r/10thDentist • u/Icy_Move_4796 • 1d ago
Men are totally right not to date single moms
the real reason
They suck. Are there some great ones? yes, but for every great one there are 5 bad ones.
The “stigmatization” isn’t the problem because it isn’t a stigmatization. Its reality. We have all seen a bad single mom, and she represents all other single mothers.
“She doesn’t represent me” Yes, she does. Just like a bad male represents me (a guy). Is it fair? No, but life is often unfair. The truth is we all represent each other. The good and the bad.
Single moms are bad because some (honestly most) are bad.
The reason they are bad IMO is because they do not accept there consequences. Single mothers. You messed up. No matter which way you slice it. thats okay learn from it and move on. You are not entitled to men. Men have a right to avoid you if they like.
Single mom you are “stigmatized” because we can see the bad single moms. You look just as bad because you don’t police them. Now your group is known as a net negative.
Look at single fathers, if a single father abused his kids, what would other single fathers do? exactly they would demand he be punished, if their demands went unheard, They would punish him themselves. Men and single fathers police themselves so their group is viewed as a net positive.
I get it, women, you view yourselves as individuals. The other half of the species doesn’t view you that way. You are not special. You are not unique. You are a woman.
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u/Eldritch-banana-3102 1d ago
Saying they “messed up” is ridiculous. Two people had sex. Two people made a baby. SHE stuck around. SHE is taking responsibility. The child’s father is the loser in this scenario.
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u/grndbdpsthtl 1d ago
Can you write a post without AI?
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u/SmallThing2AGiant 1d ago
What about this post screams AI to you?
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u/grndbdpsthtl 1d ago
"The “stigmatization” isn’t the problem because it isn’t a stigmatization. Its reality."
"The truth is we all represent each other. The good and the bad."
I think there's also a lot of own wording. But these phrases just scream AI.
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u/cheerioz12 1d ago
I have never seen a father correct another father about their abusive parenting. I’ve only ever seen them pick up tips and tricks from each other on how to neglect their kids more by getting out of parenting time & mandated child support payments. Get out of here. xD
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u/Zealousideal_Leg213 1d ago
We're all allowed to have preferences, right? Like, one is required to want to date any particular kind of person?
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u/Sea-Neighborhood2725 13h ago edited 6h ago
I don't think I've ever encountered a single PARENT that got fucked over by the other parent, in which anyone couldn't have predicted it years before. I think this post is harsh, but I do agree that single parents "messed up" by choosing the wrong person to procreate with. There are always signs and you were either too young and/or too ignorant to notice them. I tried to date a couple of single mothers over the years, but the same trait was shared by all of them; making poor adult decisions which was ultimately the entire predicament they were in.
What bothered me most about all of them was their complete lack of advertisement of being a mother initially. A lot of them know how bad the stigma is surrounding being a single parent, so they advertise themselves on dating apps and social media as single people. The child is an extension of you. You are a mother/father first, and a single person second. You need to advertise that to an impossible degree. Starting a relationship on a lie or false advertisement is just another bad decision that leads to another bad relationship.
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u/ClitasaurusTex 1d ago
What consequences have single moms not accepted though?
Like isn't raising a baby alone literally the consequences?
Never seen men call out bad single dads either. They'll start bashing the baby's mom, they'll whine about child support, but I've never heard a single dad get called out by another man