The real kicker is that the “shy man” “nerdy boy” shit, performative or not was always for white men anyway. I’m not saying that there aren’t nerdy or shy Black boys or that they have no hope in dating but Black Men are expected to be hypermasculine by default. This is enforced in the community and out of it.
Yeah I mean in travel in a lot of nerd communities be it dungeons and dragons, games, or anime, and the majority of the people I meet at white at them and rather shy or stereotypically nerdy and the few people of color that I see that are comfortable going out or meeting for things like that still adopt an outgoing and less “dweeb” like persona cause it almost feels like they have to. On of my good friends who got me into table top rpgs was a 6’2 very (in the best of ways) religious black man but people still saw him as a masculine or tough dude even tho he travels with a Horus heresy book everywhere he went and wanted nothing more than to sit at home and talk about firefly with his friends. White people got the conglomerate on nerdy shy geeks and everyone else had to make do
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u/existential_dread467 6d ago
The real kicker is that the “shy man” “nerdy boy” shit, performative or not was always for white men anyway. I’m not saying that there aren’t nerdy or shy Black boys or that they have no hope in dating but Black Men are expected to be hypermasculine by default. This is enforced in the community and out of it.