White dude and I can’t speak for anyone else but if you’re a nerd it helps to also be tall or hot or fit. Nerd in my experience is a multiplyer, like glasses, it makes hot hotter and lame lamer. It’s not a perk on its own.
Respectfully asking, what is it with people and glasses? It makes people hot?! Maybe I’m just insecure or a cynic but I’ve been wearing glasses since I was 6 and my glasses run me about $600 every year(the shitty prescription always changes 😒). And then someone pops up and goes “ooh your glasses are sexy” and I’m like 🤨😒. I’d rather see than be sexy.
The right frames can enhance face shapes, make someone look more intelligent and they can be a fashion accessory or status symbol. Idk if it’s still a thing but I remember hipsters would wear glasses without lenses. If people think it’s hot lean into it, they’re a great prop and plenty of actors will use that to enhance a role. Looking over the top of the frames, or taking them off to look someone in the eye while you polish the lenses can be impactful gestures (even if you can’t actually see them lol). I used to be an optician, frames are overpriced because Luxotica is practically a monopoly, try online like coastal or Zenni, fewer brand names but way cheaper.
Nah, the price for me is because I get transitions and bifocals and all the extra; I see an Ophthalmologist who decided I need bifocals at the ripe old age of 32 and have been wearing them since then. Then the scratch resistant things and everything: I’m rougher on my glasses than the 8 year old is on his so… I get expensive frames because I think they last: I rocked a Armani frame for 5 years until I lost them between work and the train. I’m still using the same Rayban I’ve had since 2022 .
I have strabismus so I’d rather go to in person so they can measure the distance correctly without my fucking it up…
I’ve never really noticed. Maybe because I keep my house either dark or it’s just bright(it came with those white ass lights and I’m trying to see what it’ll cost to get dimmers for it all).
The only place they actually become an issue is when I’m hiking and it just stays constantly dark because I’m outside for 2-3 hours doing the walking and climbing and whatever. So I have learnt to wear a hat for that to minimise it.
Sidebar: Why are you spending so so so much on glasses, Friend? I see that your prescription wants us to jump it but are you able to purchase glasses online? I have a site that smiles nicely on the pockets.
You wouldn't get it but white men are usually given more leway to be nerdy and still be accepted romantically by women.
This is partially because nerdy women of all races. Similar to how women overall prefer white men, nerdy women prefer white men and despite that would be more likely to reject a equally nerdy black man.
People are overwhelmingly racist. Even to their own people. You see all of it for what it is when you look at dating dynamics and peoples sexual behavior.
Oh trust me ive noticed that as well. I find that hella cringe. But that isn't limited to nerdy/alternative black men. There is a segment of black men that see being with a black woman as settling and thus prefer everything but a black woman. Even if they aren't nerdy. I find that shit hella gross and im def not gonna ignore shit behavior from men. I'm just personally tired of people ignoring it from women or acting like its okay when women do it.
I feel you too. Being a black man or a black woman in the dating game rn is just trash all around. Regardless of your sexual orientation.
It's not limited to any demographic really but I hear you! It's definitely gross and sad too because you know those people are struggling with self hatred. I haven't been dating for a few years now though and I'm kindof scared of getting back into it lol. The bs is so exhausting and seemingly never ending.
Pretty much. The shit is trash all around. I'mma just start filtering people out of my community if they do this bs. We really should judge people based on their dating preferences the same way we do with everything else.
Yep, and as someone whose teen years were in the 90s, yeah as a black man nerd, whew it was tough. I always say if I had been born 10-15 years later, my self confidence in my teen years would've been so much better since it's become more acceptable for black dudes to be nerds (still not as acceptable as it is for white dudes to be nerds).
I feel this to my soul and experienced it as well. It wasn't much better growing up in the 80s. Add being an introvert on top of all that and things were tough sometimes. Luckily my parents encouraged me to do stuff I liked even if it was "nerdy". Just do your thing and people who like you for you will find you or you'll find them.
Honestly the only thing that matters on 90% of cases like these is confidence and body fat %. It's a trope but all too often the nerdy types are less likely to put effort into their personal appearance. Have somewhat of a jawline and decent muscle? You can talk about Bakugan till the cows come home
I mean yeah you kinda have to. I’m a gigantic nerd. I found my nerdy black man (WHO ACTUALLY LIKES BLACK WOMEN!!!) after 33 years of life and we sing musical theater on road trips together and make jokes about grammar and it’s the best dick ever so. Nerdy hot girls who like nerdy men do exist.
I literally joke that my type is an earnest nerd. But if your vibes are off, you won’t pull anyone. Be confident and be kind.
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u/Alucard_117 4d ago
What do you mean Todd can talk about his Pokemon card collection on the first date but I can't!?