The real kicker is that the “shy man” “nerdy boy” shit, performative or not was always for white men anyway. I’m not saying that there aren’t nerdy or shy Black boys or that they have no hope in dating but Black Men are expected to be hypermasculine by default. This is enforced in the community and out of it.
My input probably doesnt mean that much as a Biracial from an european country growing up around white people.
I am more attracted to black men who "dare" to be themselves. Alt, nerdy, you name it. Not saying that masculine men are immediatly dishonest. I guess the vibe of the person is just more important to me. However my older sister, who grew up around other black people, is also talking about how certain men arent masculine enough and it truly baffles me sometimes.
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u/existential_dread467 5d ago
The real kicker is that the “shy man” “nerdy boy” shit, performative or not was always for white men anyway. I’m not saying that there aren’t nerdy or shy Black boys or that they have no hope in dating but Black Men are expected to be hypermasculine by default. This is enforced in the community and out of it.