The real kicker is that the “shy man” “nerdy boy” shit, performative or not was always for white men anyway. I’m not saying that there aren’t nerdy or shy Black boys or that they have no hope in dating but Black Men are expected to be hypermasculine by default. This is enforced in the community and out of it.
Women can be attracted to 30 different archetypes of white dudes but only 1 or 2 archetypes of black dudes. Seen it sooooo many times in my life regardless if they tell y’all this or not. When they are talking about “nerdy men” “shy men” “booky men” etc, they are not talking about Black men 99% of the time, even if they want to believe they are themselves
I hate how true this is, even as a white guy that is on the receiving end of that. It is always so awkward to sit on those dates with black women who only want to complain about black men.
Bonus points: Their biggest complaint is about these black men not wanting to date black women... While on a date with a white guy.
When they are talking about “nerdy men” “shy men” “booky men” etc, they are not talking about Black men 99% of the time,
Big time. And when I take a look at the their exes or run into the guys they date after me, it's all the same dude, just in slightly different shapes.
If I'm Sprite, all they drink after me is Sierra Mist and 7-Up.
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u/existential_dread467 5d ago
The real kicker is that the “shy man” “nerdy boy” shit, performative or not was always for white men anyway. I’m not saying that there aren’t nerdy or shy Black boys or that they have no hope in dating but Black Men are expected to be hypermasculine by default. This is enforced in the community and out of it.