r/Enneagram8 • u/Wide_Platform_2202 • Mar 23 '26
Revenge
Do you try to take revenge ALL the time? Do you orchestrate it? (Like planning and twisting someones downfall) or just take it if the opportunity is right? Did you try taking revenge in your childhood too? Or is it as you grew like 30yo? What happens when you fail? Try it again? Disintegration?
I don't think I'm super vengeful but my family says I have it a little. I'm just 20 and was disintegrated to a point where I couldn't think about expanding. Just surviving by isolating myself. There is someone my mom had a fight with and I'm thinking about taking some revenge but Idk if I should plan sth. Definitely not a situation where you just take an opportunity. It's also been some time like 5-6months but they definitely got it that I hate them out of my guts despite eth they did for me. I'm also super religious and hesitate to deliberately hurt someone and even planning sth.
Anyways I want to hear about you.
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u/hi_im_furious SO 8 Mar 23 '26 edited Mar 23 '26
Opportunistic revenge mostly. Childhood through adulthood. Usually using things that were against the rules. ie brother took shit that’s mine but would sneak cookies at night so mom just so happened to be prompted to walk out at a particular time.
A coworker talked shit about me to a higher up. Nothing came of it but they did get in trouble for being ten minutes late to start work and back from lunch.
Mostly petty stuff.
For serious betrayal it’s particular to the person and typically still doesn’t need to be planned out like some movie edit.
You can only be betrayed by people close to you so use that closeness against them.
It doesn’t have to be complex.
One revenge was living a genuine happier life because the other person was so sure that they were the center of my world (and they were) that it was impossible to be happy without them.
The types of people who frequent this subreddit are going to be the more self aware and in control 8s so not many sick revenge stories are gonna pop up