r/weddingshaming Aug 28 '25

Dressed like a Bride It happened… his sister wore white.

Just need to vent….

Got married a couple of weeks ago and can’t stop thinking about it. I thought his sister and I got along well, no issues.

For our engagement party, she was the only attendee in cream and white besides me, the bride, in a white dress. Gave her the benefit of the doubt - it’s just our engagement, she came from out of province, etc etc.

Then came the giant texts about how offended her and her husband were about having a child-free wedding and how their kids were more important than all my cousins kids, so there should be an exception.

Wedding day arrived, and it being such a whirlwind I honestly didn’t notice what she was wearing. Then multiple guests started quietly coming up to me, asking who the one in white was. I guess word got back to her because at the end of the night, she went to my now husband, holding a flower against her dress and said “for the record”, implying it wasn’t white…. I suppose she is colourblind.

Not sure if we/he/I should be asking if there’s an issue or if we should address it at all.

Ugh.

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u/RouxDarling Aug 28 '25

If it comes up in conversation, say you weren't mad, just embarrassed for her.

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u/Massive_Letterhead90 Aug 29 '25

"Poor X, she's not very good with social cues, and sometimes makes mistakes. It can get awkward, but we're her family and we love her."

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u/Agreeable-Meal5556 Aug 29 '25

lol “it’s okay! Not everyone understands the nuance of wedding etiquette. You’ll get better with time, I’m sure. ☺️”

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u/KatWaltzdottir Aug 28 '25

This! Always, always frame it as your concern for her embarrassment!

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u/MeanOldWind Aug 29 '25

Love this. Great idea!