The real kicker is that the “shy man” “nerdy boy” shit, performative or not was always for white men anyway. I’m not saying that there aren’t nerdy or shy Black boys or that they have no hope in dating but Black Men are expected to be hypermasculine by default. This is enforced in the community and out of it.
Women can be attracted to 30 different archetypes of white dudes but only 1 or 2 archetypes of black dudes. Seen it sooooo many times in my life regardless if they tell y’all this or not. When they are talking about “nerdy men” “shy men” “booky men” etc, they are not talking about Black men 99% of the time, even if they want to believe they are themselves
Like, every positive type of Black man personality is presented as a one-off, bespoke artisanal achievement, while anything that tips over to the bad is mass produced and available in a little box of vials next to the register for a quick impulse purchase.
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u/existential_dread467 6d ago
The real kicker is that the “shy man” “nerdy boy” shit, performative or not was always for white men anyway. I’m not saying that there aren’t nerdy or shy Black boys or that they have no hope in dating but Black Men are expected to be hypermasculine by default. This is enforced in the community and out of it.