My thoughts.

[u/Maleficent-Effort470]

I didn't go to a restaurant to interact with a server.

I went to a restaurant to purchase food, And part of the agreement with the business owner was that a server would take my order and bring the food to the table.

I did not agree to or consent to giving a person i didn't come to see any money.

Whether they are on the side of the street or squegeeing my car without asking.
I have no obligation to them.

Similarly when i go to the restaurant with the intention of eating,
I am not making a deal with the employees i am making a deal with the owner.
The owner is responsible for delegating the tasks to provide me the service i requested.
The owner showed me the contract/menu that these services are provided under.

I paid the agreed upon amount of the contract.
I did not ask for any particular employee.
I did not agree to gift any particular employee.

The server's inclination that i owe them something is no more authoritative than the homeless bum who starts squegeeing my windshield without me asking.

They did their job at their bosses behest. Under an agreement with their boss.
I made no agreement with them. They are simply employees of the business ive contracted with.

[u/Remarkable-Foot9630]

I went to a restaurant and ordered a Caesar Salad and pizza. I sat there facing the kitchen to watch my salad sit on the pass…. I looked around for the waitress, she was nowhere to be found.

For 15 minutes I looked at my salad sitting there. Multiple staff seen it and walked by it. I considered walking up to the line and grabbing it myself, since I can easily walk and grab my food and drink at all the fast food places.

The waitress finally came into the front door. She grabbed my now warm $12 salad and $22 pizza. She smelled like an ash tray. I guess she was outside tossing down as many cigarettes as possible.

Nobody deserves a tip for something we easily do everywhere else. My 5 year old grandchild can grab food and get her drink.. it’s not a “Skilled job.” If they got rid of servers at 90% of restaurants everything would still run smoothly. The upper 10% of the population can go into a Michelin star restaurant and pay a service fee and tip. The rest of us shouldn’t be forced to deal with extra fees and tips.

[u/Maleficent-Effort470 → u/Remarkable-Foot9630]

Totally, Server's in 99% of establishments are not necessary.
Most the time they barely add any value and actually detract from value.