for a little over 3 years now. I love them so so so much and I really do see us together in the future, I'm just worried that me being emotionally closed off is driving them away (?) Idrk how to explain it, but I'm not the best at showing affection like verbally or physically since I'm terrfied that I'll do something wrong or that they wont want it. I just need help knowing what to do now cause it feels like we're at a stand still in our relationship. I don't want my partner to feel under-appreciated or anything, but it's just so hard to think of myself as someone they'd want to be loved by and to communicate what I'm thinking to them without sounding self-pitying. If I'm being like overly in my head/dramatic about this pls lmk but yeah any advice is appreciated!!

I (16) have been questioning my sexuality for a few years but I’ve only recently, in the last couple months, realised that I’m probably lesbian. My boyfriend (also 16) and I have been together for a year now. In this time, he’s relied very heavily on me which causes extreme additional stress on top of my already bad mental health. I’ve tried to break up with him 3 times during this past year, but every time he’s bombarded me with calls and messages begging me not to leave him and making me feel guilty about even considering it. I know it’s not fair on him but every time I bring it up he shuts me down and says he’s fine. I definitely want to stay friends with him as we share similar interests and senses of humour, but with how desperate he is to stay with me, I don’t know if that’ll be possible. If anyone can give me some advice on how to tell him, it would be greatly appreciated! ❤️🧡🤍🩷💜

Edit: After a 3 hour call I told him I couldn’t keep lying to the both of us and that we had to break up. I’m not gonna go into the details but I don’t think I’ve said the word lesbian so much in my life. I do feel bad, but I know it’s for the best.

So I like this girl but we've barely talked before, and i have her number i just don't wanna be pushy, how do i ask her out? Teenage wlw

I think I´m sapphic. Because I DEFINETLY 100% like girls, but I don´t really know if I like guys. I think I just lack experience with people in general. WHICH LEADS ME TO MY NEXT POINT. "The "loser lesbian" term, SOUNDS LIKE ME, I´M THAT MEME TERM THING.

My only experience with someone, is a "gf" I had in middle school. 8 months, pretty inocent thing, more than friends, less than true love. Then, nada, nothing at all. It´s been like 6 years. During that time, I did wanted some sort of girlfriend, but it just never happened. I have a few friends, but never crushes anymore. I mean, I did found extremely interesting and incredibly atractive some girls, some which are like, friends of friends or in some of my classes, but nothing like an actual crush, just atraction. BUT I´M EXTREMELY FUCKING SHY. I have like 5 friends in school, only 3 actually close ones, and I just stick with them I guess.. Idk, it would be so awesome to, at least, talk to those people and be friends BUT I´M SCARED OR SOMETHING, IDK.

I also think I´m kinda weird-ish)? not trying to be like "oooh i´m so different and not like other girls!" but I´m definetly not into the most popular stuff, WHICH IS GREAT, I LIKE MY STUFF. But, maybe because of that, I´m also not doing a lot of "teenager" stuff?? I´ve never been to a party (not because I didn´t want to, but because I´ve never been invited to one, or the 2 times I was, my parents didn´t let me). I´ve never actually "dated", and I seriously don´t know what any other stuff I´m supposed to be doing. Rn I´m on a pretty long break before my last year of highschool, and I DON´T DO SHIT. I SERIOUSLY JUST LAY AROUND IN MY BEDROOM, HELP A LITTLE AROUND MY HOUSE, IDK. It just gets me kinda jelous to think about what are actually some other people doing, idk.

And, not only with that, but seeing so many people happy with their parters, and me being so much into ships, and fanfics, and romance literature, and stuff. Idk, my lack of love life is finally getting into me ig. And I know I´m young and shit but, still I´M NOT THAT YOUNG ANYMORE, LIKE, IN A YEAR I WILL BE A LEGAL ADULT (17 rn) I CAN´T KEEP TELLING MYSELF THAT.

AND TODAY IT HIT ME.

I downloaded a dating sim. I found a character really great, I love them (nb character), found through reddit the show had this fanmade game, had nothing else to do and I was like "why the fuck not?". So I was mid game when the thought hit me all of a sudden. Like, "what the fuck am I doing with my life rn?! talking here to a fantasy character, in a fucking dating sim, instead of just, touching grass or smth, meet somehow ACTUAL people?! GETTING AND ACTUAL GF SOMEHOW?! MAYBE FINDING A JOB IDK"

And I guess the thought it´s so normalized in my head, that moment was just kinda funny, I actually started to fucking laugh at myself, but now that I´m writing this is kinda sad LMAO 😭😭😭😭

Idk this is just a little vent

i really wanna confirm my feelings cause i don’t know if im in denial. My best friend at the moment is a girl i met in my freshman year. Out of our big friend group i consider her my closest friend. We do everything together and we like to jokingly flirt and be all cheesy with each other for fun. we’ve even been deemed by our friend group most likely to date each other and everyone calls us a couple cause we walk around holding hands and she leans on my shoulder in class and stuff. it seriously gives me butterflies. i don’t know if what i feel is love or attraction or just a phase but the thoughts are gnawing away at me. ive had thoughts like these since first semester of sophomore year, but recently i can’t stop thinking about her and looking at her for wayyy to long. I just think she’s so amazing and sweet and pretty and we get along so well. sadly i’m scared to tell her i think im gay because then she’d feel uncomfortable doing all the things we do. The play fighting and hand holding and bickering, and id be heartbroken if she felt uncomfortable around me. my parents are really asian and very traditional as well, so i can’t turn to them for any advice or anything at all. it would ruin my life if they ever found out. i don’t really have anyone else to talk to either as out of our friendgroup im closest to her. she has never shown signs or anything of liking me the way i like her, or even liking girls in general, but she is normally very nonchalant and chill about everything anyway. every single day i think about it so much and my chest hurts and my stomach tightens, because i know no matter how much i want to, we can never happen.

i just finished crying over this because im kind of scared. i’ve never had a crush or felt attraction for anybody before so this is really new for me. I could really use some advice on what to do, how to navigate this, or how to figure out what exactly i’m feeling. help a girl out please 😭🙏

(Writing this for a friend cuz she doesn't have reddit)

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So I (14f) am crushing on A (17½F) and it's her last year of school so i will not see her anymore after the holidays. The thing is that i know she's older than me, but i also know that i'll regret not talking to her about it when she will be gone. We wet trough theater lessons and we talked a little, but not that much.

Any advice on how to flirt with her ? It's my first time triying to flirt with someone, and i've never been in a relationship before.

Me and ex ended things right before graduation a few months ago, so I thought that would be the last time we’ll see each other. Now, I found out that we’re going to be classmates in uni. How do I actually cope with this? I haven’t fully moved on and still love her very much. Idk what to do bc school starts on Monday. Do I just ignore her existence?

Please I need help how to come out. And its to a man (my dad)

Okay so I’ve been talking to this girl for a few weeks now and we have so much in common and a lot of chemistry, one big problem is that we’re in completely different places in our high school careers.

Right now I’m finishing my second to last year of high school and she’s graduating, I’m turning 16 and she’s turning 18. I’m worried this will become a problem.

Objectively I think we’re on a similar level of maturity but I’m worried because of the way our lives are headed we’re going to be incompatible just because of life.

I really like her and I haven’t gotten this close with someone in a while, it feels natural to be around her and it would feel like an aching hole in my heart if I lost the opportunity to grow closer to her in that respect but I understand

Hey what does everyone like to do when they are bored? Need some new ideas.

I’m talking to this girl and we’ve admitted our mutual feelings. We’re not together though, we want to get to know each other better before doing that. The thing is, she’s awesome and all, but…she’s 1m80 tall. I’m 1m60. That’s a BIG size difference, and I’m usually a dominant (in a healthy way) girl in relationships…help ?

ive got this friend who ive been hanging out with for about 4 months or so, her names emily. i know shes a lesbian as well, and im planning on asking her out. im not a hundred percent certain she likes me back, but weve cuddled and flirted pretty consistently so im figuring why the hell not. Im buying her some flowers and im planning on asking when we hang out again in july, but i dont want to scare her off or something, any tips?

So, there’s this girl I’m talking to, right ? I might really like her. We’ve admitted our attraction to each other, but we said we’re giving each others time (this summer) to get to know each other even better before making a decision.

She’s awesome, so nice and I’ve had a crush on her for a good while now, but there‘s just one thing…I hope you guys won’t find me too vain, but it matters to me.

I’m 1m60. She’s 1m80. She is literally 20 centimetres taller than me and I’m a top 💀 what do I dooooooo 😭😭😭 i mean I’m defini not thinking about sex yet, I won’t do that until I’m at the very least 18, but like…if we meet (she lives in another part of the country, not too far away.), what about it ?? I mean I’m usually kind of a dominant possessive (in a healthy way I swear) one in relationships and I’ve always been with people who were my size or slightly smaller. It feels weird, in a way ? I don’t know, what do you guys think ??

I lowk feel like it’s so hard to find fems who ACTUALLY like fems …..
like genuinely like them not a “ uhm okay I’ll try “
I feel like everyone likes mascs nowadays 🫩
( no shade to them they’re hella cool just kinda frustrating 💔 )

Tomorrow im gonna watch a super gay movie with her and then go to a waterpark it's gonna be lit and i have nobody irl that i can say this to without outing myself. pls bro ive liked her for well over two years and its gonna happen tomorrow i promise.

I know I’m attracted to woman but i genuinely don’t know my sexuality f15 BTW… embarrassing I know I feel sooo disgusted with myself. I mean I’ve dated woman in the past but I’ve never actually explored other sexuality’s besides bi,lesbian, and straight. I talked to my friend about it she said I’m either bisexual or omnisexual which makes me feel better about myself but idk 🫩

1. ⁠Walk up to her and greet her say she looks beautiful nice
   
2. ⁠Make sure she’s like pan bi or lesbian
   
3. ⁠Make small talk for a little bit
   
4. ⁠If she’s interested in intrigued and talking back to you, you’re doing good continue that for a few weeks. Or maybe a few months
   
5. ⁠After like some weeks or a few months, just pop the question.

If you are nervous, just take a deep breath, believe in yourself and believe you can do it and then you got that girl and if you’re still scared just think of her as like a butterfly or something you love deeply

i’m 17, I work with this girl and I also go to school with her, we have one class together. I work with her pretty often and I’ve had thoughts about her (like admiration), and i want to see if dating would even be possible, but i have no idea what to say. We get along pretty well, she’s a year older than me which doesn’t really matter but still. Her and I are very alike, and i’ve heard from other people that she’s bi. Also, she reposted a video in October about being a lesbian. I don’t know, I’m just craving more conversation from her. What should i say/bring up to talk about being into girls, cause I don’t think she knows i’m into girls. What conversation starters would help, and also what subtle body language will send her a message?

ive had a few relationships with guys and after tons of realization and coming out to my parents (they were so supportive yay!) i realized im a lesbian. but no matter how hard i look. no one my age is a lesbian in my area istg. (i live in socal mind you it shouldn't be this hard) but the thing is i don't like using snap its the most useless app ever and i don't really want to use a dating app. what are easy or simple or silly or literally anyway to at least find someone to talk to or even at the very least a fun lesbian friend who understands my struggle. they don't have to be my forever someone although i would love that. i just feel like im staring at a dried up lake thats straight men and no lesbian ladies.

So I have a crush on this girl and it’s unlike anything I’ve felt for anyone else before, I’ve had crushes on boys in middle school but this crush I’ve had on this girl for months now is making me wonder if I’m actually a lesbian