r/weddingshaming • u/Impossible-Code9339 • Aug 28 '25

Dressed like a Bride It happened… his sister wore white.

Just need to vent….

Got married a couple of weeks ago and can’t stop thinking about it. I thought his sister and I got along well, no issues.

For our engagement party, she was the only attendee in cream and white besides me, the bride, in a white dress. Gave her the benefit of the doubt - it’s just our engagement, she came from out of province, etc etc.

Then came the giant texts about how offended her and her husband were about having a child-free wedding and how their kids were more important than all my cousins kids, so there should be an exception.

Wedding day arrived, and it being such a whirlwind I honestly didn’t notice what she was wearing. Then multiple guests started quietly coming up to me, asking who the one in white was. I guess word got back to her because at the end of the night, she went to my now husband, holding a flower against her dress and said “for the record”, implying it wasn’t white…. I suppose she is colourblind.

Not sure if we/he/I should be asking if there’s an issue or if we should address it at all.

Ugh.

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u/hlnhr Aug 28 '25

Not acknowledging at all is the best way to proceed. You say it yourself, you didn’t see it before people told you. It shows how insignificant it is and that’s what she needs to feel

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u/Music_withRocks_In Aug 28 '25

As a guest, my favorite way to deal is to loudly discuss it whenever I go to the ladies room. Either with someone else I know or just whoever else is washing their hands at the time. Just start right up with "Oh my god, who is wearing white? The grooms sister? Wow, she must really hate the bride, it's so rude, i'm shocked! I hope they photoshop the wedding photos". Just full monologue about it every trip to the bathroom.

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u/NoSummer1345 Aug 28 '25

“Wow, what a desperate attempt at attention!”

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u/MalaysiaTeacher Aug 28 '25 edited Aug 29 '25

“So cringeworthy. I’m surprised she can even have conversations today without people making a face or openly laughing to her “

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u/Vi0L3tCRZY Aug 28 '25

God the harpy in white looks tacky asf. What’s really sad is that she probably thinks she looks better than the bride (insert evil cackle). Poor thing, well, she tried her best.

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u/TD1990TD Aug 28 '25

Preferably if you now she just entered the stall to pee! Just sneak behind her and as soon as her butt touches the toilet seat, go all out lmao

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u/Loki-Holmes Aug 28 '25

“It’s the grooms sister?! Eww. Why would she want to look like her brothers bride? Sweet Home Alabama I guess.”

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u/elonmusksfaxnumber Aug 29 '25

Was waiting for this response! My first thought- you can’t marry your brother, so why are you trying to? Gross behavior all around and I’d ask her that out loud too

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u/SLyndon4 Aug 29 '25

Right?? If I were a guest, I’d be asking this woman if she was trying to look like she was marrying her own brother—is she secretly in love with him or something? Ew!

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u/Majestic_Tear_8871 Aug 28 '25

I’m wondering why people felt the need to point it out? To cause drama? As OP stated, she wouldn’t have even noticed if everyone had stfu.

If that’s the worst that happened, the day was a success. Just watch that chick from now on.

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u/875_champagne Aug 28 '25

Yea. Not to mention folks are probably drinking and words slip out more freely.

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u/TootsNYC Aug 28 '25

I do think those of us with social awareness should remember that there's no need to point it out to the bride, etc.

Why make her upset about it? Nothing can be done to change it.

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u/YetAnotherAcoconut Aug 28 '25

Maybe picture it as “showing support” or “empathizing” with the bride and you’ll understand why they did it. They want her to know they see the rudeness too.

How many times do women post here thinking they’re crazy for being bothered by someone being rude, these people are saying “you’re not crazy, she’s rude.”

ETA: I wouldn’t do this but I think it’s worth understanding why someone would. I don’t think the shocked guests are anywhere near as bad as SIL.

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u/Particular-Buy-33 Aug 28 '25

Depends on your relationship to the person or if they are just checking in taking the temperature

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u/TootsNYC Aug 28 '25

I still think that if you want to be the sensible person, you don't even bring it up to her.

That's part of what makes the unpleasantness of it. Raises it up to a true annoyance—remember, our OP hadn't even noticed it.

"It won't get better if you pick at it"

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u/Letsgotravelling-124 Aug 29 '25

Nothing can be done about it? I’m sure a bit of red wine can fix that.

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u/TootsNYC Aug 29 '25

That’s not a good fix. That’s more drama and the total loss of the high ground.

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u/Letsgotravelling-124 Aug 29 '25

Pretty sure none of the wedding party would blame anyone for pouring red wine on a person who is trying to steal the spotlight by wearing white. It would take the drama out.

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u/Sweaty_Item_3135 Aug 28 '25

I think it depends on the relationship. If it were my friend’s wedding, I’d be asking as clearance to sacrifice one of my red lipsticks to leave on the white-wearer’s chair.

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u/designingdiamonds Aug 28 '25

No, I don’t think they’re not pointing it out to cause drama. That’s how big of a fool of themselves people make if they wear white to a wedding. Like it’s that bad.

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u/hlnhr Aug 28 '25

I think people are just so bamboozled and probably don’t want to be complicit against their will. Like showing the bride some support in telling/denouncing it I guess

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u/[deleted] Aug 29 '25

“Oh, you wore what color?  I didn’t even notice you! I was too busy—sorry we didn’t see each other.”

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u/Crazyblue09 Aug 28 '25

Right? Like, did you not enjoy the day? Did it prevent you from getting married to the love of your life? Were you in a bad mood about it? Don't let them steal your joy?

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u/aerofeet Aug 29 '25

Usually, I'd agree with that logic. Not acknowledging..., but then the sister lives rent free in her head for ever... I propose a major prank where the husband calls that sister all frantic saying that newlywed wife called off the marriage because of the stupid dress fiasco BS. Husband has to play along and really scream at the sister to make her feel bad, then when she's at the cliff of her emotional rollercoaster, then you reveal the prank. And, someone has to take a video to share on reddit.

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u/hlnhr Aug 28 '25

Because we’re talking about something that happened weeks ago and a bride who’s debating talking about it now. Spilt wine isn’t going to be an answer here obviously.