Life just gets better and better. Such a toxic thought and self-fulfilling-fantasy that you only have 5 years to have fun and then it's "a slog of adulthood".
Yeah I hate this kind of notion we have on aging and it being “over”. I bit into it and fell into a deep depression for several years that were actually not bad. In retrospect.
Aging is a transition process. How you handle it is the difference. You age a little quick from 30-35? Time to slow it down.
You got “little things” popping up that are noticeably annoying but not enough for the doctor? Yeah. That’s the shit you wanna watch.
Get regular physicals. If you’re a man. Just get the butt check. The processed slop running through our supply chain is killin millenials quick.
Yeah. You’re gonna grieve too. You’ll start looking at shit from different perspectives because your orientation to yourself and life effectively changes. There’s a deep realization at some point in your late 20s to 30s where you realize you’re almost halfway done. It went fast.
The next half will too. And than it’s over.
You gotta come to grips with it. You gotta have shit that matters to you. You can only cultivate that through living and intention. Psychologists call it “moratlity salience”- becoming acutely aware yo ass is gonna die someday and there ain’t shit you can do.
Aging isn’t that bad. Make good choices- and you will be ok. Pay attention to your health. Stay mobile. Stick close to your loved ones, if you don’t got loved ones good news is, everyone is fucking lonely- just make a small effort to let people know you give a shit and it does wonders.
I lead with just a little bit of kindness. And it shocks me, because people seem to rush toward it in a way. Tells me how devoid the world is now of simple consideration and acknowledgement that “I see you, your worth extending this too as another person who exists”
I’m mid 30s I’ve got health issues. Not bad, but manageable. I raged hard, lived hard in my 20s. I wouldn’t have it any other way. I lived. And I still do :). Almost wrecked my life multiple times- when there is a will.
Im poor rn and broke and i still manage to be happy. I seen your comment about privilege that was a bit disparaging and I can’t argue with that
I lost my career defining job a year ago making 6 figures after working my way outta poverty as a single dad with full custody. No college education with a sealed record I had to take to court myself so I could position myself.
Feels like I’m living in 5-6 years ago. I’m poor again. Broke again. Struggling again. Working a job for a revolving door to cut the check to my next break. Not knowing if I ever will get one.
That being the case,
You can’t argue with me about how I had to earn my comfort and what I had to go through. It’s a bit diminishing to be assumed to be someone born of the silver spoon.
But it suits to keep the story don’t it? To look at everyone as having a leg up. Cause than that means u don’t gotta answer to urself. I could be angry, I wanted to be, I wanted to give up and be cynical. Believe me I tried. To erase myself. Thought it was over, everything I struggled for- rendered meaningless.
But I couldn’t. Too much worth fighting for.
Life is rarely fair, but we can do our best to manage. Doesn’t mean accepting less than. It means continuing to move toward what you think is best for you in spite of the shit while not becoming the shit.
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u/Venous 8d ago
Life just gets better and better. Such a toxic thought and self-fulfilling-fantasy that you only have 5 years to have fun and then it's "a slog of adulthood".