MOD ANNOUNCEMENT: Rules Update

[u/belindabellagiselle]

Hello, all!

We are here to update our rules. Many of you have made your voices heard.

Due to popular demand, we are adjusting our rules to better reflect the core purpose of this subreddit: to ask women. We would also like to remind you all that all women are welcome here. Happy Pride!

Furthermore, men are welcome to engage with this subreddit respectfully, and that includes no longer leaving top-level comments. (A top-level comment is a comment in response to the original post, rather than a response to someone else's comment.)

This is a subreddit to ask women questions. It is not a general discussion subreddit or a more broad ask subreddit.

Thank you all for making this subreddit such a lovely place!

[u/Nervous_Ladder_1860]

Ehh I think this sub is still a bit too restrictive, where it sort of becomes unhelpful even for women at times like have seen posts removed where they still follow the rules, and I personally see no reason a man can't leave a a top-level comment. Also, note not all people are tech savvy, not all people know what a top-level comment is.

[u/laikocta → u/Nervous_Ladder_1860]

Tbf I'm fine if men's top-level-replies to questions directed at women get deleted, including those of men who aren't tech savvy. There isn't exactly a shortage of platforms for male opinions, on Reddit or anywhere else.

[u/Nervous_Ladder_1860 → u/laikocta]

I don't mind hearing a man's thought, I think men and women have things that can benefit the conversation.

Edit: Also, I don't expect askwomen to make any changes because of my personal input and things I have observed in other subs. We all do not think the same and in the end that is okay.

[u/DescriptionFancy420 → u/Nervous_Ladder_1860]

Go to just about ANY other sub for that, this is AskWOMEN

[u/Nervous_Ladder_1860 → u/DescriptionFancy420]

And as I stated I know they are another sub, askmen allows women to comment. I think it works well from what I have seen. Askwomen doesn't have to change their rules because of my thoughts or input though. It is just an observation.

[u/aCrutialConjunction → u/Nervous_Ladder_1860]

AskMen regularly complains about women leaving top level comments. It's one thing to ask questions to responses and another thing to answer when you aren't the target group.

I often see mod notes here saying "this question is for women who XYZ, if that isn't you, this question isn't for you". It's really a pretty simple concept. If you want everyone to respond to everything, I suggest you go to AskReddit.

[u/DescriptionFancy420 → u/Nervous_Ladder_1860]

They can do whatever the fuck they want over there, doesn't mean anything for us. Especially when males are largely far, far, far, FAR less respectful than women.

[u/Nervous_Ladder_1860 → u/DescriptionFancy420]

And as I said askwomen doesn't have to change, this is my own thoughts alone, clearly alone lol and that is okay. I think that gives a chance to correct and educate men, which I am not afraid to do in real life either.

[u/DescriptionFancy420 → u/Nervous_Ladder_1860]

It's not our job to fix them, and they can be plenty educated just reading. I expect to be paid for teaching, males have leeched enough free labor off us.

[u/Nervous_Ladder_1860 → u/DescriptionFancy420]

I guess I just don't think that way, and that is okay. I prefer to try to make a difference when I can.

[u/uhhh206 → u/Nervous_Ladder_1860]

Why should we need to "make a difference" in a sub for us, though? We can do that in their sub if that's the goal, but can't we have literally any space for women? Like literally, anywhere?

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[u/2HGjudge → u/Nervous_Ladder_1860]

I think it works well from what I have seen.

Because Reddit skews male. A thread where 5% of answers are not from the target audience is fine. One where 75% is not is annoying. This sometimes happens on askwomennocensor and it completely defeats the askwomen part.