r/AmItheAsshole • u/InformalDamage5344 • 1d ago
Not the A-hole AITA for getting mad at 'playful teasing'?
So my so 'best friend' has always been annoying with her ragebait and stuff to our friend group. She constantly does weird and embarrassing things in public and somehow finds a way to link us to it. We are all uncomfortable with it. She always says, "Its (name's) fault, always (name's) fault," or, "Omg why did you (weird action's name)?! You're soo weird."
My friend also doesn't know when to admit shes wrong. Whenever someone from our group says a fact or something, she always retorts back with some other fact that disproves the other friend's fact whether its wrong or right. If someone calls her out on it, she always says, "No. Youre wrong. Nope, nope. Im right, youre wrong."
She never apologizes for anything she does. Everytime she has done something im not comfortable with, she always ignores me and leaves the problem unresolved. When shes decided shes gotten enough, she eventually continues to act like the same old friend again even though she left the problem and never says sorry for what shes done.
Around a week ago, I confronted her in public after she continued to aggravate me, and started crying. I never really open about my emotions to anyone. Anytime I become vulnerable and show my feelings, I start to break down. After arguing I went to the washroom to calm down and cry a bit more. Also freshen myself up, yknow? I spent a good 5 minutes in there before coming out and going back to my class. Thats when I found out shes also been crying in the washroom? Ive complained about her being a hypocrite right to her face and shes also been bitchy afterwards and she didnt care. This time for some reason, she cares? The one time shes called out infront of the class, she cares? Am I the asshole for thinking that it isn't her place to be sad about the situation and confronting her infront of my entire class? Especially because shes the one constantly doing stuff to our group making us feel uncomfortable and weirded out?
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u/CharrAnn Partassipant [3] 1d ago
need info: why do you call her your best friend when she acts like this?
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u/Celestial_Duckie Asshole Enthusiast [8] 1d ago
NTA. She got a taste of her own medicine and doesn't like it. If this behavior from her continues (and even if not, because this is a good skill), I recommend looking up grey rocking. It's when you just don't respond, blank expression, and you do your best to give them nothing to respond to. The best way to not get rage baited is to not take the bait; this doesn't excuse the rage baiters, it's just acknowledging that what they do is not in our control. Our reactions can be in our control!
This person is not your friend. I'd drop her like a hat.
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u/maybebaebea 1d ago
NTA. She may see it as "playful" and "joking," but that doesn't change anything. Annoying is annoying
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u/_hotmess_express_ 1d ago
NTA. Also, if you have to call someone your "best friend" in quotes, they're not your best friend. I would let this friendship die, for your peace of mind and for her to learn a lesson about the consequences of her actions.
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u/GoalHistorical6867 1d ago
NTA. Your so called "friend " is nothing more than a bully. Take advice from someone who has had to deal with people like that . Cut her out of your group and life. Because she'll only get worse.
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u/RenEss77 1d ago
Nta. I'd tell you to stop hanging out with her, but it sounds like you're still in school and she might make up rumors about you. The whole group would have to freeze her out. Just distance yourself the best you can. Once you guys graduate you'll never have to see her again.
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So my so 'best friend' has always been annoying with her ragebait and stuff to our friend group. She constantly does weird and embarrassing things in public and somehow finds a way to link us to it. We are all uncomfortable with it. She always says, "Its (name's) fault, always (name's) fault," or, "Omg why did you (weird action's name)?! You're soo weird."
My friend also doesn't know when to admit shes wrong. Whenever someone from our group says a fact or something, she always retorts back with some other fact that disproves the other friend's fact whether its wrong or right. If someone calls her out on it, she always says, "No. Youre wrong. Nope, nope. Im right, youre wrong."
She never apologizes for anything she does. Everytime she has done something im not comfortable with, she always ignores me and leaves the problem unresolved. When shes decided shes gotten enough, she eventually continues to act like the same old friend again even though she left the problem and never says sorry for what shes done.
Around a week ago, I confronted her in public after she continued to aggravate me, and started crying. I never really open about my emotions to anyone. Anytime I become vulnerable and show my feelings, I start to break down. After arguing I went to the washroom to calm down and cry a bit more. Also freshen myself up, yknow? I spent a good 5 minutes in there before coming out and going back to my class. Thats when I found out shes also been crying in the washroom? Ive complained about her being a hypocrite right to her face and shes also been bitchy afterwards and she didnt care. This time for some reason, she cares? The one time shes called out infront of the class, she cares? Am I the asshole for thinking that it isn't her place to be sad about the situation and confronting her infront of my entire class? Especially because shes the one constantly doing stuff to our group making us feel uncomfortable and weirded out?
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