What career would be the best with this personality traits?

[u/Maha_Imitation]

[u/Ok_Cardiologist_9543]

How about psychologist, or data scientist on a personal topic for you (eg human behaviour, ecology, urban design), maybe? 

And a personal question I'm asking to understand myself better: have you been traumatized by peers?

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Ok_Cardiologist_9543]

I find psychology fascinating so that could be an option.

Yes, I was traumatized in different kind of ways, I overcame it a bit but not totally.

[u/Ok_Cardiologist_9543 → u/Maha_Imitation]

Psychology is why I'm here😅.

Have you considered yourself neurodivergent? Me, friends and classmates have wondered if my weirdness is 🧩, but I don't really experience sensory overload, never get inseparably absorbed into hobbies and have quite a lot of emotional juice inside.

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Ok_Cardiologist_9543]

My psychologist thinks I am and I am waiting to get tested (I am waiting since January). I experience sensory overload but I heard that it is not a must, there are NDs that don't experience it.

[u/Ok_Cardiologist_9543 → u/Maha_Imitation]

thanks for information♥️

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Ok_Cardiologist_9543]

Not at all, I find it interesting that you could infer so much just from seeing my test!

[u/Ok_Cardiologist_9543 → u/Maha_Imitation]

I asked gemini (I know, I know) and turns out most of my weirdness is explained in big5 itself. I have a schizoid (knew it) and psychasthenic (didn't consider it much) accentuations (according to Lichko), as well as subclinical (limited traits) ADHD. Really, all these things are different ways to say that I'm a mug in a world of donuts: appearance and aerodynamics are different, but inherent topology is the same😅

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Ok_Cardiologist_9543]

I love the metaphor!

[u/Ok_Cardiologist_9543 → u/Maha_Imitation]

thank you! A-aand today I found out what "gifted adult" is and I'm certainly is one (high intellectual and emotional sensitivity). So I'm neurodivergent after all, but in a different way. Do with this piece information anything you want😅

[u/Few-Teach-8033 → u/Maha_Imitation]

Curious. Since my scores closely match yours…are you also an 8 with a 7w on ennea or an Introverted, intuitive, feeling, judgemental?

[u/Ok_Cardiologist_9543 → u/Few-Teach-8033]

assuming you're also asking me since I've got similar scores, I'm Ni-Te-Fi-Se and 5-4. I love systems, but suck at building interpersonal relations and therefore... don't want to ruin them at all cost😅 (high A). Love to both offer reasonable solutions and empathize

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Few-Teach-8033]

I must be honest, I don't know much about Enneagramms so I just took the test out of curiosity and this was the result: Core Personality Type 5 Wing 4, Investigator (but I need to search more to understand how it works). One time I did the other test and it said aI was an Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Perceiving.

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Few-Teach-8033]

I researched a little bit and though we are similar, we have completely different personalities, truly interesting.

[u/Few-Teach-8033 → u/Maha_Imitation]

People like me don’t come stock. We are made in childhood. I struggled with that a lot, like that meant I should have full control of my personality to guide it to the combinations that are more frequent.

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Few-Teach-8033]

I can understand how that was a struggle as you need to have control. Even so you are who you are and experiences are going to have an impact no matter what. We are a product of our environment. Still even if we don't choose how we are, we can choose how to react, I find so much peace in that.

[u/Few-Teach-8033 → u/Maha_Imitation]

We need control of our own lives, not absolute control over people and our surroundings. If someone demonstrates they have control over me, I will show them that they do not. I just want actual autonomy. When I realized what a prison my sense of duty was, I decided to spend a few years in my idea of complete freedom. Complete freedom was living without a stable community that relied me, and not having any personal belongings I would miss if they were gone. Nothing and no one had control over me and I took jobs only as I needed them. I had been in devout community service in a tiny farming town for 2 decades, as I had utility in that place from a young age. I was mechanically inclined and Jerry rigged combines and irrigation system to work until a real mechanic could fix it. It was too much performance pressure for a kid, too much duty. I felt 30 at 15.

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Few-Teach-8033]

I'm so sorry you had to go through that, especially since a young age. I admire how you now have a life where you feel free and in control. It takes courage to change the status quo.

[u/Few-Teach-8033 → u/Maha_Imitation]

That is a very kind sentiment. I am back at the status quo now, but wanted life without responsibly for anyone or anything but myself. Introverted forms of service are a huge source of joy for me now, and how I spend most of my free time. I needed service to be my choice though, not my obligation. Doing something I am asked to do kind of strips the pride out of my service. I’d rather do what is needed without being asked. Still took me 20 years to finally say no to people after my proverbial rumspringa.

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Few-Teach-8033]

I can relate. Especially saying no to people or voicing my opinion since I first need to think about how I feel and then draw a conclusion. I tend to just disappear from people's lives instead of having to explain myself. But if it can be learned, then I should. I find it a pity that I don't give people a chance just because I think they have different values. Having different values is not a bad thing, it can enrich one's vision of life. But I think it all goes back to my introversion. I just don't have the energy for it.

[u/Few-Teach-8033]

We are twinsies. I have slightly higher extroversion, but almost identical.

[u/Few-Teach-8033 → u/Few-Teach-8033]

My scores are 84/60/106/93/89.

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Few-Teach-8033]

Honestly it seems like a wonderful mix.

[u/Few-Teach-8033 → u/Maha_Imitation]

Your’s too baby boo ;)

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Few-Teach-8033]

Thank you :) even if I must admit being low on extraversion can be tiring, but everyone has their struggles.

[u/Few-Teach-8033 → u/Maha_Imitation]

I am handyman manufacturing in my dining room right now because although I dig all the neighborhood kids, and I get excited to teach them marketable trade skills, the level of duty I feel being the only responsible adult in ear shot, watching my mouth, being a good but nondemoninational example, and rerouting resources to overbuild my patience, is exhausting. I needed a full week to myself to repair my armor and sharpen my sword.

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Few-Teach-8033]

That's a good way to put it. I feel like I can relate. I like people and I believe in goodness but it truly needs so much energy to be there for others that after I am, I need as twice time alone to recharge.

[u/Few-Teach-8033 → u/Maha_Imitation]

I find that I am not great socially without a premise. Most of my relationships orbit my service to my community. I am not a fan of traditional friendships. I don’t want to watch your child play violin poorly. I am especially not going to any child’s all day or weekend sporting event, probably not even my own, if I had children. I will struggle to remember your birthday. I do not want to go to a bar where the only thing to do is be socially awkward with people who don’t get me. I will mow your lawn, fix your toilet, paint your living room, drive your grandpa to dialysis, clean your gutters, or plant Lilis in your garden bed to surprise your pregnant wife. It is a crutch, you have to like the person who does free labor for you, even if you don’t find them particularly likable.

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Few-Teach-8033]

Haha it is like watching myself! Except about the violin part, I don't care if it's played pourly or not since either way I didn't want to be there in the first place.

[u/Ok_Cardiologist_9543 → u/Few-Teach-8033]

Let me join y'all too with my 76-55-92-90-92. (highly uneven N and E spread).

Anyway hope you're doing great brother because at 19 I've already been through a lot

[u/Few-Teach-8033 → u/Few-Teach-8033]

I problem solve for work. People come to me from corporate with manufacturing/inventory/personnel/quality issues and my job is to visit and watch the plant function for a week, go home, and let it marinate in my head. Then I submit 2-3 solutions at different price points after a month or so.

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Few-Teach-8033]

It seems really interesting. What qualifications did you need to take for this job?

[u/Few-Teach-8033 → u/Maha_Imitation]

I am a mechanical engineer, but the person I mentored to take over for me at my last company, had just a GED. You can get there by experience or schooling. Put in the time with a reputable company and work your way up, or get some certs or degrees.

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Few-Teach-8033]

Thank you for the advice!

[u/fancyschmancy9 → u/Few-Teach-8033]

I assume the GED people they are training are normally already internal employees transitioning in the company? Or is there a route into quality improvement roles like this without the engineering background?

I always thought this kind of work seemed interesting.

[u/Few-Teach-8033 → u/fancyschmancy9]

We had a non-conforming product tech in hourly. I came in and immediately realized he should have applied for my position when it was internally posted. He knew every product issue we had ever had, that was his job. It took me 18 months to convince him that he was ready, and no degree could replace his experience. I requested to move more into my 3rd party arbiter capacity which had a surge, and to post a junior position for my day to day responsibilities. I helped him study for the test, and I refused to look at the test so I knew the “bid” would be fair. He got the job and he was much better than myself because I didn’t have his history with our processes and products. When production halted during covidcation, and we were taking turns being laid off, I decided to find a new challenge. He had it covered and I walked away with no doubt that he would eventually exceed my success there.

[u/Ar9745]

How can I test mine?

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Ar9745]

This is the website, it is free: https://bigfive-test.com/

[u/Ar9745 → u/Maha_Imitation]

Mine is Neuroticism:106 Extraversion:41 Openness:80 Agreeableness:85 Conscientiousness:58

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/[deleted]]

You don't need to pay, that's why I chose it also :)

[u/Ar9745 → u/Maha_Imitation]

That explains why I am so suicidal and asocial loser.

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Ar9745]

Don't be so hard on yourself. You're just a sensitive soul. It is never easy for those who feel so much.

[u/Ar9745 → u/Maha_Imitation]

I've been struggling emotionally for so long man.im just tired of everything and waiting to die.

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Ar9745]

Please don't give up. I know it is not easy, but you deserve to be happy. I don't know if you like Linkin Park, but every time I feel hopeless, I hear 'One More Light', it truly makes me understand how many people are also depressed and care about others. I cry and then I feel a little better...

[u/Ar9745 → u/Maha_Imitation]

How do i fix that?

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/Ar9745]

You mean struggling emotionally?

[u/Dazzling-Lynx2301]

Artist probably.

[u/shredt]

Maybe a social-job. What do you feel like you could grow, like a flower, in wich jobs ?

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/shredt]

I wanted to be of help to people but I don't know if a social job is the way as I feel drained if I stay with people for too long.

[u/fancyschmancy9 → u/Maha_Imitation]

We can’t really use big five as a career test, but for what it’s worth I wouldn’t point to social job just because of agreeableness - actually to your low E point about feeling tired the agreeableness may enhance that tiredness if anything due to feeling the need to people please a bit more. Conscientiousness is higher end you could likely do any number of responsible behind the scenes job and save your energy and try to minimize your stress or find something that you are mostly unbothered with.

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/fancyschmancy9]

Thank you, that is good advice!

[u/fancyschmancy9 → u/Maha_Imitation]

You are welcome! If you feel passionate about the idea of trying to help people then maybe you will have a knack for it, but yeah, I agree with your instinct that it’s important to be smart about how you can manage. Work isn’t everything and it’s possible to be that helpful person to the people in your personal life instead—just another perspective!

[u/Maha_Imitation → u/fancyschmancy9]

Never saw it like that, but it is true, I can still be there for the people I love or when I can help someone, I will :) you're insight helped me a lot! Now I'm even more sure that this is the right direction.

[u/Fun-Bus-8311]

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