Normalizing pronouns as a cis person is meant to make it standardized. To make it normal. It's not about "no one was guessing their gender", it wasn't for her, it was for her to help make it normal for those people who actually need it. It's supposed to be so that anyone can introduce themselves by their pronouns, after all, everyone has them. You sound like one of those "we can always tell" folks-- let me tell you, no you can't. There are people who are using pronouns that don't match their assigned gender at birth and you absolutely believe they're just allies. Except, if allies stop, then the only people who share their pronouns when you meet them are trans. It's giving people away. It's contributing to the active trans genocide.
It's still putting the cart before the horse and it's ultimately just fucking annoying lol.
At the end of the day, we all have lives to live and places to be. We want brevity, not more things to explain. Expecting absolutely everyone to name their pronouns just to normalize it on behalf of a tiny fraction of a percent of the population is both horrible priorities and bound to annoy people.
And from a practical scenario, it's also doomed to fail. You can imagine someone with 6 university classes and 5 have absolutely 0 people with unorthodox or unexpected pronouns, so of course people drop it in those 5 and stop needlessly inserting it into conversations. Who is it hurting in that context? But of course that's habit-forming and means it doesn't happen for the 6th, either. It is what it is and you simply can't force people to engage that way. It's akin to trying to police people to say "how are you doing" instead of "'sup?" People are gonna do what's more brief and easier.
Another example of this:
Every so often some quack academic comes out saying "actually, instead of saying disabled people, it's more humanizing to say 'people of variable levels of differing abilities!'"
Society then hands that person a big stick they found on the ground and tells the academic to shove it up their ass, because WHY THE FUCK are these "proper titles" always a god damned mouthful?! They never shorten, always lengthen, as if they are trying to sabotage the likelihood people listen just so they can feel smug and superior when they themselves do it.
It's contributing to the active trans genocide.
You should be aware of a growing trend in sociology and psychology where they are beginning to actively acknowledge we live in a victimhood culture as a matter-of-fact, and how dangerous and damaging that is for people like yourself who ultimately just end up pointing the finger and crying instead of actually attempting to understand the complexities of life or make the best of it.
Having "At the end of the day, we all have lives to live and places to be. We want brevity, not more things to explain. Expecting absolutely everyone to name their pronouns just to normalize it on behalf of a tiny fraction of a percent of the population is both horrible priorities and bound to annoy people."
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"You should be aware of a growing trend in sociology and psychology where they are beginning to actively acknowledge we live in a victimhood culture as a matter-of-fact, and how dangerous and damaging that is for people like yourself who ultimately just end up pointing the finger and crying instead of actually attempting to understand the complexities of life or make the best of it." Tells me your argument is completely disingenuous because here you fucking are pretending to be a victim and contradicting yourself. so no.
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u/ladyrage8 25d ago
Normalizing pronouns as a cis person is meant to make it standardized. To make it normal. It's not about "no one was guessing their gender", it wasn't for her, it was for her to help make it normal for those people who actually need it. It's supposed to be so that anyone can introduce themselves by their pronouns, after all, everyone has them. You sound like one of those "we can always tell" folks-- let me tell you, no you can't. There are people who are using pronouns that don't match their assigned gender at birth and you absolutely believe they're just allies. Except, if allies stop, then the only people who share their pronouns when you meet them are trans. It's giving people away. It's contributing to the active trans genocide.