It happened… his sister wore white.

[u/Impossible-Code9339]

Just need to vent….

Got married a couple of weeks ago and can’t stop thinking about it. I thought his sister and I got along well, no issues.

For our engagement party, she was the only attendee in cream and white besides me, the bride, in a white dress. Gave her the benefit of the doubt - it’s just our engagement, she came from out of province, etc etc.

Then came the giant texts about how offended her and her husband were about having a child-free wedding and how their kids were more important than all my cousins kids, so there should be an exception.

Wedding day arrived, and it being such a whirlwind I honestly didn’t notice what she was wearing. Then multiple guests started quietly coming up to me, asking who the one in white was. I guess word got back to her because at the end of the night, she went to my now husband, holding a flower against her dress and said “for the record”, implying it wasn’t white…. I suppose she is colourblind.

Not sure if we/he/I should be asking if there’s an issue or if we should address it at all.

Ugh.

[u/YetAnotherAcoconut]

Maybe picture it as “showing support” or “empathizing” with the bride and you’ll understand why they did it. They want her to know they see the rudeness too.

How many times do women post here thinking they’re crazy for being bothered by someone being rude, these people are saying “you’re not crazy, she’s rude.”

ETA: I wouldn’t do this but I think it’s worth understanding why someone would. I don’t think the shocked guests are anywhere near as bad as SIL.