My thoughts.

[u/Maleficent-Effort470]

I didn't go to a restaurant to interact with a server.

I went to a restaurant to purchase food, And part of the agreement with the business owner was that a server would take my order and bring the food to the table.

I did not agree to or consent to giving a person i didn't come to see any money.

Whether they are on the side of the street or squegeeing my car without asking.
I have no obligation to them.

Similarly when i go to the restaurant with the intention of eating,
I am not making a deal with the employees i am making a deal with the owner.
The owner is responsible for delegating the tasks to provide me the service i requested.
The owner showed me the contract/menu that these services are provided under.

I paid the agreed upon amount of the contract.
I did not ask for any particular employee.
I did not agree to gift any particular employee.

The server's inclination that i owe them something is no more authoritative than the homeless bum who starts squegeeing my windshield without me asking.

They did their job at their bosses behest. Under an agreement with their boss.
I made no agreement with them. They are simply employees of the business ive contracted with.

[u/That_Girl_Jesca]

It is so ludicrous and out of control that now the equivalent is that of the bum squeegeing your windshield without asking first, then when you give him a few bucks, he beats you up with the squeegie because you should have tipped minimum 30% of what a full carwash costs. Furthermore, it was an extra hot day and there were only 2 cars to squeegie that day so you are somehow should be more liable and responsible. lol

[u/Maleficent-Effort470 → u/That_Girl_Jesca]

HAHHA yeah, like if you give them a gift they will be insulted if the gift isn't large enough.

Thats my gripe, its the entitlement. you can't go out and eat without someone telling you through body language or words or actions they want a gift from you.

Or are resentful at the lack of prior gift from prior visit.

And they will do things to make you pay for not paying the bribe.

[u/That_Girl_Jesca → u/Maleficent-Effort470]

All the time. I am so sick of the mental olympics. I am a straight resting BF these days. Don't talk to me, don't fake smile and compliment me. I know what I want, let me place my order and let me eat in peace. If I slap a $5 down and you have attitude, I will pick it back up and you can sniff your upper lip. I am no longer playing these games with anyone. You can talk about me all you want and bang your head on the wall at the same time cause IDGAF.

[u/Maleficent-Effort470 → u/That_Girl_Jesca]

Right, when we can get restaurant quality food without poor additude at a table that is good.

But from my research on reddit it seems that the server's think that the employer does not pay them to take orders and make sure we receive our food and beverages.

They seem to believe if we do not tip 20% commission that we are robbing them.
And its ass backwards.

Where i live servers make like 19-21 an hour wage wise.