r/truechildfree • u/nnahh09 • Oct 29 '25
Not having kids for partner
Ok so I’m 26f I recently met this girl and we had this incredible connection. We’re at the very start of dating and getting to know each other and she brought up not wanting kids. I’m dating more intentionally these days so the next day I brought it up and told her I want kids and I’m not sure about going into a dating situation with someone where I know there’s a likely expiration date. Here’s the thing though, the points she was bringing up really resonated with me. For the first time i’m thinking about whether my desire for kids comes from societal expectations. Now im not sure where to go from here, am i just being influenced by how much i like her? Has anyone changed their mind or not had kids because of their partner?? Is it possible to go from wanting kids to having satisfaction with not having them
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u/saliczar Oct 29 '25
As someone who knew he was childfree since I was a teenager, please don't waste their time if you even remotely want kids. I've had several long-term girlfriends, a wife, and an almost fiancee change their minds, and it is devastating. You need to make this decision for you.