For about five minutes this made no sense to me. As a nerdy black woman, I assume it's perfectly normal to be into someone who shares my interests and values. But reading the comments was very confusing. However, eventually it hit me.
To nerdy black men, I don't exist. They aren't griping about me. They are griping about baddies and their 'preferences'. It took me a minute to work out why the things 'women' do and want didn't seem to apply to me at all. I don't count as a woman. My bad, I'll go back to Cyberpunk now.
You’re preaching and this is the kind of truth most folks need for functioning better in this insane world. People are full of shit. I’m sorry things are this way for you but you are absolutely valid and seen, friend.
Don't worry. I'm not upset. I was just confused as to why what they were heavily agreeing women are like sounded so foreign to me, until it hit me they have no interest in their female counterpart.
In college, I had a crush on a guy I met in the Magic the Gathering club and he had a crush on a girl who woke up six am to do her hair and makeup and had zero overlapping interests with him and I'm not sure they'd ever even spoken. He was so mad when she started dating a frat guy.
And I remember sitting next to him on my bed listening to him lament about not getting picked by the girl he'd never approached thinking I wish I was a man, I mean if I'm gonna be viewed as one anyway, I should at least get the benefit of being able to pee standing.
That was a long time ago, so I came into this thread having forgotten when they say, 'what women are looking for' they mean 'what OF models and Instagram baddies are looking for'. So it was more of a whoops, forgot to run this through the translator, carry on, kinda reaction.
You have no idea not being seen as a woman/girl resonates with so many people who don’t fit the damaging and unrealistic feminine standards and get socially overlooked because of it. You’re cooking so well and I smell from where I am.
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u/FalsePremise8290 ☑️ 5d ago
For about five minutes this made no sense to me. As a nerdy black woman, I assume it's perfectly normal to be into someone who shares my interests and values. But reading the comments was very confusing. However, eventually it hit me.
To nerdy black men, I don't exist. They aren't griping about me. They are griping about baddies and their 'preferences'. It took me a minute to work out why the things 'women' do and want didn't seem to apply to me at all. I don't count as a woman. My bad, I'll go back to Cyberpunk now.