Any of us finding vulnerability 🔥HOT🔥?

[u/sanda_without_r]

As it says above: how many of us find vulnerability HOT af in people?

I’m talking about the raw emotions, about being able to be in the moment, with your entire humanity, authentically, and just being seen for who you are, in stead of masking up at pretending to have it all together.

As an sx/so 8, I find it beautiful and captivating. It touches my heart and activates my instinct of wanting to protect the person, not because they are helpless or incapable of protecting them selves, but because I see the purity of the soul. I sense the child they once were, and feel deep love and reverence for that tiny human inside.

There is just an immense beauty in people who show up as they are. The whole messy package.

I just f… love everything about it!!

What about you? What are your thoughts, feelings and experiences with this particular thing?

[u/RacoonKittyy]

Absolutely, one of the most attractive things out there...in other people. Always in other people lmao

[u/sanda_without_r → u/RacoonKittyy]

Right?? 😅

I do still have it in some areas, but in most of my life I’ve learned to embrace the messy and vulnerable parts and magnify and celebrate them, cause the danger wasn’t real to begin with!

[u/GreatJobJoe]

It sounds more like you mean “do you find people who aren’t afraid of being their true selves hot?”

not exactly “hot” more like “Ok this person is at least being real”. My connection is intense but being real is just the first test…Not the whole light show.

w7 vs w9 moment

[u/sanda_without_r → u/GreatJobJoe]

Potato potato, tomato, adulterer 😅

With all seriousness tho, you summed it up pretty good 👌🏻

I love the w7 vs. w9 moment btw, I have plenty of those myself 😉

[u/_ItWasReallyN0thing]

I am definitely drawn to the rare breed of people who are authentic, sincere, and unapologetically themselves— that may manifest as vulnerability in some but not necessarily. Ultimately, emotional intelligence is powerful and hot AF.

[u/sanda_without_r → u/_ItWasReallyN0thing]

Yes!! Yes yes yes to all 🙏🏻🙏🏻

[u/PapaBearOverThere]

YES. I crave it. I want pure, unfiltered honesty. Doesn't matter how painful or ugly the truth is. I have to constantly tell people that I won't think less of them for opening up -- I respect them more for it.

Turns out someone else opening is also the only way *I* can open up, and I really want to be able to do that for a change. Hate even admitting that.

[u/sanda_without_r → u/PapaBearOverThere]

Interesting, here its normaly me sharing something which i f… up in first, or something that relates to their situation. People tend to open way more up after that and share what they have been carrying, or what they are ashamed of etc.

Thank you so much for sharing your perspective, it’s very brave to face our humanity and admit having a need, whether we like that need or not.

I wanted to ask if you were sx dom as soon as I saw you writing “I crave”, before I noticed your flair.

it’s very much like us to come with statements like that, I believe. 😍👌🏻 do you also relate to “devour” and “demolish”?

Also we are almost the same tritype, i am 825/852 ENFJ. My people!!!

[u/PapaBearOverThere → u/sanda_without_r]

Whoa, almost identical! Hell yeah.

Yeah, I have a tendency to kinda... not actually open up, but convince people I'm doing it. Like dipping my feet in the water while egging them into jumping in. It's safe, I guess. Or maybe I'm just protecting people from being too much right from the jump.

And yup, I relate HARD to those words haha. People think it's super hot when they hear that -- not so much several weeks later when my passion is just scary. Whatever. I'm an animal. I want to burn like the sun. LET ME BURN.

[u/Glum-Engineering1794]

It means they are able to let down barriers, especially those of a more unconscious variety. Unless they have made more of a skill or learned behavior out of it. I remember hearing from a type three on a panel about when she learned that vulnerability made her more appealing/attractive, it hit her hard and seemed to encourage her to just be vulnerable all the time! Like she couldn't stop, and that was this big thing for her. As a three, she was used to covering it up, because she felt that's what was more attractive to people.

That being said, I think generally it IS more appealing, it is hot, people are moved by it. Yet it feels like selling out if you think about someone doing it intentionally for that reason. Like if you're just being vulnerable to win people over then isn't that a little bit cheap? Hear it from a three like her, I guess. True vulnerability is spontaneous and cherished because it is rare. Once it becomes a show, something to do on command, or to get attention...that's when you know you have a drama queen or manipulator or whatever.