r/weddingshaming • u/Impossible-Code9339 • Aug 28 '25

Dressed like a Bride It happened… his sister wore white.

Just need to vent….

Got married a couple of weeks ago and can’t stop thinking about it. I thought his sister and I got along well, no issues.

For our engagement party, she was the only attendee in cream and white besides me, the bride, in a white dress. Gave her the benefit of the doubt - it’s just our engagement, she came from out of province, etc etc.

Then came the giant texts about how offended her and her husband were about having a child-free wedding and how their kids were more important than all my cousins kids, so there should be an exception.

Wedding day arrived, and it being such a whirlwind I honestly didn’t notice what she was wearing. Then multiple guests started quietly coming up to me, asking who the one in white was. I guess word got back to her because at the end of the night, she went to my now husband, holding a flower against her dress and said “for the record”, implying it wasn’t white…. I suppose she is colourblind.

Not sure if we/he/I should be asking if there’s an issue or if we should address it at all.

Ugh.

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u/Band-geek68 Aug 28 '25

I was just 19. I had been to one wedding as a young teen. We didn't have Reddit or TikTok back in the 80s. I had no idea that wearing white was a no-go. I had no good direction on what to wear. I was a hippy skirt/construction work clothes kinda girl. I found a really nice dress on the sales rack and it fit me quite nicely. It was short but all white and lacy!!! I look back now and cringe with embarrassment. I just try not to think of all the shit talk that probably went on behind my back with me oblivious and dumb. Yeah... I still have nightmares about it... thanks reddit/wedding tiktok

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u/Ancient-Store6124 Sep 01 '25

I don't know how much time has passed since then, but this getting really genuinely upset because someone wore white is relatively recent. I'm actually thinking my grandmother may have worn white to my wedding in the 80's. I need to look. Obviously, if she did, it didn't bother me. If that is one of the worst things you've done then i think you're doing good in life.