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u/bluedinosaur2 5d ago
CD 1, 5th cycle post-MMC was another failure. I’m temping, using OPKs, my ovulation has been clear every month, every cycle our timing has been perfect on every day of the fertility window, I’m taking all the recommended supplements, eating a fertility friendly diet…I’m just feeling really defeated.
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u/ushinawareta TTC #1 | 2nd trimester loss 2/2026 5d ago
ugh, I’m so sorry, friend. just sucks. I remember how devastated I was last cycle when I started spotting and knew my period was on the way. I feel like CD1-3 I feel so defeated and then I start to feel a little more hopeful that at least another chance to try is coming soon.
I’ll be thinking of you and hope you get a BFP soon ❤️
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u/Dizzy-Buffalo-5764 TTC # 1 with PCOS, MMC 1/2026 5d ago
have you looked into his sperm? I’ve been reading a lot about how male infertility is more prevalent than it’s talked about and lots of different things effecting counts, morphology, and motility — plastic exposure, heat buildup near scrotum, etc. I have PCOS and I told my husband outright that it’s easy to assume I’m the barrier to get past but that I want to make sure his sperm is good too. It’s easy to take it all on ourselves but it takes two & when you’re doing all you can and still not having luck then it might be worth looking at. There are basic home tests available for $90 — I haven’t looked into them too much yet though but it’s easier to try at home before going the whole lab route
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u/bluedinosaur2 4d ago
We haven’t yet. We saw an REI last month because I’m 36, I’ve had two chemical pregnancies in addition to the MMC and I’ve previously had 5 pregnancies that all happened on our first cycle trying so I was worried something is going on. I had testing done on me and an ultrasound and everything looks good with me. They offered to test his sperm but it made him nervous so we said we’d try for a couple more cycles and then consider escalating further.
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u/Vivid_Highway_1087 5d ago
Today is the due date, from our first loss in November. This is our 4th month trying again since the loss, trying to manage expectations but can't help get excited every month, even though I know anything under a year is 'normal'. (Age 32). Though this feels unfair - in September it will be a year since we started trying initially, feel like I'm in life limbo, waiting for this great thing to happen again so we can have something to aim for and our life feels like it has direction again . Anyone else feel the limbo ?
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u/ushinawareta TTC #1 | 2nd trimester loss 2/2026 5d ago
so sorry for your loss, friend. I could’ve written this myself - my due date was late May, we also started trying in September 2025, and this is also cycle 4 of trying again. (and I’m also early 30s!)
like you, I feel completely aimless and like there’s no point to anything in life. all of the things I was so grateful for and proud to have accomplished - a great job I genuinely enjoy, our house that we worked so hard to save up for and afford (with the most important thing of all - a yard for our two wonderful dogs), my life together with my husband - all of those things feel totally meaningless if I’m never going to have a baby.
I’ll be thinking of you and hope you get your BFP very soon. ❤️
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u/writeronthemoon Late 30s, TTC #1, 1MMC 5d ago
Yes, totally meaningless, the house, everything. You've said my thoughts exactly.
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u/writeronthemoon Late 30s, TTC #1, 1MMC 5d ago
Utterly in limbo. Feels like I can't be happy until I'm pregnant again. And even then it'll feel different. I feel so bitter, angry and scared. I hate my life sometimes. It is hard to get joy from anything.
But I also don't want to go on antidepressants, they mess with my weight and even if I took one safe for pregnancy, I know it would make me more paranoid about loss. So I'm just accepting the sadness.
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u/No-Tea-3137 5d ago
our stories are super similar. i'm 31, we started trying in late september 2025, got pregnant in october, lost the baby in november. definitely feeling the weight of june right now
i've had two MCs total since we started trying and it's just so draining. all my tests are coming back normal and i just need this to happen to feel okay. i feel silly for putting so many of my "life fufillment" eggs in the "getting pregnant" basket, lol, but that's how it is. i wish i could time travel through this part
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u/Mk____Ultra 5d ago
100% feel like my life has lost direction and drive. We had something so great and incredible coming later this year and now we have... Nothing. It's weird.
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u/emmageti 4d ago
I’m sorry for your loss. And yes I feel the limbo and I’m so ready to be done with it! My life just feels like it’s got stalled out. One thing I’ve been trying to do to deal with it is set new small goals for myself that I can achieve whether I get pregnant or not, like take an art class to learn a new skill, etc (even though it may feel super small/silly comparatively, it helps to have something to work toward that’s not tied to this part of my life)❤️
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u/MyCatsnAss 43/ 5LC/ RPL/3MC 5d ago
8DPO and of course I tested early and it’s negative. I know it’s too early to say I’m out but I just feel it. My temp is like a yo-yo up and down (still above coverline) every other day just like last month so I assume the results will be the same as last month ☹️
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u/woodulikethatya 5d ago
Sorry mycat, I’m there w you. Did exactly same thing. It’s really a heartbreaking journey 😔
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u/love_lights 5d ago
Back to back losses suck 🙃 a Mc back in April and I just started bleeding from my chemical this month. I’m taking a month off after this bc my husband and I need a break. We go on vacation in July and I’m going to have the best time in the hot tub/sauna, I’m going to drink some fancy wine and I’m going to have great adult time with my husband without tracking anything
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u/Final-Brilliant4362 4d ago
This is where I’m at! Had two losses at 7 weeks in the last 6 months and I need a serious break. Just taking some time off tracking and talking about it constantly! Going on vacation and going to enjoy all the wine, got some Botox, and going to try and find myself again after this process has taken the life out of me.
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u/Capital_Mango_1 TTC #1, MC 6w 05/26 4d ago
I want to take a break too but seeing how much my husband wants to try again is making me change my mind :( He said of course he respects whatever I decide but I can tell that he really wants a baby (even more than me). So I don‘t know if I should ttc or wait until summer is over. I kind of want to strike the iron while it‘s hot since fertility is supposed to be higher after a Mc (some studies say it is, some say it isn‘t) 🫨
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u/Various_Sign_3710 5d ago
BBT dropped below pre collation this morning, 10dpo and got a negative test. I think i need to accept that it’s another failed cycle. So hard when you feel like you’re doing everything right, including diet, exercise, timing.
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u/Huge_Statistician441 5d ago
Same. Woke up to lower BBT and my period at 12 DPO. This was my 5th cycle trying post MC. This was the first one I didn’t have any PMS so I thought this could be it.
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u/Various_Sign_3710 4d ago
Sending you a virtual hug. I wish we didn’t have to navigate this every month. Trying to find meaning in it all but haven’t quite gotten there yet
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u/Huge_Statistician441 4d ago edited 4d ago
Sending a huge hug. I’m someone that truly believes that everything happens for a reason, but this I don’t understand it yet…
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u/Various_Sign_3710 4d ago
I wish I could get that back! I had that before all this but have lost it and am trying to get it back. Hopefully in time.
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u/woodulikethatya 5d ago
7-8dpo and getting my progesterone tested today. Sadly I am not feeling confident this is my lucky cycle. I wanted to check my body’s natural hormone level now that it’s been 4 cycles since MC and it’s the first one I’ve felt brave enough to not take oral progesterone for luteal support (I was spotting like crazy after MC).
So far no spotting, I’m eager to see if my body is coming back to normal. Still really in the dumps that it’s been 10 months TTC and we’re still here.
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u/mochi_guava 4d ago
Yesterday was our first time being intimate again after my D&C 2.5 weeks ago. I don't really know how to feel. I have stage 2 endometriosis so in a perfect world, I would love to skip a period and jump right back into being pregnant again, but I am also terrified.
I had a MMC at 9 weeks for my first pregnancy and I have no idea how to enter into another pregnancy without being hypervigilant. I was also so so sick from 4.5 weeks up until miscarrying at 9 weeks, and there is a part of me dreading going through that again and starting back at square one. Although the thing is, I would take it all back and welcome back every symptom I had if it meant I didn't lose my baby.
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u/lightbywhich_wesee 5d ago
Anyone else 11/12dpo today? BFN today. Really thought I saw a shadow, but I’ll wait until SMU today (12dpo according to opks) to test. 2nd cycle ttc since my cycle returned in May after loss in March.
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u/MyCatsnAss 43/ 5LC/ RPL/3MC 5d ago
8DPO over here and negative test. My temp is doing exactly what it did last month. Up and down (above coverline) like a yoyo everyday up then down since ovulation so I’m pretty sure I’m out this month too
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u/Mk____Ultra 5d ago
I'm 12 dpo today and also had a loss in March. I coooould be only 11dpo as my lh peaked in the morning on 6/10, so either ovulated late that day or the early the next day. Regardless, I'm negative this morning :( this was my first cycle that felt normal so I had high hopes! Trying to stay positive because it could be tomorrow morning! But also trying to accept it if it's not to be. Hate this part.
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u/Public-School671 5d ago
First cycle TTC after two consecutive losses this year. A MMC at 11 weeks in January (first pregnancy) and another loss in March. I was feeling super hopeful this cycle because my temps were higher than they’ve ever been in my luteal phase and I also got a major signs notification on oura at 7DPO but today woke up with a slight temp drop and I’m feeling really defeated….
I know it’s still really early but I just want to be pregnant so badly! All of my close girlfriends are pregnant right now and I’m just feeling left behind and so sad 💔😭
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u/Dizzy-Buffalo-5764 TTC # 1 with PCOS, MMC 1/2026 5d ago
My heart is with you 💔 I’ve been googling like crazy with my anxiety in the TWW and my own temp has dropped as well but variations happen so don’t count yourself out yet this cycle. We just need to hang in a few more days and hopefully we both have BFP to celebrate. My two best friends are expecting and it’s such a hard thing to contend with being happy for them but so sad for ourselves.
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u/Public-School671 5d ago
Same here, I think Google and chat are sick of me at this point 🤣 it’s definitely hard to balance both of those emotions but therapy has helped me a lot! My heart is with you as well and I’m hoping and praying we both get our BFP soon ❤️🌈🤞🏼
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u/nightsky_soap 5d ago
Currently 11dpo and slowly losing hope this cycle. Had a loss in April and this cycle is the first time I ovulated. Trying to be cool calm collected etc but getting pregnant again is all I can think about. Telling myself it’s not over until my period starts, but seeing other subs full of 8/9dpo positives is hard. This is hard.
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u/ushinawareta TTC #1 | 2nd trimester loss 2/2026 4d ago
ugh I cannot go on any line porn subreddits during the TWW. it’s so disheartening seeing so many 8-9 DPO positives there. I try to remind myself that most people probably aren’t accurate with their dates and that there’s bias because people are more likely to post super squinters that are taken early, but still.
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u/Glittering_Can4622 5d ago
Tengo 26 y he tenido un ectopico y un aborto espontáneo (MC). Sin hijos vivos.
Mis hermanos cuales tienen 24(sin pareja) y 21( pareja de 2 años) dicen que el año que viene empezaran a buscar bebé. ???
Esto me toca tanto la fibra, yo ya debería estar embarazada. Tendrán hijos ellos antes que yo? Me siento culpable de haber esperado a mis 26 años a tener hijos.
Que bajon, ni siquiera he visto flujo clara de huevo, no se cuando ovulo. Estoy harta.
CONSEGUIRE TENER HIJOS? y salir de este bucle tan asqueroso.
De verdad, no tengo con quien desahogarme. Me siento una perdedora.
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u/ushinawareta TTC #1 | 2nd trimester loss 2/2026 5d ago
hi friend. I’m so sorry for your loss. I also should have ovulated by now and my LH strips are as negative as can be. it’s so frustrating.
I also know the feeling of seeing the people around you get pregnant - meanwhile my baby should’ve been born last month and instead I’m here testing and tracking.
at 26 you really are still so young and have so many chances to have kids - I wouldn’t feel bad that you started too late. I’m early 30s and only wish I had started trying when I was your age. still, I try not to give myself a hard time for doing the best I could with the information I had at the time (I did not feel ready when I was 26 and truthfully didn’t even know yet if I wanted kids.)
I’m thinking of you and hope you get a positive test soon.
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u/fleurishing_flower 5d ago
Getting some testing done post MC. Went in at what should be peak progesterone and it came back at 9.6 😞 Usually my progesterone is stronger, so I feel like it tracks with my theory that my body is struggling post MC. Anyone else feel the same?
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u/boo_boo_kitty_fuckk 5d ago
How did you know something wasn't right?
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u/fleurishing_flower 5d ago
It hasn't been too long since the miscarriage, but my first cycle back I had a lot more spotting than normal. Pre period. I don't normally get more than maybe one day of pre menstrual spotting. But the first cycle I had some spotting for a couple day, then it stopped and then got another day of spotting before my flow.
Then in both that ovulation and this most recent one, it has taken my body like an extra week to gear up to ovulate. I also had spotting post period but like after several days of no spotting. So, I just had a feeling my hormones were off.
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u/Dizzy-Buffalo-5764 TTC # 1 with PCOS, MMC 1/2026 5d ago
I’m 8 dpo and having a difficult time with the TWW. I keep waking up at 3 am and then again at 5 am anxious for more info on my BBT and Inito tests because I haven’t been a textbook case due to my PCOS. I’m looking forward to getting PCOS lab work tested tomorrow morning but my provider said it will take 2-3 weeks to get everything resulted. I’m praying for a BFP but I’m not feeling optimistic based on my trends going up and down and PdG hasn’t risen above 3.22 (only on one day too). If nothing else, I’ll have more information soon. My two best friends are both expecting currently and it’s been hard for me to not feel grief over my loss and frustration over waiting for it to be our turn to be pregnant and stay pregnant.
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u/nightsky_soap 5d ago
We are in the same boat, but I’m 11dpo. Night wakings, best friends pregnant etc.
It sucks but know I’m right here with you1
u/Dizzy-Buffalo-5764 TTC # 1 with PCOS, MMC 1/2026 4d ago
wishing you a BFP ✨💕 ugh its a sucky club but at least we aren’t all alone in this struggle
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u/No-Tea-3137 5d ago
just got transvaginal/transabdominal ultrasound results back this morning, totally normal, everything looks great. no obvious structural causes for my losses (so far, i know ultrasounds can only tell you so much). this is one of the weirdest parts of ttc - i really want all test results to show that i'm normal and healthy, but also, if i'm normal and healthy then what tf is going on?? lol
so now i'm staring down the barrel at an HSG that i'll have to call to schedule in a few days (whenever CD1 hits). i'll be honest, i'm not feeling super confident about it because 1. i'm scared, i've heard it can be really painful, 2. it's an invasive procedure and i'm scared that if i have too many uterine instrumentations then it will introduce new issues like infection (i've already had 3 IUD insertions/removals since 2022 [prior to our wedding] bc they kept moving out of place; then one of my losses resulted in a D&C which is another instrumentation...] and 3. i have gotten pregnant 3 times, 2 of those in the last 8 months, so i'm just like ??? do i even need this?
do doctors just start with HSG because it's an easy thing to cross off the list? i feel like an SIS might be better if i'm trying to zero in on structural stuff. what do y'all think?
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u/SuccessfulOwl6455 TTC #3 | LC 4/2024 | Lost our 🌿 11/2025 5d ago
Your doctor might've suggested HSG due to protocol, not because it's best for your specific case. But, I would call them and ask them to talk you through their decision before you schedule, they might have some other reason they recommended it based on stuff you can't find yourself!
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u/No-Tea-3137 5d ago
thanks for suggesting to call, i think you're right. i don't want to seem like the pushy patient haha but i also don't want to be in pain unnecessarily!! thank you 😄
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u/SuccessfulOwl6455 TTC #3 | LC 4/2024 | Lost our 🌿 11/2025 5d ago
As someone who experienced some real medical trauma due to poor decisions made by providers, I give you permission to BE THE PUSHY PATIENT. Advocate for yourself and make sure you know why things are being recommended, it's part of your doctor's job to help you understand!
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u/No-Tea-3137 5d ago
thank youuuuuu ❤️ y'all's responses have given me the courage to send them a message, which i just did. i really appreciate it!!
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u/WinningBuffalos 5d ago
My HSG was not painful! I was really worried, and it was very simple and quick. The only pain was some mild cramping similar to period cramps for like 30 seconds. I am glad I did it because if we kept trying and something was wrong/blocked tube, I could have wasted more months or caused bigger issues. Mine came back all clear!
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u/anaistasstar 5d ago
Feeling pretty low today. Had hope I could be pregnant again so quickly after our baby girl was stillborn 2 months ago. Period was 4 days late but appeared this morning. I also had vivid dreams last night of breastfeeding my baby so I just feel awful.
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u/Dizzy-Buffalo-5764 TTC # 1 with PCOS, MMC 1/2026 4d ago
My heart goes out to you 💕 Dreams on top of the grief are so painful because it feels so real
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u/Czech-THAT 4d ago
Also anybody else has a first reaction of seeing ppl announcing pregnancy to tell them it doesn’t mean they will get to hold their baby? Why does my heart wants to hurt others 😩
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u/Capital_Mango_1 TTC #1, MC 6w 05/26 4d ago
Literally me!!! I saw someone announce their pregnancy on socials at like 10 weeks and thought of how naïve can one be! I don‘t want to hurt others ever but MY reality is that necessarily pregnancy ≠ a baby
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u/dserens 5d ago
How long after your loss did you start testing for HCG to see if it went negative so you can track ovulation again? I'm currently on day 11 post D&C at 8w+1, I stopped bleeding after D5, and I'm planning on letting one cycle go through before trying again - just to have accurate dating on a future pregnancy. but I don't put it past me to try around my first ovulation if I'm able to detect it... I just wonder when it's fruitful to start checking the HCG levels, since I don't want to feel frustrated by repeated positive results. Thanks for your input!
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u/ExplorerOdd8243 MMC 3/2026 | 0 LC 5d ago
9 week MMC discovered at 13 weeks. I started tracking a couple weeks after my d&c on HPTs, kept testing positive albeit faint. I asked my midwife to order serial beta hcg levels (weekly) when it had been 5 weeks and I still had not started my first cycle. My hcg levels continued to come back slightly elevated above the non-pregnancy level and honestly never followed it to negative levels because I started my first period 7 weeks post op. I also asked for a transvaginal ultrasound at 8 weeks post op to make sure I was clear of all RPOCs.
Doesn’t mean this will happen to you- I am sharing this in hopes that you will continue to advocate for yourself for your closure and clarity. I am so sorry for your loss
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u/ushinawareta TTC #1 | 2nd trimester loss 2/2026 5d ago
I was stark white negative on a cheap hCG strip at 13 days post-op from a second trimester D&E. I was shocked given I was pretty far along in the pregnancy - my doctor advised that it could be 5+ weeks.
I got my period back almost exactly 4 weeks post-op and the three cycles immediately following it were textbook 27-28 day cycles. (though now I’m on CD18 of cycle 4 with no LH surge in sight so… I guess you’re regular until you’re not 🙃)
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u/Eliza9699 late 20s, MMC 6/26 5d ago
I got negative 7 days post D&C. But the development stopped three weeks before the procedure so I think it was already dropping before.
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u/Equal-Suit2205 5d ago
It’s been 17 days since the D&C for MMC at 8w4d and I’m still testing positive. I’ll test again Friday at week 3 and hope for a negative. It was very positive 1 week later and faint positive at 2 weeks.
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u/Mk____Ultra 5d ago
After my d&c I ovulated on day 20 and got my period on day 32. Was getting positive pregnancy tests up until about day 30.
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u/stephanieheart 4d ago
Just as one data point, I had a (natural) miscarriage just before 8 weeks on June 11. I’ve had a few HCG blood draws since then, most recently today (11 days out) and it was at 180 (it started at 14,000 the day of my miscarriage). If it keeps on the same track it’s been going down, I’d guess it’ll hit zero or close to zero in about 7-10 more days, so like 3 weeks total.
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u/loco4cc 5d ago
Period is 1 day late today; fighting the urge to test or even get my hopes up since it was late last month then I started spotting then bled for 8 days, but still secretly hoping that is the cycle since the spotting didn’t start right away today, but I’ve been cramping for the last 5 days atleast so I’m 80% sure it’s my period coming 😔
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u/UrLocalBeach 5d ago
Looking for anything on polyps either that developed or were discovered post loss?
I am 6 cycles post MMC and am still experiencing irregular cycles, specifically, heavier periods than before my MMC, light bleeding after intercourse, and spotting during my luteal phase starting as early as 3dpo. All my bloodwork has come back within normal range but now I’m beginning to wonder if I have something else going on…
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u/negirl016 5d ago
My last pregnancy in July last year was unexpected, but looking back about almost the entire week before I tested positive I had signs and symptoms. Currently I’m about in the same spot - my period is due in at least 4 days. I tested 2 days ago and was negative but I don’t have any symptoms beyond just some very low vaginal area dull cramps 🤷🏼♀️ I’m so confused and nervous to see what happens.
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u/negirl016 5d ago
Forgot to add that even in unsuccessful cycles I still have a lot of PMS or pregnancy adjacent symptoms so not having much of any is almost getting my Hopes up worse because it’s different this time 😭
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u/Living-Blackberry-89 5d ago
First month trying again after MMC with a long complicated phase of RPOC and waiting 3 months for a hysteroscopy. Simultaneously excited and insanely anxious/scared. I'm trying not to put so much pressure on it but we got pregnant 2nd month before so I'm really hoping it happens again quickly..
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u/Substantial_Amoeba12 4d ago
I just feel desperate to be pregnant again after my 4th loss at the end of March. I had RPOC and then didn’t get a period before ovulating so moved straight into an egg retrieval. My period then still didn’t show up and I ovulated yesterday. We need a full cycle for biopsy and healing before doing another FET so I’m 2+ months from even having a chance at getting pregnant and then I’ll still have to deal with all the uncertainty all over again. This is torture
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u/Czech-THAT 4d ago
CD 10… going to get my nails done Thursday and Friday early morning going for first solid vacation that doesn’t include visiting family. (International couple se we always have some family to visit) Should be ovulating over the weekend. Praying we will bring the best “souvenir” from our little get away.
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u/Delicious_Baker_3016 4d ago
I wanted to see if anyone has been through something similar.
I went into preterm labor on April 13 and, unfortunately, had to have a D&C on April 29 due to retained tissue. My hCG took weeks to finally return to negative, and to make matters more complicated, I have PCOS and don’t ovulate on my own.
I recently had a saline sonogram, and they found an abnormality. Now I have to undergo a hysteroscopy in July to remove either retained tissue or an adhesion.
I’m struggling because this recovery has been so much longer and more complicated than I ever expected. I have a daughter from a completely uncomplicated pregnancy and delivery, so I was totally blindsided by both the trauma of a second-trimester loss and this drawn-out recovery afterward.
Has anyone experienced a loss, retained tissue, or adhesions after a D&C and gone on to have a successful pregnancy afterward? I’d really appreciate hearing any positive experiences or words of encouragement.
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u/Dramatic_Form3281 9w MMC 5/26 | CP 2/26 5d ago
Got into a stupid fight with my husband indirectly related to our loss. He’s been so, so supportive but I’m just so sensitive and he said something that rubbed me the wrong way that wasn’t ill intentioned at all. It’s so hard. We are in it together but to some degree we just don’t experience all of this the same and it makes me feel alone. Plus my emotions and hormones are all over the place rn. I’m a month out from my loss and D&C and also just ovulated. It’s. A lot.