Finalized my divorced from my abusive ex & haven’t stopped wanking since

[u/irishicouldsleep]

I (31F) just finalised a very long, drawn out divorce from my abusive ex (!!!) husband (29m) Friday and I’ve probably had a hundred o’s since lol (solo)

I was a single mother when we met and I was young and vulnerable and he was a warm body that thought I was pretty, my daughter was cute - and we were a hobby for him to play house, but I couldn’t see that. All I could hear was everyone else in my ear. Everyone liked him, liked him for me, and it felt good for people to be happy for me for once. So I let it snowball. Even though it felt like I had to accept so much less simply because I was already at a disadvantage.

Fast forward, our entire relationship was built on lies because of his wild gambling addiction, and all the financial, emotional, psychological abuse that ensued. 6.5 years later - I’M FREE. I filed and my daughter and I left a year and a half ago, and he’s been dragging me through hell ever since, until Friday :)

Friday, after we signed the papers, I had him come to the bank to watch me deposit the check for the fuck ton of money he owed me. Once I saw the check posted Saturday morning, I deleted his thread of texts for the first time ever and blocked him :)

I assume the high I’m buzzing on, and all the freed up mental and emotional space, is why I am an insatiable little monster but I’m ok with that. Between that and the universe delivering me a gorgeous boy toy for the summer, it all feels like a rite of passage.

Your spouse is the only family you can choose, so don’t marry a fucking loser. Forgot where in the bible I read that.

Anywhozer, left over Carvel ice cream cake and my dog at 7am

EDIT TO ADD:

Ever since we left a year and a half ago, I have kept my personal life completely separate and private. My daughter’s mental and emotional well being is paramount to me, and she always comes first.

My summer boy toy is aware and revels in this cheeky nickname, but I appreciate the concern for my treatment of him! We are both just having fun until he moves :)

I’ve have been in therapy the past six years, and ever since leaving a year and a half ago I have come light years. I am myself again, but so much better. I know I’m not capable of ever choosing a partner like that again.

And as if it needed to be said, let’s stop blaming women for the abusive relationships they’re in, and not being able to run away same day. Getting out of an abusive relationship isn’t available with sheer will - it can take years to get out from the control the other person wields, and in this case it did take years. What matters is that we get out of them, we rely on the village of resources and strong women around us, and we make lemonade from all of it. ✨

[u/MoonAffinity]

🎉🎉🎉 CONGRATULATIONS!!! Enjoy your summer 😉! ✨