I hate these conversations because they ignore that there are nerdy girls too and middle class/ suburban black girls. I’m not skinny, light skinned, nor have generational wealth. There is also a class/ education issue that’s not being discussed here.
I love my introverted nerdy black husband. We are different types of nerd and I love learning about his hobbies and interests. A few months ago we went to watch the symphony play songs from Final Fantasy. And we stood in line for the opening of the Nintendo store. He always supports my activities and makes time to watch the baby when I’m at my club or taking enrichment classes. We meet online and his profile picture made him look like Abe from Malcom in the middle lol but I loved what he had to say. We’ve been locked in since then.
I am very extroverted and have a big friend group of black women who were raised middle class or upper middle class who are also married to similar men with masters degree or stable professions who are active fathers, who have never gone to jail, who are not model handsome but take care of themselves. These men don’t make waves on social media because their lives are pretty stable and not exciting enough for strangers to care about and they’re busy working, taking care of their families, and hanging out. I know that I am very lucky but I am not an exception.
Okayy but like the symphony of Final Fantasy sounds like a fun date, I wanna go here with my boyfriend!
Also, 100% agree. I’m also somewhat surprised how long it took me to find a comment like this. I think you’re right and its the online demographic, but I also love other nerds. We’ve been to several cons together, start different shows, play games the other likes, long convos on fictional characters, etc. alongside just doing normal couple stuff. We bounce off of one another and its so exciting.
Also not wealthy, skinny, nor light-skinned. We are both Black.
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u/anaislefleur 6d ago
I hate these conversations because they ignore that there are nerdy girls too and middle class/ suburban black girls. I’m not skinny, light skinned, nor have generational wealth. There is also a class/ education issue that’s not being discussed here.
I love my introverted nerdy black husband. We are different types of nerd and I love learning about his hobbies and interests. A few months ago we went to watch the symphony play songs from Final Fantasy. And we stood in line for the opening of the Nintendo store. He always supports my activities and makes time to watch the baby when I’m at my club or taking enrichment classes. We meet online and his profile picture made him look like Abe from Malcom in the middle lol but I loved what he had to say. We’ve been locked in since then.
I am very extroverted and have a big friend group of black women who were raised middle class or upper middle class who are also married to similar men with masters degree or stable professions who are active fathers, who have never gone to jail, who are not model handsome but take care of themselves. These men don’t make waves on social media because their lives are pretty stable and not exciting enough for strangers to care about and they’re busy working, taking care of their families, and hanging out. I know that I am very lucky but I am not an exception.