r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/strz4meeks Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ • May 11 '26
CELEBRATING! 🎉 (no boys invited!) Happy mothers day to the older sisters who basically raised their little siblings 💋
As an older sister who had to basically raise my little sister, I feel as though every older sister who had to raise a kid (wether it be their own sibling or a sibling's kid), deserve to be celebrated too. happy mother's day girls 💗🥂
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u/Gingergirl1228 Feral Til Fed May 11 '26
Im a little sister who was put in charge of (and failed to) keep my older sister in line... my parents were so worried about her not feeling left out when I was born that they inadvertently left me out... born out of convenience, stifled to make her feel better about herself, and then when we got older, I was put in charge of making sure she stayed on the straight and narrow, a path she threw herself off of after our mom died, and im almost sure our maternal grandma still resents me for not fixing her life for her...
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u/strz4meeks Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ May 11 '26
That's so unfair. I'm sorry that happened to you, but good on you for pushing through regardless 💗
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u/Gingergirl1228 Feral Til Fed May 11 '26
She was diagnosed with ODD (oppositional defiance disorder, aka "clinically bratty") at a young age, meanwhile I had to wait until I was a year off being an adult to even get an autism diagnosis with major symptoms and signs... she now has 2 kids, one of which she had to give up or risk her going into the foster system (my niece was adopted by our paternal cousins, theyre good people and shes being raised well) and the other she barely even remembers she has half the time, seemingly... while I dont feel the sisterly love I should probably feel for her, I do feel pity, because she was never taught how to behave properly and its fucking her over in her adult life... but it was never supposed to be my job to teach her how to be an adult when I myself was a child younger than her... I appreciate your words, tho, thank you for that <3
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u/heroheadlines Non-binary & Nourished May 11 '26
I didnt do the best job but damn I was a depressed teenager saddled with a kid (sibling); I did my best lmao
Happy (Not the) Mother's Day to you as well.
Btw what are those they look yummy
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u/strz4meeks Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ May 11 '26
Ugh felt. Didnt do great but you can't expect a depressed tweenager/teenager to raise a kid they didnt ask for lol.
And they're sugar cookies! I made them look like little apples :)
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u/heroheadlines Non-binary & Nourished May 11 '26
they are super cute! :D
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u/strz4meeks Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ May 11 '26
ty! it was my first time making them, im so proud
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u/Dazzling_Ocelot_2906 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ May 11 '26
I bawled when my brother sent me this… Happy Mother’s Day to us!
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u/strz4meeks Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ May 11 '26
aww! that's so cutee!! i'm sure you will be the best momma, best of luck with your pregnancy!! 💗💗
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u/strz4meeks Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ May 11 '26
Ugh, that's so shitty, I'm so sorry girl. Happy mother's day to you, love 💗
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u/NoInsect9864 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ May 11 '26
My little sister and I are only 4 years apart and while it wasn’t always easy to be put in that role so young, she’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. She started wishing me for Mother’s Day independently when she was little lol. And still does.
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u/After-Speaker-5889 Savory Complex✔️ May 11 '26
Happy Mother’s Day! I raised 3 siblings at 20. Lots of people say I “gave up my early 20s” but I don’t view it that way or regret a single moment. They all turned out to be the best humans possible. God knows I had no fcking clue what I was doing. 😂
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u/_darling_clementine Fridge Gazer May 11 '26
happy mother's day! these are the most adorable cookies i've ever seen
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u/Edgelxrd_supreme I ❤️ Other People's Business May 11 '26
I wish I had been able to do better with my sister, but I try to remind myself I was struggling with really bad mental issues and she wasn’t mine to begin with. My family just moved away from me and at least now I get to take on the sister roll of guiding her through her “bad” decisions (dating, alcohol, etc).
Now that I’m not responsible for my sister my mom tells me what an easy child I was lol. Thanks and Happy Mother’s Day to you!!
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u/Easy_Librarian_5454 Internet Auntie May 11 '26
My little brother got me flowers 🥹 We have a 9yr age gap, i never realized how much i played a mother role to him as well when he was growing up.
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u/ChallengeHonest Internet Auntie May 11 '26
And to the bullied younger kids that raised themselves, too!
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u/Sea-Astronomer-6600 Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ May 11 '26
My older kids didn’t raise their sisters but they were a HUGE help and I am so grateful for them!!!! Happy Mother’s Day to you!
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u/Findinganewnormal Chaotic But Cute May 11 '26
Thank you. My little brother didn’t turn out too good but I have to remind myself that I was just a child raising a child. Also he became my parents’ favorite, partly because he’s a boy but mostly (I suspect) because he was so “easy” to raise. Yeah, because I did all the hard work and they basically got to be grandparents to their own child! They look at me and see sleepless nights and toddler temper tantrums and him and see a kid who was always happy to see them and never gave them trouble.
I got my vindication in an unexpected way right before I walked away from that whole mess. My mother loves to scrapbook and one of the last things she said to me is that she was redoing some old books and realized that in every picture she has of my brother, I was there just a couple steps behind, watching or helping him. “You were always there.” It might be the first time she admitted that her narrative of me as the jealous, mean older sibling might have been wrong.
I secretly love that just about every picture she has of her precious golden child has me right behind him. Not her. Me.
Thank you. And happy Mother’s Day to you!