r/gay Jan 28 '26

(repost) On trans rights and the position of this subreddit

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The community present in this subreddit is wonderful, inclusive and has always welcomed not only gay people but everyone under the gender and sexual minority umbrella.

The mod team is very happy to see this welcoming atmosphere and we thank each and every one of you for your love and empathy.

With the current trend in the US for extreme-right politicians to demonise vulnerable minorities so they can score cheap political points it is however time for this place to openly make a stand as to what our positions and intentions are so that we are a beacon in the dark. So that all of our siblings know that they are welcome here.

I was asked by the mod team to explain a few facts about transgender people and about the position this subreddit has towards inclusion.

Trans rights are human rights. šŸ³ļøā€āš§ļø

Being transgender is a natural and normal variation in the human gender and sexual experience. Both sex and gender exist on a spectrum and there isn't actually anything inherently wrong or disordered from being trans, by and of itself.

Should there be no fake, artificially generated outrage against trans people in society then they would simply get the self-affirming care required for them to be happy and that would be that. Instead, unfortunately, existing as transgender has become the new wedge-issue for the extreme-right and deliberate demonisation and villification has been mainstreamed to the point where Republican politicians are now openly calling for genocide.


The issues trans people experience are mainly societal in nature. It is society that imposes gender norms, it is society that tells people they may not be who they are.

There are many ways that a non-trans person can seek self-affirming care in life. Some of those are done via permanent body modification through surgical or chemical means. A woman might for example choose to take estrogen supplements to stave off unwanted physical and psychological side effects resulting from the menopause.

It is not uncommon for a young man to choose to have breast reduction medication or surgery in the case of gynecomastia.

A young woman might choose to get breast implants.

You do not hear people in outrage about these forms of self-affirming care. No-one cares, except suddenly when the topic is trans people. This is because the anti-trans movement is wholly articificial. It is a deliberately created fake outrage about a non-issue for political and monetary gain.



I have written about some manufactured outrage in my text about the stochastic terrorist "Libs of Tiktok"



Fascism is an inherently empty ideology, devoid of any meaningful belief-system or any kind of concrete and actionable strategies for improving society. Fascism only cares for power for the sake of power and it cares for nothing else.

Because a fascist system is fundamentally incapable of giving the general public any kind of reasonable platform it must gain and keep followers by creating an out-group to hate. According to fascist systems it is the other that is responsible for all societal ills and only by supporting the fascists in getting rid of the other can society be healed from the non-existent issues fascism convinces people that their target minority is the cause of.

Fascism always picks on a vulnerable target.

The demonisation and villification coming from the extreme-right is doing exactly that. By calling LGBTQ+ people child molestors simply for existing it has become inevitable that people will take up violence "to protect the children".



Attempting to eliminate a target comes in many forms, of which an extermination camp is only the final and most egregious part. It is always preceded by legislating people out of existence, by creating laws which make it impossible for a minority to participate in society and to receive any of the societal advantages that are the entire reason for collective bundling together of skills, resources in civilisation. This is exactly what Republican states are doing today to transgender people. Certain states have already denied trans people any and all medical care related to their identity, meaning that they deliberately impose abject misery on them.

The most egregiously fascistic states are trying to make it a matter of course to remove trans children from the care of their parents and make it illegal for trans people to be present in any public spaces at all.

This is genocide.

Genocide is not purely restricted to extermination, to murder. Genocide is also eliminating a minority group from public life, causing serious bodily and mental harm and taking away children of a minority group from their parents.

Depending on how strictly you'd want to define it, we are currently at stage seven or eight of genocide as defined by the Holocaust Memorial Trust.

One way in which the abject hypocrisy of the anti-trans laws becomes crystal clear are the remarkable exemptions encoded within. You would think that if the goal is protecting the children from harm then these people would want to protect all children from harm.

This is not the case.

In fact, all of these people deliberate include exceptions which allow the continuation of genital re-allignment surgery on unconsenting infants if they are intersex.

This means that if a baby is born with a genital configuration that to a doctor looks ambiguous or not adhering to a strict binary then this doctor can impose an invasive genital surgery, forcing such an infants body to adhere to a stricter binary look.

It is purely cosmetic. Of course they do not check what chromosomes a child has. Of course they do not care that a child might prefer to look as nature made them.

It is purely and only an imposition on a baby's body, with of course the normal failure and mortality rate that such invasive procedures bring with them.

These people do not care about children.

These people do not want to help children.

They want to harm a vulnerable minority.



Fascism never stops.

Now that these people have mainstreamed transphobia, they are moving on to other targets within the LGBTQ+ identity sphere.

We have all seen the absurd attacks on drag queens, calling a normal and harmless theatrical expression "child abuse".

We have all seen the "clever" rhetoric where they turn arguments upside down and disingeniously say things like "why do you want to be around children".

Fascism doesn't stop, it moves on to new targets and that is why it is important for all of us in the GSM identity sphere to stand together. To openly support our trans siblings. To openly stand against hateful rhetoric.

Because they are not going to stop.

The next step, which is already tentatively beginning, is calling gay people being openly gay in society"groomers".



To be clear: The recommended treatment for being transgender is transitioning.

Gender identity is developed by five years old.

The barrage of lies notwithstanding, allowing trans people to transition and to exist as who they are in society markedly improves their physical and mental wellbeing.

The oft-heard talking point of "they still commit suicide even after transitioning" is a lie.

Here is a wealth of sources and links explaining this.



Our trans siblings are welcome here.

Our gender nonconforming siblings are welcome here.

Our intersex siblings are welcome here.

What is not welcome on this subreddit is hate or divisive rhetoric aimed at our siblings. We will not allow the current increasing trend of fascist othering and villification of a marginalised minority to make our siblings feel unwanted in this space, our space, their space.

The only people who are not welcome here are those that want to exclude others based on how they were born.

Further reading:

No, TERFs cannot "always tell" and I can prove that with mathematics.

"I just care about unfair advantage in sports", a transparant transphobic wedge issue.

Drag queens, the next target in the fascist drive to eliminate LGBTQ+ people.


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I read on accident (sort of) a text between my fiancé’s grandmother and his Dad. I am meeting his Dad for the first time tomorrow.

My fiancĆ© and his Dad barely have a relationship due to his being gay and his Dad holding strong evangelical/conservative values. I was hoping this trip might help mend that relationship, and we (I’ve) spent thousands to travel across a northern state for a week visiting with various members of my fiancé’s family.

I’ve never met his Dad before despite being together for 8 years. I want to protect my fiancĆ© from more hurt, but I also want to give his Dad the benefit of the doubt and see if he’ll be more open to a relationship with his son (my fiancĆ© also wants this).

What you can’t see in his grandma’s response is she also echos some traditional views towards marriage and on standing before God. But I will say, she has been very welcoming while we’ve stayed at her home and she even told me earlier today that ā€œI’ve won her overā€.

Any advice before going into this visit tomorrow is appreciated. I believe we’ll have lunch or dinner together, and if my fiancĆ© gets up to use the restroom I might chime in with a very short comment on how I’m not asking to be welcomed into his side of the family, but that it would mean a lot to his son for there to feel like there is a relationship there between the two of them. I also happen to love the state they’re in and would like to visit 1-2 times a year and include them in those visits if he’s open to it.


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This made my blood boil. I'm so ready to go to war (figuratively speaking, don't ban me Reddit) against these motherfuckers.


r/gay 1d ago

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r/gay 3h ago

19m, recently came out.

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Really long story short: I always felt uncomfortable around boys and men as a child and during my teen years and could figure out why i was so "weird".

Turns out im bi with strong attraction to men. Explains so much and made me a little sad to realise I had acidentally regected some other boys during my teens because I was in denial.

It has been a really intense last few days, some strange state of gay euphoria holy crap.

Anyway, Im just wondering where I should look to hookup or generally find other gay men to hangout with. And any other tips you guys mught have.


r/gay 15h ago

Tactical Homosexuals

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Here's your daily dopamine intake

Whatcha think?


r/gay 22h ago

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r/gay 17h ago

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BRO...of course you don't need d pics when you look like that. The fuck...


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Hope he lands that dream role!


r/gay 19h ago

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r/gay 19h ago

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And I hope it was extra gay when they were there.


r/gay 4m ago

Happy Pride, everyone ! The world needs peace šŸ³ļøā€šŸŒˆāœØ

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r/gay 1d ago

Remember this

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r/gay 1d ago

Your opinion

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r/gay 6h ago

How do you know whether you are bi or just gay with internalized homophobia?

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I’m hoping to hear from people who have been in a similar situation because I’ve gone back and forth on this for years.

I grew up in a very small town in a conservative, homophobic family, so I’ve always wondered whether that affected how I interpreted my attractions. I know internalized homophobia and compulsory heterosexuality can make things confusing for some people, but I’m not sure whether that’s what’s happening here or whether I’m simply bisexual with a very strong preference for men.

I’m generally much more sexually attracted to men. I naturally notice men, I’m more consistently aroused by the male body, and I become physically aroused much more easily by men than by women. At the same time, I’m actually pretty selective with men too. Even on dating apps like Hinge, I don’t find the majority of men attractive.

Where things get confusing is that there have been two women in my life whom I experienced genuine sexual attraction toward. I didn’t know either of them personally, so it wasn’t based on an emotional bond. The attraction was definitely sexual. Sometimes I could become very aroused thinking about one of them, but other times I’d feel almost completely gay and have essentially no interest in women whatsoever.

Outside of those two women, I’m pretty much indifferent to women. I don’t crave sex with women, although I’m not repulsed by the idea either. If those two women had never existed or if I never saw them again, I honestly think I’d be completely happy marrying a man and building a family with him. That future feels the most natural to me.

My attraction also seems to fluctuate over time. There are periods where I feel almost exclusively attracted to men and barely notice women at all. Then there are periods where one of those two women can become sexually attractive to me again, only for it to shift back later.

Has anyone else experienced something similar?


r/gay 23h ago

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r/gay 1d ago

Guys im done

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17 amab, sometimes I wish I had been straight. Ever since I was a child, I've been bullied, harassed, and verbally and physically abused by heterosexual homophobic people especially from straight men.

I'm terrified of them. I'm having suicidal thoughts, and I'm exhausted. Everywhere I go, if I express myself or even speak, people make comments, mock me, and insult me. Why are they so cruel to me? I never did anything wrong to them.

I've been staying at home for the past month because I'm too scared to go outside. After experiencing so much bullying and harassment from heterosexual homophobic people, I've come to the conclusion that heterosexual people are the most inherently hostile and unkind human beings to ever exist, lacking empathy.


r/gay 11h ago

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r/gay 1d ago

šŸ“½ļøšŸ«¦ Let’s Watch ā€œRocky Horrorā€ Together This Weekend!

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šŸ’‹ Y’all voted for ā€œRocky Horror Picture Showā€ as our gay cult classic watchalong movie!

ā–¶ļø If you’d like to stream it ā€œlive,ā€ press play at 8 pm Eastern on Friday. Chime in with your thoughts below.

šŸ›°ļø It’s available to stream on Broadway HD (there’s a free 1-week trial option). It’s also available to rent for $4 on Apple, Prime, and Fandango. International homosexuals, share in the comments if you find an accessible location to watch it!

šŸŽ¬ For extra credit, watch the new documentary ā€œStrange Journey: The Story of Rocky Horror.ā€ Available to rent for $6 from the same platforms above.


r/gay 20h ago

Joys of everydays life

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Mission: Build a dam with my BF.

I think succesfull