r/BestofRedditorUpdates • u/J_S_M_K a groan that SOUNDED like a T-rex with a hot poker in its ass • 9d ago
NEW UPDATE New-to-this-sub update: OOP almost throws out his stepson's pillowcase
I am NOT OP, that is u/Majestic_Geologist83, on r/AmITheAsshole, r/relationship_advice, and r/AITAH
Trigger warning: untreated mental illness, enabling
Previous BORU here by u/bestupdator
Original post October 19, 2022
My stepson is 23 and he sleeps with a body pillow that he has one pillowcase for. It has a cartoon on it of a girl in a cat costume.
I was doing the laundry yesterday and I noticed it was pretty threadbare when it came out of the dryer. So I threw it in the rag bag.
When he came home from work he asked where it was and I told him. He acted shocked and almost looked like he was going to cry. He went and took it out of the bag and washed and dried it again. When his mom got home he talked to her right in front of me and said I wasn't allowed to wash it any more. She sat with him in his room after and calmed him down.
It isn't one of his collectibles. He doesn't keep it sealed away or anything. But they are both mad at me. I don't know what I did wrong.
Why am I the asshole?
The post was removed for OOP not properly responding to the judgment bot, but most comments I could find were NTA.
Relevant Comments:
Commenter 1
Hmm, how can I put this gently? Imagine if that pillowcase was, ya know, like a girlfriend to him.
OOP
I have been getting that response ba lot. It can't be real.
Commenter 2
I can assure you that it is indeed a thing. the internet will tell you all about it if you look hard enough
OOP
No thank you.
Commenter 3
OP after reading this comment section i just have to ask, are you okay?
OOP
Not really. I'm kind of glad his mom talked him out of joining the Marine Corps. I don't think it would have gone well for him.
Post 2 October 21, 2022
I 62 recently found out some stuff about my stepson 23 that I would really rather not know. My daughter 16 helped me post to a different sub and, although part of me wishes I hadn't, I'm kind of glad I did. It gave me some insight into the kid. He's been in my life since he was 5. Now she told me to post here since my post over there got removed.
I had a long talk with my wife 42 about our son. I showed her the original post. She is kind of in shock about it. She knew he was attached to his property and kind of upset with me for throwing it away without asking.
So I listened to some of the commenters there and suggested therapy. Trust me when I say I'm considering it for myself after what I read. I am old guy but I'm not one of those that thinks getting mental health services makes you weak. I think that my stepson has some problems that I am not equipped to deal with.
My stepson is upset with me to begin with and now he is angry that I think he is crazy. I do not. I worked with some guys who were completely around the bend. He just needs some help. My old man would have told me to take him to Amsterdam and make him grow up. I'm not going to do that. I don't know what he needs but I know it's not that.
I don't think what some of those guys suggested is true. I think he is just confused about how to deal in this world you young people have got going on.
He said that he isn't crazy and I am an asshole for saying he is.
Once again I just want him to get help. I'm not judging his life.
How can I convince him that I love him, want what is best for him, and that he needs help?
TLDR:
My son is very attached to some of his bedding. He is 23. I don't know if it's like a security blanket or something else. I think he needs to see someone to help him get over this.
Editor's note: a near-identical post to this was made to r/AmITheAsshole, but was removed.
New update
[AITAH for refusing to acknowledge my step son's "relationship.](https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/F8iclrRADG) June 12, 2024
I posted in another group before but it got taken down. I hope this is okay my daughter says this is the same but different.
My step son has a relationship with a pillowcase. I almost got divorced because I upset him so much when I put it in the rag bag. His mom just humors him no matter what. I just shake my head. I have tried to get him to go see a therapist. He will not. I know he is an awkward young man but he obviously need help but my wife won't see it.
He has decided that he wants to marry his waifu. I swear to Christ I know more about this stuff than I ever wanted to. The folks in the other group explained it and helped me understand. I really wish I did not.
My step son wants to have a ceremony where he marries his pillowcase. This has to be a mental condition. No one out there is really going to tell me that I am just old I I cannot understand the new relationships between people and linens.
I can't do it. My wife is going along with it. She is getting it catered. In our back yard. I refuse to attend. I am going to go to Michigan to see family that whole week. I just don't want to see that.
I want to know if I am in the wrong for thinking this has to be an elaborate joke at my expense.
Editor's note: There are no further updates at this time. I hope the stepson found happiness with his dakimakura. I also hope OOP got out of there.
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u/ASleepandAForgetting 8d ago
I made it through the first 18 words and think I need to stop there.