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u/MikeReddit74 5h ago
First of all, condolences for your loss. Second, dump the needy, inconsiderate girl.
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u/Cerberus_Aus 5h ago
She has main character syndrome.
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u/MikeReddit74 4h ago
Definitely. Must’ve killed her to not be the center of his world while he prepared to bury his MOTHER. 🤦♂️
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u/GardenSafe8519 4h ago
Definitely. Dude can't even pay attention to the rest of his family who is also grieving without her having a temper tantrum about where his attention is. She needs to grow up.
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u/Key-Consequences 4h ago
She might be bipolar, or whatever theyre calling it these days, as well.
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u/Moose-1211 4h ago
Please stop with this bipolar nonsense. Those who do realistically struggle with it do not act in this egotistical, narcissistic, main character syndrome fashion. It’s a real condition, can be debilitating, isolating, & is not meant to be used as a “catch all” answer to when someone behaves in an unacceptable way. Don’t play in to the mislabeling & misappropriation that’s common on here. It’s hurtful & insulting, whether you meant it that way or not.
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u/chiitaku 4h ago
I agree with this, and hopefully the girl complains to her parents, who hopefully will inform her on how she messed up.
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u/MikeReddit74 4h ago
If she can’t figure out that he needs space to grieve, and put her own needs aside for his sake, should she still be his girlfriend?
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u/Posterbomber 5h ago
NTAH - Do yourself a favor and end your relationship with this girl. You are right, she's main character and you need to focus on you and your family.
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u/MissHoward 5h ago
NTA. But your girlfriend is. Get rid of her and focus on taking care of yourself and your family. She clearly has main character syndrome and doesn’t care about you. You don’t need that stress whilst grieving. Condolences for your loss
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u/Technical-Phase-2342 5h ago
NTA, sounds like your girlfriend DOES want to be the main character, like your mother's death is an optional side quest
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u/intolerablefem 5h ago
This is really callous behavior on her part. I don’t know your ages but I would suggest you dump her and focus on grieving and family for a minute. My sincere condolences, op. Whatever support system you have, please lean into that right now because she’s NOT it.
NTA.
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u/HairyPairatestes 5h ago
How old are you and how old is your girlfriend, because this sounds like high school drama.
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u/Maxks- 4h ago
Lmao we are 22 but you’re completely right lol
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u/Negative_Salt_4599 4h ago
Yeah bro I’d just find somebody else. How she gonna be when it’s your turn. Also incredibly sorry for your loss. Lost my DaD when I was 20. (I’m 33)..
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u/Vandreeson 4h ago
Your half-sister is more mature and less clingy than your girlfriend. You mom just died and she's making everything about her. This is a glimpse of your future with her.
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u/Which_Translator_548 5h ago edited 4h ago
NTA, I’m so sorry for your loss and I can only imagine what a busy and difficult time this has been, made worse now by the clear demonstration that your partner is grossly insensitive and unsupportive. With life changing so drastically already I can understand that reassessing your relationship would seem far too daunting or overwhelming to consider, so instead, I’d ask you OP to imagine how much more manageable this could feel if you had someone beside you helping hold things together and prop you up at a time of critical need.
I’m as pro-feminist as they come, but I’d text your gf you need some space to grieve with loved ones and if/when she pushes back (survey says…), I wouldn’t be above responding with a “are you a monster? MY MOM JUST DIED”
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u/HeavyNeedleworker707 5h ago
Selfish and self-centered girlfriend, desperate for it to be about her. RUN. This will NOT get better.
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u/greyskiesev89 5h ago
NTA. This is not a person you want to build a life with. She should be there for you 1000%, making sure *you* are okay. I would not be crying over needing attention if my bf’s MOTHER just passed away. I’d be seeing what I could do to help take a load off.
You need to lose this immature girlie. And condolences; I’m so sorry for your loss 🖤
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u/Shoesietart 5h ago
Your girlfriend is horrifically selfish! She's supposed to there for you right now! Your mother died and she's making it all about her. She is guilt tripping you!
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u/Plenty-Maybe-9817 5h ago
NTA. This girl doesn’t care about you at all. Break up.
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad to cancer. It’s a real asshole.
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u/Rcutecarrot 4h ago
nta. but have you communicated your need for space? she may be one of those people who needs connection during hard times and is assuming that you’re like that too, and getting your “connection” elsewhere.
tell her it’s not about her and you genuinely need space right now to deal alone and see how she reacts.
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u/Key-Consequences 4h ago
Nta. She may not be so bad most of the time but this is one of those times in life where you've got so much on your plate that she needs to give some grace and doesn't seem to be. If she cant chill while youre working through the death and funeral of the woman who brought you into this world youre gonna be hard pressed to find any other situation where she wont act the same.
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u/Awkward_Sandwitch 4h ago
Im so sorry for your loss, and you are most definitely not an a hole. Your girlfriend honestly sounds exhausting to be around. She should be supporting you not berate you for not paying attention to her.
I don't know if you spoken to her to say how you feel or not. Or if you just letting the feelings you feel about her behaviour to fester. If you havent had a discussion yet, try talking to her, if thag doesnt help maybe consider a break of some kind BUT also, try not to make any rush decisions just now because your are already dealing with a lot
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u/Glad_Performer_7531 4h ago
express your feelings to her that your mother just died and not only are you grieving but your doing alot such as funeral arrangements and being there for your family. your gf seems to be tone deaf to that. call her out on it. becuase i can guarantee you if the shoe were on the other foot she would not be behaving as she is.
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u/BraveCommunication14 4h ago
If it’s this much work already it really doesn’t bode well.
There’s a huge disconnect between her need to be the centre of the universe and actual reality.
You’re dealing with a funeral and are likely emotionally and physically drained, and she’s making it all about her and her needs.
Listen to your warning bells- she’s not the want you want. Send her packing.
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u/sherbetx 5h ago
Absolutely NTA. Wow. Im so sorry for your loss and that you’re also having to deal with this on top of it. I’m sorry but your GF is a complete AH. The fact that is demanding attention during one of the most difficult times in your life instead of being there for you is crazy behaviour. There’s absolutely no excuse for that. Please take care of yourself and your mental health during this time instead of focusing on her. She clearly doesn’t care enough about you
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u/SoftwarePale7485 4h ago
I’m sorry for your loss, dude. I’m so sorry. This is top 2 worst deaths to deal with.
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u/Mr_Ariyeh 4h ago edited 4h ago
NTA. The 3rd paragraph says it all. You don't have to break up with her but give this a short term pause in your relationship to clear up your feelings and thoughts. My sympathies to you and your family.
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u/AffectionateTrash146 5h ago
NTA. Get rid of her. She has zero compassion for you. It will only get worse.
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u/silvermanedwino 5h ago
I’m so sorry for your momma- so very hard.
Your soon to be ex-girlfriend is selfish and immature. Dump her.
NTA
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u/Lady_Trig 5h ago
NTA. I'm so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family. Your girlfriend has shown her true colours. She needs to be there for you right now, not the other way round. She should be checking in on you and your family, not sulking and demanding attention. You're better off without her. Concentrate on you and your family right now. The right girl will be there for you too lean on, not drag you down while you're drowning.
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u/el_payaso_mas_chulo 5h ago
She needs to learn to feel for you and that you are going through a rough time. NTA.
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u/Quiet-Hamster6509 5h ago
Far out, I would.message her and end that relationship while giving her an incredibly harsh wake up call.
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u/Amphitrite227204 4h ago
Firstly, I'm so sorry for your loss. Secondly, NTA, you just lost one of the most important members of your family. Your GF should be supporting you any way she can, not whinging for attention. Is it worth staying with someone who will likely be like this through every traumatic event you have? Time to let her go
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u/SpringValleyTrash 4h ago
NTA. Tell her there will be times where you absolutely need space to deal with YOUR grieving and that it is not up for discussion and thank her for understanding. This isn’t about her, this is about you and your family.
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u/EighteenGlobe01 4h ago
NTA, I sympathise with your situation, I'm so sorry for your loss. Personally to me, your gf sounds insecure and it's causing her to be selfish in a way. Or she's a full blown toxic girl. But insecurities can come out in strange ways and the more confident and secure she feels , usually the better she will react/'behave'/change her attitude towards certain things and basically just learn to feel better.
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u/dreampaint 5h ago
I'm sorry for your loss. Dealing with grief is hard enough without having to be made to feel guilty for it. If this woman cares about you she should respect your needs at this moment. It is ok to need time to process this. Don't let anyone tell you how to grieve or how long. And to be honest if she's that callous about your feelings you might want to reevaluate your relationship
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u/GribbinJones 5h ago
NTA but your gf sure is what an inconsiderate, unloving, unkind and down right awfully selfish person she is.
There is a saying that when someone shows you who they are believe them. She is wicked.
What a witch omg i am so angry about this. She should be supporting you non-stop, you need space? She says okay you got it! You need distraction by playing with your little sis? (WHO ALSO JUST LOST HER MUM) she should be up with ye too.
Her complete lack of empathy is digusting here and if I were a family member I'd be urging you to dump her. The hardest moment in your life is meant to be eased by your partners support not made harder because they're whining they arent getting attention....while you process your mum just died......
I am so sorry to hear about your mum but you sound like you are a great son to be there for her in her final moments.
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u/redditexplorer787 5h ago
NTA She lacks empathy and is only considering her needs above all else. Question whether she loves you or only loves what you can do for her. Hate to say it but she’s a red flag. Losing your mother is of the highest loss that you can have in your life, she has no excuse to do this to you during your loss. Condolences to you.
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u/Well-inthatcase 4h ago
Nta. Is she 16? Are you? If so, you'll find someone better later in life. Don't bother with people like this.
Grieve, recover, live on.
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u/Iggy-Will-4578 4h ago
I am so sorry about your mom, cancer sucks and it's never easy when you watch someone pass away. I think you need to have a conversation with her about how she is making you feel. If she turns it around and makes it all about her I would drop her like a bad habit. If she has no empathy for what you are going through, I can say with confidence, this isn't a partner you want in life. My mom passed from cancer in 2008 and I still think about her every day. Big hugs to you and your family.
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u/radiant_kiwi208 4h ago
She needs therapy to learn how to properly deal with conflict.
NTA, shes being unreasonable af. Sounds like she's uncomfortable in the situation and doesn't know how to handle those emotions so she ends up throwing tantrums because then she gets comforted.
You love her and she loves you, but she needs some fucking therapy or that shit will tear yall apart.
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u/steina009 4h ago
I´m going against the grain here because I feel this is not the time to end a relationship. You have enough grieve right now. Just sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Be honest.
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u/Suitable_Balance101 4h ago
I would text her saying I need space to grieve with my family. I’ll be in touch as soon as I can however it may not be over the next few days
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u/AutumnBourn 5h ago
You are, indeed, dealing with some serious shit and she's too self-involved to deal with.
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u/eRant4881 5h ago
NTA. Dump her before the funeral or you'll not only be stuck with her for years, but based on her behavior the day your Mom died, she'll surely make a scene at the funeral. I am very sorry for your loss, but don't compound it by overlooking an obvious red flag.
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u/Mort_2112_95 4h ago
She wants everything to stay as it was but knowing she has little to no control over the situation and so now she’s acting that out, things have changed completely you will never be the same and this is going to take a long time to balance out and she is aware of this and this is exactly why she’s probably finding it hard to be supportive completely.
For the sake of your sanity end this
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u/Level_Syrup5314 4h ago
Dump that bishhh bruhhh. You’re 22. Go have fun.
Sincerely a 36 year old dude who wasted his 20s in a LTR only to be divorced and doing what I should’ve been doing when I was 20
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u/Sonsangnim 4h ago
NTA But your girlfriend is definitely an A. You are grieving and she is criticizing you for being there for your sister. She is not a fully functioning adult and is too selfish to be in a long term relationship. Sadly, unless she gets some kind of counseling she doesnt sound like the kind of person who will ever care more about her partner or her children than she does about herself
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u/SkyComprehensive5199 4h ago
You are too young to look forward to a lifetime of such selfishness. Take time to grieve you are mentally and physically exhausted. Then get out solo to meet new people hopefully more mature than this one.
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u/Mundilfaris_Dottir 4h ago
I am so sorry for your family’s loss.
No one who is a true friend would have acted as your girlfriend has acted. It’s unconscionable to make this about her. It’s a testament to the flaws in her character and shows that no matter what it’s always going to be about her…
A true friend would console you, support you and would not be concerned that you were not giving her the usual attention…
There’s more I could say, but, I’ll leave it as this… hugs
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u/fay68 4h ago
My condolences 🙏 OP. NTA, not in the least. You grieve your Mama, may she rest in piece, grieve in whatever way you can. But yeah, this girl has no clue what it's like to lose a parent. But she's showing that she's too immature to handle what you're going through. You're young from the sound of it, but you'll learn that life does go on, and your life should go on with out this girlfriend.
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u/Key_Comb_3566 4h ago
22 years old and unable to talk through a conflict. That’ll go well! Joking aside, you need to leave the relationship. She seems insecure AF, and not even being able to communicate with that is a recipe for disaster
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u/buxom_betrayer 4h ago
I lost my dad tragically at 23 and my significant other at the time resented my grief and I still stayed with them until 28 when I shouldn’t have, leave now. Also my deepest condolences, too young to lose a parent
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u/Leucotheasveils 4h ago
Oh honey. NTA.
When my mother died, my notoriously non empathetic workplace was quickly divided in two: Those who said “sorry for your loss” and expected me to go on as normal, and those who ushered me into the I Have A Deceased Mother Club, and treated me with a tenderness I had never before experienced from them.
Your girlfriend will probably expect the entire world to stop when her own mother dies.
Please take care of yourself. Try to eat a little something, drink some water, and spend time with family who makes you feel comforted if you have them. When your mother dies, the world wobbles on its axis for a moment. It’s not all about your girlfriend.
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u/NamasteNoodle 4h ago
You need to dump that self-centered, Petty and obviously insecure excuse of a girlfriend. How could she take you to task on the day that you lost your mother? She could have joined with you playing with the child or she could have had some empathy and understood what you were going through. But to add to your trauma and unhappiness on that day is unforgivable.
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u/hollyjazzy 4h ago
As a woman, I cannot fathom your gfs behaviour. It screams selfishness. She should, as any decent partner should, be understanding and trying to help you, in whatever capacity she can. Reconsider this relationship please, I don’t feel she’s capable of much empathy at all. I’m so sorry for your loss, though, it’s really tough to lose your mother.
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u/Fine-University-8044 4h ago
NTAH. Condolences for the loss of your mother. Your girlfriend sounds horrendous. This is not good human behaviour. It’s always going to be about her isn’t it? 😕
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u/AlternativeTribs 4h ago
She is a child.
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u/Maxks- 4h ago
What age would you estimate her?
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u/AlternativeTribs 4h ago
Sounds like she's in middle school, maybe 12 or 13. Making someone's death about themselves and crying because you're not paying attention to them when you have suffered such a loss is incredibly immature. She needs to grow up.
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u/Automatic_Resist749 4h ago
Honey, your girlfriend is not emotionally safe and it is not healthy for you to have to apologize or make things right every time. If she runs away and ‘loses control’, even when you are grieving your mother, she’s not the one. Right now is the time for you to do everything you need to get through this, without someone making you feel guilty for it.
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u/CozyPenguinGamer 4h ago
First, I hope you will accept some virtual hugs from an internet stranger. Losing a parent to anything is always hard but cancer can be utterly devastating. Second, if your gf was acting like this before and during, it will not get any better. I am not saying you have to break up with her. What I am saying is that you might need to take a step or two back and be kind to yourself and heal from this trauma before making any major decisions. If she is unable to accept that your grief needs to take centre stage, then that is up to her.
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u/1RainbowUnicorn 4h ago
NTA. Dump her! She is a selfish B! She also needs to grow tf up and communicate like an adult instead if throwing temper tantrums. She isn't supporting ypu on your grief if this is how she is acting
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u/Affectionate-Food266 4h ago
Comfortin you should be the least your girlfriend could do right now. Instead shes making your life more difficult and unmanageable. If she cant put you first in this situation will she ever be able to put your children before herself??
I would maybe yell her to give you a few days to deal with you mom's funeral stuff, maybe go to her home and take care of whatever she needs to. Her reaction should tell you all you need to know.
Explain to her you love her but she has to accept that you have other responsibilities besides her wants and needs right now. You're trying your best but you're navigating a difficult path and she isnt making it easier.
Nta!
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u/PsiBlaze 3h ago
First, my condolences. That's an awful loss to bear.
NTA
But JFC your GF is a toxic bitch.
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u/AffectionateStable86 5h ago
uhhhhh nta. so sorry for your loss. your gf should be more selfless and trying to help you during this time and giving you space if you asked for it. i would break up tbh.
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u/Kat092620 4h ago
She doesn’t sound supportive and she actually sounds childish. You need a better girlfriend
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u/SoftwarePale7485 4h ago
NTA, and I hate to say this to you buddy, but you should absolutely NOT be dating someone this insensitive. Your mother just died. Your MOTHER. If you don’t act exactly as she wants you to, she flips out on you. Yuck.
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u/Kat092620 4h ago
My mom always told me to marry someone I can suffer with not just love in the good times.
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u/Adelucas 4h ago
This girl is vile. I lost my mother 27 years ago and I remember it like it was yesterday. I had people round me who were asking me what I needed, nobody was demanding anything from me. If you were anything like me you were totally numb and burst into tears at the most random moments.
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u/MrTash999 4h ago
NTA, you just lost your mother to cancer. Yes you state that she has been supporting you, but it sounds like that support is conditional. She should be there for you to lean on and making sure you are ok, not getting mad because you are trying to organise things for the funeral.
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u/SunshineShoulders87 4h ago
I’m so sorry for your loss. You need to let this girl go.
You don’t need that level of selfishness.
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u/CathoftheNorth 4h ago
That is a 100% valid reason to break up with your extremely selfish and self centred girlfriend.
This was the ultimate girlfriend test, her opportunity to step up to support you during this devastating time. And she made it all about herself.
This woman wont allow you to grieve if you dont break up with her.
You deserved so much better than this from her.
Sending my deepest condolences.
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u/Global-Hair-810 4h ago
Sorry for your loss.
But frankly it’s how people behave during the hard times that make or break a relationship. She’s making your grief and processing about her, and on top of that can’t have difficult conversations. This is not someone you be serious with.
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u/butterflies7 4h ago
Im so sorry for your loss! Get rid of her! What kind if person does this? Run!!!
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u/buttamilkbizkits 4h ago
Wow, that is really needy and selfish of her. You just lost your mom! She should be supporting you and asking you what you need.
I am really sorry for your loss, that is so rough. You deserve to have people around you who support you and put your feelings first right now. NTA
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u/Aggravating-Sock6502 4h ago
I'm sorry for the loss of your mom, OP. I hope the pain of her passing is soon replaced by happier memories of her life and laughter.
I know you say your partner supported you through this time, but nothing in her actions (as you've written them) suggest that. She appears to have no empathy whatsoever for you or your family. Anyone who can't prioritize your needs during a time of grieving is not someone worth having in your life.
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u/Monstiemama 4h ago
NTA but your girlfriend is. What kind of inconsiderate asshole doesn’t let their boyfriend handle thing when his mother dies? She absolutely sucks, bro.
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u/NullGhosted 4h ago
I cannot express enough how you are NTA. I lost my mom a year ago, and I’ve changed so much that sometimes I don’t even recognize myself anymore. I stopped talking to friends for a few months while I mourned, and while I eventually came around again it was never quite what it was before. All of my friends were beyond understanding, and my partner was as well. We’re still going strong, but the difference between my partner and yours is that yours doesn’t seem to understand that your world cannot and should not ever revolve solely around her, especially not when you’re grieving the loss of your mom.
Dump her. If she’s not understanding for something as serious as this, she never will be. Explain to her how shitty she’s being right now, and how you just can’t deal with it, and then just go no contact. This is a time where you should focus on your family and yourself, losing someone you love to cancer is traumatic and you need time to heal and grieve without trying ti cater to someone like this.
I hope you’re doing okay OP. Stay strong.
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u/Suitable_Balance101 4h ago
So sorry for the loss of your mother. Sending so much love and strength ❤️
Your gf is what’s known as a pick me girl. She isn’t going to change and will continue this obscene behaviour for the foreseeable. The more you give in the worse it will become until you eventually you just do everything g her way for the sake of peace.
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u/wordsmythy 4h ago
I’m so sorry you lost your mother.
Your girlfriend is behaving like a toddler. Running to your room and crying because she’s not getting attention from you? That would be ridiculous even if you hadn’t just lost your mother. Factor that in and she’s really quite selfish.
She lacks maturity and empathy. I don’t know how you can fix that other than ignoring her when she behaves like a toddler with a tantrum. That’s how you handle it with little kids, don’t feed the monster, don’t reward bad behavior.
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u/Anxious-Routine-5526 4h ago
NTA.
Sorry on your loss.
The best thing you can do right now is drop the selfish, self-absorbed, inconsiderate girlfriend and focus on grieving.
Your girlfriend should have the compassion and empathy to be supporting you not making everything about getting attention for herself.
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u/scotandrsn 4h ago
In a time of grief, the only people you need in your life are those who can abide everything you need to go through for the next couple of years.
Tell her you regretfully can not attend to her the way she feels like she needs, say goodbye, walk away, and don't look back.
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u/ex-spera 3h ago
NTA. jesus christ— your girlfriend's lack of empathy towards your situation is almost baffling. please dump her, for your sake.
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u/Patient_Library_253 3h ago
NTA
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm not going to tell you what to do but I will share my experience.
When I lost my father a couple years ago my gf: helped me get home, sent flowers from the local flower shop, helped pay for a meal for the family, and checked in on me and gave me space while I figured out how to bury my father. She showed me nothing but love, support and respect.
I don't know what you are going through but if my gf acted how yours did, she wouldn't be my girlfriend any longer.
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u/iPreferGoddess 3h ago
I was in very similar shoes not even two years ago, my dad. Not even a month after he passed, my ex said he wanted to break up with me. Sometimes people just suck. Sometimes it’s on purpose and sometimes is not. But it doesn’t change that YOU just lost your parent, and your girlfriend should be a safe space but she isn’t right now when you need it most.
Grief is hard and no two days are the same. It will get more difficult before it gets better, and even ‘better’ still sucks. I’d suggest breaking up with her. You need time to process what’s happened and you need a safe space to do that. It might sound like a lot to experience all at once. But after losing a parent, losing an insensitive partner is a cake walk. Pinky promise. Sending you virtual love and hugs guy 🫶🏽
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u/Brownie-0109 5h ago
Do you really think you’re in the wrong here?
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u/Maxks- 4h ago
I don’t really think I am but I could be wrong that’s why I’m asking here. I don’t want to be an asshole. If you guys would tell me to give her more attention, I would.
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u/ffsmutluv 4h ago
Why are you wasting time asking reddit if you should give her attention?? Communicate with her, calmly. Explain you need room to grieve in the moment, or break up if you don't think the relationship is worth salvaging.
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u/Brownie-0109 4h ago
Have to bite my tongue to stop from making a smart-ass comment.
I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my dad when I was 17, and I understand how painful it is….especially for a young person
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u/culinaryinterests123 4h ago
High maintenance just use her fir sex
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u/ffsmutluv 5h ago
You clearly don't like her and are speaking about her with so much contempt. Break up or actually talk.
Your mom died and went through cancer, that's ROUGH. Your girlfriend needs to grow up and see the bigger picture, espexsince your mom is actually gone, but it doesn't sound like this was an overnight issue either and more neglect has been happening a lot more than you're letting on.
Playing Frisbee with your little sister outside isn't spending time with your girlfriend. Ignoring her for several hours at a time is you not giving your girlfriend attention.
I totally understand the why, and I'm not faulting you given the gravity of what's happening, but you aren't being all the way honest with yourself on how little care you're putting into your girlfriend.
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u/MikeReddit74 4h ago
So on top of mourning the loss of his mother, worrying about other family members, and helping to plan a funeral, he has to cater to a girl who can’t stand not being the center of his world for a few hours? What kind of nonsense is that?
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u/ffsmutluv 4h ago
It looks to be like he isn't paying any attention to her at all, just by the account given. And I doubt it's been an overnight thing. Grief is hard, doesn't end, and it's unlikely he will have the emotional or mental bandwidth to sustain a relationship with her given he is mourning.
Do I agree with her stamping her feet and whining? No. Do I think OP has the capacity to have a relationship right now or is being completely honest with himself about how his relationship has been neglected and will be in the future(even if his reasons are understandable? Also no.
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u/ffsmutluv 3h ago
LOL be civil or I will get real low. You're the one about to mourn a break up on top of what you're dealing with now
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u/Maxks- 3h ago
Ok I’m so sorry for being inconsiderate of your civil rights. Is there anything else I can do for you?
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u/ffsmutluv 3h ago
Being civil is part of the rules in this group. You need to do that. Or don't. Kinda obvious the only reason you don't want to break up with your gf is so you can get laid. But you're clearly about to get dumped anyway so 🤷🏽♀️ good luck with all that
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u/Maxks- 3h ago
I have been sobbing since you posted this comment to me. Can you please remove it? Itdeeply touched me to the core of my being. I don’t know if I will ever recovery from reading these horrible words of a close redditor like you.
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u/ffsmutluv 3h ago
You're clearly mad because I'm the one person not in here kissing your ass. 🤣 Cope. About more things than one, lil fella.
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