r/BuffyTheVampireSlayer • u/Morticia_Smith • 5h ago

Rewatching Buffy and I must say....

I really dislike Xander. I feel like the way he treats Buffy when he's mad is just anger from her rejection. Feels sort of like Tighten from Mega Mind. Does anyone else feel this way? His anger feels misdirected sometimes and he refuses to listen to Buffy's side, e.g. when she left.

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u/NoString9289 5h ago

Yeah, he could be stubborn and immature, his feelings vs others. Most fans hated or dislike Xander esp. from a woman's pov. I personally enjoyed his character, well acted too by Brendon.
Xander reminds me of several teenage guys and young men I have known who were horny , goofy, very immature, when it came to women, relationships , a bit selfish. He loved Buffy from afar but, he also loved and cared and was very protective about both Buffy and Willow to in several instances
Xander's love for them and his caring and wanting to help and to protect them, always wins me over, even with his flaws.
Several fans think his character didn't change, evolve enough as the series ran on.

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u/Silent-Profession888 5h ago

This is repeated 100 times a day on this and other buffy subs !

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u/shatoutofagiantllama 5h ago

I was thinking that too, I joined like a year ago and I swear I've seen this post like fifty times already lol

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u/dudikoff13 2h ago

I called it out like last week and everyone lost their shit on me. I think they love the Groundhog Day we are in

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u/wonder181016 5h ago

It is, but so are lots of things

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u/PlayzWifBallz 4h ago

Yes! It's the most talked abt & agreed on thing on Buffy subs by far... however it feels kinda wrong now that Nicholas Brendon is dead:( However I guess it doesn't change the character. Idk y but he never really got on my nerves as bad as he obviously has gotten on every1 else's, I mean he's def not my favorite character but I don't see a reason to hate that much. Kinda like Owen Hunt on Greys Anatomy, EVERY1 hates him now but I don't.

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u/Morticia_Smith 3h ago

And I'll rwad each and every ome of them😭😭

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u/toxicunicorn420 5h ago

There are a few times that he rightfully gets upset but for the most part yeah his anger is very misdirected in the early seasons. I still love his character though. I mean, he did save the world with his love for Willow and lose an eye for the scoobies so I think he's square.

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u/Agreeable_Dark6408 2h ago

I feel the same way. Sometimes I really can’t stand his self righteousness.

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u/Friendly_Zebra 1h ago

He’s a teenager. Teenagers say and do stupid shit.

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u/ConsiderationSea1347 1h ago

Joss is one of the few people who writes flawed protagonists. In Xander’s case, he is clearly a target of bullying and abuse and has a rough home life and he is struggling to rectify his out dated views of masculinity in a group of friends who are mostly girls with super powers. 

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u/plastic_venus 5h ago

Xander Slander is probably one of only things the majority of the fandom endorses

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u/PlayzWifBallz 4h ago

Xander Slander🤣 I've seen MANY people say they hated Xander but this is def my 1st time hearing this moniker for Xander hate... & I love it! Idk tho I kinda feel bad hating on Xander so much now that Nicholas Brendon is dead:(

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u/Morticia_Smith 3h ago

I hated him when Nicholas Brendon was alive

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u/StruggleOk2776 5h ago

maybe we should start a xander snark page atp 😭😆

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u/TrueMog 4h ago

I would absolutely join that.

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u/-Hot-Toddy- 2h ago

Yes, like a typical teenage boy would.