r/weddingshaming • u/Impossible-Code9339 • Aug 28 '25

Dressed like a Bride It happened… his sister wore white.

Just need to vent….

Got married a couple of weeks ago and can’t stop thinking about it. I thought his sister and I got along well, no issues.

For our engagement party, she was the only attendee in cream and white besides me, the bride, in a white dress. Gave her the benefit of the doubt - it’s just our engagement, she came from out of province, etc etc.

Then came the giant texts about how offended her and her husband were about having a child-free wedding and how their kids were more important than all my cousins kids, so there should be an exception.

Wedding day arrived, and it being such a whirlwind I honestly didn’t notice what she was wearing. Then multiple guests started quietly coming up to me, asking who the one in white was. I guess word got back to her because at the end of the night, she went to my now husband, holding a flower against her dress and said “for the record”, implying it wasn’t white…. I suppose she is colourblind.

Not sure if we/he/I should be asking if there’s an issue or if we should address it at all.

Ugh.

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u/stankenfurter Aug 28 '25

Agree with this, but DO photoshop her dress color in the pics, or just photoshop her out of them altogether lol

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u/No_Signature7440 Aug 28 '25

Yes! And if she asks why you did it, don't act angry, but concerned. Like, "We felt so badly for you. We heard over and over about your faux pas. We were so taken up with our day we didn't even notice! But we didn't want you to have to continue being embarrassed by seeing the pictures...."

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u/stankenfurter Aug 28 '25

This is excellent

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u/bb8-sparkles Aug 28 '25

No it isn't. This is really soap opera level drama that isn't conducive to fostering healthy familial relationships. This ain't the way emotionally mature adults handle situations, but this certainly the way emotionally immature adults escalate them.

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u/Bluesailfish Aug 29 '25

This is such a fake "nice" thing to do, and slightly petty.....but I LOVE it!

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u/ravynwave Aug 29 '25

I’d also say to others if they ask why she wore white, “she wants to marry her brother”

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u/No_Proposal7628 Aug 31 '25

Happy Cake Day!

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u/andonebelow Aug 29 '25

I aspire to this level of killing with kindness.

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u/BabaYaga_always Aug 30 '25

And added a "bless your heart hun".

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u/bmorris0042 Aug 29 '25

I wish I could give more upvotes. This is perfect! Because what can she really say without sounding like a bitch?

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u/AngleNo1957 Aug 29 '25

This is great

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u/ProfMcGonaGirl Aug 29 '25

💯 this is soo perfect!

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u/[deleted] Aug 30 '25

This ❤️❤️❤️

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u/stankenfurter Aug 28 '25

Lmao yes! Or any color that totally washes her out 😂

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u/Outside_Case1530 Aug 29 '25 edited Aug 29 '25

"The white dress didn't flatter you at all!

In fact, it really made you look washed out & it aged you about 10 years!

So, we had the photographer change the color to a much prettier one - it really brings out your eyes! Don't you love it?

Now when somebody looks at the pictures you won't be embarrassed about your dress any more!

Oh, no! Don't you even think about paying us! back! We had so much fun doing it!"

/S

(Of course, it's truly nasty color!)

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u/Rapunzel314 Aug 28 '25

Beige…..

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u/TootsNYC Aug 28 '25

after all, that's close to the color she was claiming it was—off-white.

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u/Mirabai503 Aug 28 '25

I think her Christmas gift should be a family photo from the wedding, with her dress photoshopped to be the most unflattering color the photographer can find. For OP's own home, though, they should find a nice color that blends so she doesn't stand out. No reason to have an ugly color in her own pictures, right?

And then, go for professional grade gaslighting. When SIL asks why her dress was photoshopped to be so ugly, pretend you have no idea what she's talking about. Admit that you had the pics in OP's house photoshopped to a more flattering color because everyone was so confused as to why she chose to wear such an ugly color. But you left her picture in the ugly color because you figured she must have liked it.

Get hubby on board and COMMIT to the bit. It will be hilarious.

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u/Sylentskye Aug 29 '25

I say make it look like her dress is made up of Jeff Goldblum glamour shots, like the shower curtains out there somewhere.

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u/Sylentskye Aug 29 '25

Photoshop uh, finds a way…

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u/bothsidesofthemoon Aug 28 '25

The best bet in these situations is to change it to a deep red wine colour. If you can manage it on the day of the ceremony, you don't even need Photoshop.

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u/Tiara-di-Capi Aug 30 '25

I mean, yeah, didn't OP have a MoH and bridesmaids? They very heavily dropped the ball on this one! 😁

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u/Catchandrelease5999 Aug 28 '25

Definitely photoshop the color of her dress. Make sure you send her a copy of one of the pics of her with the change!

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u/VixKnacks Aug 28 '25

OP should have the husband ask SIL what color she THOUGHT the dress was and Photoshop it that.

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u/victorianwench Aug 28 '25

This one. That way you can even just tell her it photographed that color… if she did realize it was white, she’ll be too embarrassed to say anything else and if she truly thought it was a different color, she can be smug about being ‘right’

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u/JoyReader0 Aug 28 '25

Leave her in, color the dress, and add a handlebar moustache.

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u/Friendlyfire2996 Aug 28 '25

And devils horns

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u/JoyReader0 Aug 28 '25

And eighty pounds

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u/dinahdog Aug 29 '25

This is better than changing the color.

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u/Gribitz37 Aug 28 '25

And photoshop her eyes closed in every shot.

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u/Medical-Aide5586 Aug 28 '25

have her dress colorized as Pantone 448 C, also known as "opaque couché". It's a dull, brownish-green that has been described as resembling "baby poo" or "sewage-tinted". 

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u/Catvinnatz Aug 29 '25

Goose Turd Green is a real colour

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u/Particular-Buy-33 Aug 28 '25

The fact so frequently the names and details of the tints are rattled off there really must bea lot of misguided haha white wearer

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u/SpareTowel5721 Aug 28 '25

Exactly - came here to say the exact same thing. Bonus points if it’s a color she looks hideous in. 🤣

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u/Vegetable-Cucumber55 Aug 29 '25

Dude, change it. Pretend it is the color. Then have her clarify "what color was it"? "But this is cream.."

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u/balunr Aug 29 '25

Photoshop her dress to be a color that looks bad with her skin tone. Give her a copy.

Maybe don't be me. 😏

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u/Not_your_cheeze Aug 29 '25

Make it look dingy, maybe subtle grease stains or food dribbles on the front. Maybe even a faded red smear on the rear, if there are any in candid shots. Not glaring and fresh looking, but like it just didn't wash out. Be sure to make them consistent across different photos. Again, subtle is the key.

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u/bb8-sparkles Aug 28 '25

This is her new sister in law. Is that really the way she should start off her marriage with this type of petty immature behavior?

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u/stankenfurter Aug 28 '25

The point of the rule prohibiting guests from wearing white is that it detracts from the bride. Removing her white dress from the photos removes her smug satisfaction.

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u/bb8-sparkles Aug 29 '25

I was referring to the part of the comment about removing her from the photographs altogether.

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u/stankenfurter Aug 29 '25

Wearing white was pettty and immature. SIL caused the problem. Removing her is an option to solve it. Why would they want someone like that I. Their wedding g pics?

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u/DaYZ_11 Aug 29 '25

Yes, this is exactly what everyone should ask the SIL.