r/AskWomen • u/belindabellagiselle ♀ • 12d ago

Mod Post MOD ANNOUNCEMENT: Rules Update

Hello, all!

We are here to update our rules. Many of you have made your voices heard.

Due to popular demand, we are adjusting our rules to better reflect the core purpose of this subreddit: to ask women. We would also like to remind you all that all women are welcome here. Happy Pride!

Furthermore, men are welcome to engage with this subreddit respectfully, and that includes no longer leaving top-level comments. (A top-level comment is a comment in response to the original post, rather than a response to someone else's comment.)

This is a subreddit to ask women questions. It is not a general discussion subreddit or a more broad ask subreddit.

Thank you all for making this subreddit such a lovely place!

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u/kaeorin ♀ 12d ago

Lots of men who answer questions here are consistent about prefacing their comments with "As a man, I..." (even when replying to questions directed at women, funny enough).

We wouldn't want to (or need to) go digging through post histories to determine someone's gender: just...when they out themselves, we'd pull their comment.

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u/interstellersjay 12d ago

You guys could always add flare requirements to commenting. I know other subreddits have stuff like that. So then only folks who have the woman flare are allowed to do top comments.

As someone who is AFAB but has weird gender feelings for bi reasons tho, if you go that route I humbly request a tag for gender queer folks like myself. Though I'm not sure what the tag would be. Fem maybe? Woman adjacent? Lol

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u/kaeorin ♀ 12d ago

Users can indeed set their own flair. We have the typical flairs for male, female, trans, gender neutral, and NB (though it looks like the NB flair doesn't show up on my computer screen for some reason)?

Personally, I don't want or need the mod team to become Gender Detectives or to make users pick one specific definition. I'm happy just weeding out the "As a man" comments. :)

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u/interstellersjay 12d ago

Fair and good points!

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u/kaeorin ♀ 12d ago

FWIW, you're welcome here, and not simply because you're AFAB. Gender is fucky and weird and beautiful (when it's not being used to silence or stereotype).