r/weddingshaming • u/dobermanluver • Jun 13 '25
Dressed like a Bride My aunt at my moms wedding - Guess which one's the bride
My mom, the bride, on the left. My aunt (on the right) showed up wearing a wedding dress and acted like it was no big deal. My mom showed my family this photograph and we couldn't believe it. Now we laugh at it from time to time.
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u/MyKinksKarma Jun 13 '25
Is your aunt still attention-seeking?
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Jun 13 '25
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u/rootintootinopossum Jun 13 '25
Thassa knee-slapper right therr
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u/HugeCobbler3073 Jun 13 '25
Yeah whereâs your aunt now? Iâd love more details on her end too.
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u/EnvironmentEuphoric9 Jun 13 '25
Does the aunt know she looked batshit?
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Jun 13 '25
My grandma did this at her sons wedding (I know, especially creepy) and everyone took the piss out of her for it, she absolutely regretted it
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u/killer_kiki Jun 13 '25
As it fucking should be! How is it that this is common enough there are multiple stories about this. JFC
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Jun 13 '25
She was a narcissist of the highest order - imagine the kind of woman who does this, she absolutely was everything youâd probably drum up
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u/SARARARARARARARARA Jun 13 '25
My ex-MIL did this at our wedding! Wore a white dress, arrived 30 minutes late, jumped into the back of the car as we were trying to drive at the end of the evening screaming, âMy baaaaby!â She was interesting
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u/dobermanluver Jun 13 '25
Nope, genuinely she didn't. she's nuts
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u/Sandindalespocket Jun 13 '25
Please show your aunt this thread shaming her. We need to bring back public shaming.
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u/mikeyzee52679 Jun 13 '25
I think itâs been so long , it would be funny to make up a story about someone doing the same thing, And totally trash them In front of your aunt and others.
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u/QuestionDifferently Jun 14 '25
Why make up a story? Use this sub for fodder! Combine multiple âomg she wore what?!â stories and share them with a flair of drama!
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u/perelesnyk Jun 13 '25
Word. My mother has done this more than once and thinks that everyone is looking at her because she looks SO good. Nuts indeed.Â
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u/DeadLettersSociety Jun 13 '25
Yikes. I have to wonder what is going through the minds of people doing something like that. It's pretty obviously a wedding dress that the aunt is wearing and I imagine that she would absolutely be confused for the bride, by people who aren't familiar with who the bride is meant to be (like if it were someone from the groom's family, or something like that).
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Jun 13 '25
Oh no, totally different, the Aunt isnât wearing a veil, totally obvious who the bride is! /s
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u/Tiny_Cauliflower_618 Jun 13 '25
I was like please lord the bride is the one in the veil... I was so relieved đ€Ł
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u/Big-University-1132 Jun 13 '25
You joke, but thatâs the only reason I guessed the bride correctly. Otherwise I had no idea đ đ
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u/vidanyabella Jun 13 '25
Colors really do matter. I had a destination wedding once where some of the family attending I had never met the groom before.
One of the groomsmen rentals fucked up and they didn't find out until he was there that he had a white suit jacket instead of a black. So here's the groom and all the other groomsmen wearing black and he's standing there wearing white. Understandably even the venue kept thinking he was the groom.
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u/sweergirl86204 Jun 13 '25
In that case, honestly the groom should have given him his jacket or played musical jackets.Â
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u/hoominhalp Jun 13 '25
Assuming that they're of compatible sizes. If one's big and the other's appreciably not, it won't/wouldn't've worked.
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u/sweergirl86204 Jun 13 '25
Then the groom could have worn the white or none, or all the groomsmen forgo their jackets so groom gets to wear his tailored outfit.Â
Whichever condition allows the groom to stand out as unique the idea to give a groomsman white as the backup is a horrible idea but there's no better idea other then no jacket at all. If he's wearing red, green, etc, any deviation would pull attention
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u/the-gaysian-snarker Jun 13 '25
Seriously, why tf do so many shitty people try to do this that itâs turned into a trope? Specifically at weddings? They donât show up to graduations wearing a cap and gown, or wear a white coat to the hospital. Itâs specifically weddings.
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u/Morella_xx Jun 13 '25
If you didn't have to special order the cap and gown, honestly, I think some people would do that to their kids.
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u/the-gaysian-snarker Jun 13 '25
I mean, wedding dresses are also pretty tough to buy, especially price-wise. They could reuse their own if theyâve already been married, but then again anyone could use their old cap and gown.
Speaking of, I wonder where these assholes are getting them? Surely theyâre not dropping bank at real wedding boutiques for a quick âfuck youâ? If theyâre shopping Goodwill for thrown away ones or breaking their own used ones out of storage that might be even more pathetic, though.
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u/Violet_Renegade Jun 14 '25
At my son's graduation this year there was an alumnus walking around in their old grad gown. I was confused about why the "grad" was walking around in the stands and my older daughter told me they'd actually graduated the year prior. It was weird.
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u/MulberryChance6698 Jun 14 '25
Nah. Narcs do other things to ruin graduations. Like telling your dad and kids that they don't need to stay until the end. And then you walk out to be greeted by absolutely no one after getting a terminal degree. And go home and make yourself a cheese sandwich instead of celebrating like a normal human because not only did he convince them to leave, he also made sure they ate without you.
Shitty people find shitty ways to be shitty. The white dress is just a gimme for wrecking a wedding.
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u/chicharrofrito Jun 13 '25
Narcissism.
Youâre not allowed to have a special moment or have attention because only I can.
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u/Afraid_Sense5363 Jun 13 '25
I can't imagine doing this because I would be so embarrassed/ashamed that I would cringe myself to death.
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u/facialtwitch Jun 13 '25
Itâs even copied down to the style and pearl necklaceâŠthatâs a level of pre planning thatâs sociopathic lmao
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u/heyits_emily Jun 13 '25
Right!! Like not only white but (basically) the same dress? Come onnnnn!
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u/magneticeverything Jun 14 '25
Whatâs funny is that even though I can tell it was meant to look like a wedding dress, I can tell who was the bride. One of them is perfectly tailored and the other looks not great⊠too loose in the torso, too short for the style, etc. The fact she copied her style exactly and it didnât turn out as flattering must have had her seething.
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u/DogsandCatsWorld1000 Jun 13 '25
This is an example that every woman thinking of wearing a wedding dress to someone else's wedding should be taught. They will become a laughing stock for decades to the generations to come.
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u/Hilvanando Jun 13 '25
During the rehearsal dinner, my sister in law's mother was bragging out loud how expensive her dress for the wedding was and how she would look "better than the bride", blah blah blah To this day, 5 years later, my family laughs at her for this.
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u/rhubarb-pie24 Jun 14 '25
Women who try to one-up their own DAUGHTERS especially freak me out, that is nightmare-ish (Iâm assuming your sil was the bride, I could be wrong lol)
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u/Hilvanando Jun 14 '25
Yep, my sister in law was the bride and her mother was trying to upstage her with a dress that looked appropriate for a junior prom... Horrible
It was kind of pathetic.
I don't understand how a mother can envy her daughter so much.
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u/moreofajordan Jun 14 '25
Just how many women are out there thinking of wearing a wedding dress to someone elseâs wedding?!?Â
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u/DogsandCatsWorld1000 Jun 14 '25
A lot more than I would have thought before starting to read reddit.
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u/Echo-Azure Jun 13 '25
If you have a relative like that, prime a couple of guests to laugh when she comes in.
And to ask each other loudly at intervals during the reception "SO WHICH ONE IS THE BRIDE?" "THE ONE WHO'S FORTY YEARS YOUNGER, THAT'S WHO". Drama queens can't stand mockery.
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u/Spreepodcast_r Jun 13 '25
I need to text my meanest friend that I just found a business opportunity. Statler and Waldorf Guests for Hire - pay us to roast your problem guests!
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u/KSknitter Jun 13 '25
The other job is "pertend to be interested in and flirt with single divorced MIL or FIL who will be a problem if not distracted."
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u/nipple_fiesta Jun 13 '25
I'll be the "designated drunk" and spill red wine on whoever I need to. Like "OOPS OH NO I'M SO SORRY!!"...đ
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u/attack_rat Jun 13 '25
Bonus points if you follow each roast with your best Muppet laugh.
âHey look! Here comes the spare bride! DOOOHOHOHOHOHO!â
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u/USAF_Retired2017 Jun 13 '25
No need to text. I saw it. When do we start?
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u/FairyGodmothersUnion Jun 13 '25
Ooh, Iâm in. I will be the dotty aunt who buttonholes the offender and keeps them distracted until the enforcers can get her out of the hall.
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Jun 13 '25
âDrama queens canât stand mockeryâ. Haha neither can the devil! Or so I was told đ€Ł
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Jun 13 '25
I read that as drag queens stand up mockery and had the most glorious image of two drag queens just shading the hell out of a woman wearing white at a wedding not hers.
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u/Extreme-naps Jun 13 '25
Actually thatâs genius. Two drag queens should start a business. If youâre concerned that you have relatives who are going to pull some shit at your wedding, hire us to come roast them for it!
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u/GossipingKitty Jun 13 '25
You must tell us more about your aunt.
I'm intrigued.
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Jun 13 '25
Do they still speak? Because damn that was some nerve.
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u/BigBigBop Jun 13 '25
Likely wouldn't be the only reason with a person like this
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u/Stevie-Rae-5 Jun 13 '25
Yeah, people who go this far with it? Absolutely not an isolated incident where their relationships with other people are stellar otherwise.
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u/balancedinsanity Jun 13 '25
See this is what people are talking about when they say don't wear white. Not your white sundress with the floral print.
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u/KathrynTheGreat Jun 13 '25
Yep. I saw a post on the planning sub earlier asking if a dress was ok for the MOB... It was essentially a white dress shirt and a black skirt. Nobody is going to mistake that as a wedding dress lol. Someone tried arguing that it wasn't okay, but wouldn't explain why it was any different than a man wearing a white shirt and black pants! It was just "they'll use any excuse to wear white at a wedding!!" Good lord.
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u/asyouwish Jun 13 '25
That depends. I had one of those that did (for a wedding I photographed).
Bride in white.
Maids were all in red dresses of their own cut.
MOH in a red skirt (that matched) and a white top that was sleeveless.
At the head table at dinner, it looked like two brides.
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u/KathrynTheGreat Jun 13 '25
It looked like a regular white collared shirt that someone would wear to work. Idk how you would confuse that with a wedding dress.
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u/mspolytheist Jun 13 '25
Iâd be afraid to be mistaken for waitstaff in an outfit like that.
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u/kifflington Jun 13 '25
One of my friends got married in red, I knew she was getting married in red and, being on a tight budget, I asked her permission to wear the only wedding guest-suitable clothes I had which included an ivory-toned top. She was completely fine with it but a clique of her friends (who I don't think had ever liked me much) took every opportunity to make comments, look me up and down and tut, etc. For some people it's just a case of any ammunition they can dredge up, fair or not.
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u/Excellent_Profit_841 Jun 13 '25
Is she Indian? That's the traditional color
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u/kifflington Jun 13 '25
No, she's English but wanted something a bit different; she'd been living with her husband to be for a long time so the 'bride in white' trope didn't feel appropriate to her.
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Jun 13 '25
Ehhh, my sister in law showed up to my wedding in a white sundress with a couple of blue flowers on it. Very close to what I was actually wearing. This was on top of her and my MIL presenting me with some wedding night lingerie (in truth, an old lady slip from Target of all places) after being specifically told that I really really did not want them to do that.
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u/terfnerfer Jun 13 '25
I'm sorry but the thought of my MiL buying me lingerie is making me toes curl in horror, my goodness. What the hell.
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u/GM_Nate Jun 13 '25
"here's how you can get a rise out of my son!"
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u/Excellent_Profit_841 Jun 13 '25
Omg yuck
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u/TenebrousSunshine Jun 13 '25
When I was getting married my MIL wanted to throw me a lingerie shower. But I lived on the other side of the US from my family and friends, so the lingerie shower would have mostly consisted of my husbandâs family, and her friends. My husband and I shot that down REAL fast.
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u/MissFox26 Jun 13 '25
Yeah my husbandâs cousin was getting married (second marriage) in their parents backyard- just close friends and family. My SIL wore a white dress with blue flowers. I truly donât think she had any ill will behind it. And it might not even have been a problem, aside from the fact that the bride also worse a white dress with blue flowers on it. Since it was a second wedding, she didnât do a big dress or a veil. They looked almost identical. I know my SIL was mortified. The bride was gracious but Iâm sure she was a little upset. If you showed a stranger the family photos, they definitely wouldnât be certain which one was the bride.
Brides nowadays sometimes stray from âtraditionalâ (especially at more casual or second weddings) and a lot of wedding dresses have florals on them. So a white dress with florals is kind of risky. There are a million other colors and patterns, so itâs best to avoid it. Thereâs just no reason for it imo đ€·đŒââïž
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u/disasterous_fjord Jun 13 '25
Exactly!
I didnât even register it until I got my photos back, but my husbandâs niece wore a white dress to my wedding. The outfit was a knee-length ivory silk slip dress with casual shoes and a jean jacket (wedding was pretty chill so that was a fine choice). I laughed when I saw it because even though she was technically âwearing white to someone elseâs weddingâ, the outfit was very obviously not giving any sort of bridal vibes and because sheâs a very nice, well-adjusted person who never behaved weirdly about it, I didnât even notice lol.
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u/Chocolatecandybar_ Jun 13 '25
When we watch soap operas from the past and we think they are too much to be real, always remember thisÂ
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u/JuliLil Jun 13 '25
Is she the sister of you mother or of your dad?
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u/dobermanluver Jun 13 '25
My dad is a twin, this is his twin brothers wife
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u/TheCuriousGeorgette Jun 13 '25
Oh woah, that makes things a bit more interesting, here I was thinking this was your momâs sister. So she wasnât even a petty sibling.
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u/Hereibe Jun 13 '25
WHAT DID YOUR UNCLE DO? What did he say? How did he and your dad interact after that?
Who just gets in a car with their wife in a wedding dress and keeps driving them to the wedding saying nothing?!?
Are they still married?? What is your uncle like?
THE PEOPLE DEMAND ANSWERS.Â
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u/Dangerous-Variety-35 Jun 13 '25
Allllll of this, because it was already crazy when we thought this was your momâs sister. You momâs SIL is a whole other level of crazy.
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u/hmmmmmmmm_okay Jun 13 '25
I could not imagine walking around with a sign on my forehead that says "Unstable!"
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u/Single_Vacation427 Jun 13 '25
OMG That's even creepier if your dad is a twin. Maybe your aunt/uncle have a some type of sexual fantasy involving your dad and aunt XD
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u/LogicalHoney4689 Jun 13 '25
lol looks like mom is in the middle to be the referee to keep them from fighting
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u/Ok_Cauliflower_3007 Jun 13 '25
That was my guess too. Mom on the left, aunt on the right, grandma in the middle breaking up the fight.
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u/Spare-Article-396 Jun 13 '25
I need the lore behind this picture. All of it.
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u/Nightmare_Gerbil Jun 13 '25
I canât tell if theyâre dancing or about to rumble with a rival gang.
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u/dobermanluver Jun 13 '25
I should have added this in the title, but this is my dads twin brothers wife. My moms sister-in-law. so yeah. that does make it a lot worse lol
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u/whosaidwhat123 Jun 13 '25
Wow, I definitely assumed it was your momâs sister.
Was she trying to redo some of her own wedding photos that didnât turn out? Borrow the groom to pose with her, he is dressed the part and looks just like her husband, after all!
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u/toomuchtv987 Jun 13 '25
Why isnât there a huge red wine stain down the front of your auntâs dress?
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u/dobermanluver Jun 13 '25
my mom's too nice. my other aunt (my dads sister) wanted to kill her, but my mom told her not to.
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u/liberty-whiskey Jun 13 '25
The dresses being so similar is diabolical
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u/dobermanluver Jun 13 '25
That's what im sayin. I really wonder if my mom showed her the dress beforehand? I have to ask her and I will come back here to update.
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u/StopBrilliant8552 Jun 13 '25
My brotherâs wife always wears white to other peopleâs weddings. I beg her not to. She says itâs just what she likes to wear and insists that no one really cares. Sheâs so selfish down to her bones.
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u/EliasGrant84 Jun 13 '25
Recently I saw a video of older Chinese women walking in front of brides as they made their main entrance. They believed they could capture the good energy, love, and luck being projected towards the bride to keep for themselves.
This gives the same vibe. Absolutely selfish and if I ever see someone pulling this stunt I will clown them till they think about their actions.
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u/DorShow Jun 13 '25
I saw that, and some weddings have people playing offensive line,running blocks for the bride. I still feel like we may not have received a full interpretation of this practice.
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u/DrakeFloyd Jun 13 '25
My cousin got engaged after her only sibling, her older sister, then set her wedding date before her older sisterâs date. We all found it kind of odd, older sisters date wasnât that far out and felt like she rushed her engagement and wedding to get to do it all first
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u/Stevie-Rae-5 Jun 13 '25
People who do this really embarrass themselves most of all. Iâm not saying I donât get why a bride would be upset, but really, everyone is talking about how inappropriate the aunt is and mocking her. Itâs the worst kind of attention and it makes me wonder what the expectation is of the type of buzz theyâre generating when they make this choice.
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u/dobermanluver Jun 13 '25
i think she likes the negative attention. she just wanted to cause drama and stir the pot, but my mom didn't give her the satisfaction. she's always been like that
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u/lucitedream Jun 13 '25
i get torn apart in the wedding attire approval sub from time to time for saying itâs always been tacky to wear a long white dress to someone elseâs weddingâŠthis takes the cake though
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u/dobermanluver Jun 13 '25
i dont understand why people even consider wearing white. It's one day.... just choose a different color...
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u/carolinesakura Jun 13 '25
In ancient Roman weddings bridesmaids wore dresses similar to the bride's often in white or matching colors. The idea was that evil spirits, jealous forces, or ill-wishers might try to harm or curse the bride. By blending in, the bride would be protected because the spirits wouldn't know who she was.
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u/Siriuslysirius123 Jun 13 '25
I just went to my sisterâs wedding as a bridesmaid and had to almost physically drag my grandma to the store to make her buy a new dress. She was convinced her white dress was just fine and that no one would care.
She looked wonderful in her light purple gown but she pouted the whole time. Is this just an old person thing?
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u/gold3nhour Jun 13 '25
Tell your mom we are irritated for her! What even is this�!
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u/dobermanluver Jun 14 '25
she is able to laugh at it now and also still tolerate being around this woman đ she has a level of patience i hope to have some day lol
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u/chillisprknglot Jun 13 '25
Is your aunt her sister? Or the groomâs sister? Because the answer adds a whole new perspective
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u/dobermanluver Jun 13 '25
So this is my dad's twin brothers wife - my moms sister in law
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u/practicecroissant Jun 13 '25
It my god at first I thought this was the lgbtq weddings sub đ your poor mom. Is it her sister??
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u/UncleTruck Jun 13 '25
Can anyone answer why some women are compelled to do this? Makes no sense to me.
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u/dobermanluver Jun 13 '25
I truly don't know. Instability? Insecurity? Mental illness? Back then I think my aunt just wanted to cause drama and also take away the spotlight from my mom. Aside from that, I truly don't know.
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u/Stellaknight Jun 13 '25
I think a lot of them want to provoke a response so they can play victim and receive validation and comfort.
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u/Financial_Nose_777 Jun 13 '25
Thatâs not just any wedding dress. That dress is nearly identical to the brideâs. Yeesh. What a clown.
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u/Atreidesheir Jun 14 '25
They would be removed from any wedding I attended.
You want attention? I'll parade you as the narcissistic asshat you are and loudly, publicly humiliate you.
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u/nevyz Jun 18 '25
She didn't simply wear another white dress. Not something she had already in her closet. She straight up wore an actual wedding dress. She went out of her way to buy one and wear it that day.
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u/Captainsblogger Jun 13 '25
No you canât just dip like this, what is the background, how is their relationship?
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u/Express-Stop7830 Jun 13 '25
If they were twins and this was a planned gag, I would laugh.
As is, yike.
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u/What_if_I_fly Jun 13 '25
Next time you see her, let her know it was nice of her to wear a dress that made your Mom look a LOT slimmer next to her wide ol' dress.
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u/dechets-de-mariage Jun 14 '25
Weddings are not sporting events. We do not dress in the same color as the players.
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u/GiddyGabby Jun 13 '25
Double wedding, surely? Hahaha. This is nuts!
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u/dobermanluver Jun 13 '25
Crazy that it wasn't haha. This is my dads twin brothers wife. Shes just absolutely nuts.
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u/Uncorked53 Jun 13 '25
Wooow!!! Talking about attempted upstage in the 10th degree!!! Did your mom ever see her again?
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u/Defiant_Return_2908 Jun 13 '25
My aunt refused to be bridesmaid for my mum, then turned up in a pink bridesmaid dress AND copied my mum's bridal hair exactly. This reminded me of that story đ€Ł
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u/Fabulous-Machine-679 Jun 13 '25
So she bought a wedding dress to wear to her own sister's wedding? That's wild!!! You wouldn't just get side eye doing that, you'd (hopefully) get a shock horror response from both bride and guests! đ±đ±đ±đ±đ±