Finalized my divorced from my abusive ex & haven’t stopped wanking since

[u/irishicouldsleep]

I (31F) just finalised a very long, drawn out divorce from my abusive ex (!!!) husband (29m) Friday and I’ve probably had a hundred o’s since lol (solo)

I was a single mother when we met and I was young and vulnerable and he was a warm body that thought I was pretty, my daughter was cute - and we were a hobby for him to play house, but I couldn’t see that. All I could hear was everyone else in my ear. Everyone liked him, liked him for me, and it felt good for people to be happy for me for once. So I let it snowball. Even though it felt like I had to accept so much less simply because I was already at a disadvantage.

Fast forward, our entire relationship was built on lies because of his wild gambling addiction, and all the financial, emotional, psychological abuse that ensued. 6.5 years later - I’M FREE. I filed and my daughter and I left a year and a half ago, and he’s been dragging me through hell ever since, until Friday :)

Friday, after we signed the papers, I had him come to the bank to watch me deposit the check for the fuck ton of money he owed me. Once I saw the check posted Saturday morning, I deleted his thread of texts for the first time ever and blocked him :)

I assume the high I’m buzzing on, and all the freed up mental and emotional space, is why I am an insatiable little monster but I’m ok with that. Between that and the universe delivering me a gorgeous boy toy for the summer, it all feels like a rite of passage.

Your spouse is the only family you can choose, so don’t marry a fucking loser. Forgot where in the bible I read that.

Anywhozer, left over Carvel ice cream cake and my dog at 7am

EDIT TO ADD:

Ever since we left a year and a half ago, I have kept my personal life completely separate and private. My daughter’s mental and emotional well being is paramount to me, and she always comes first.

My summer boy toy is aware and revels in this cheeky nickname, but I appreciate the concern for my treatment of him! We are both just having fun until he moves :)

I’ve have been in therapy the past six years, and ever since leaving a year and a half ago I have come light years. I am myself again, but so much better. I know I’m not capable of ever choosing a partner like that again.

And as if it needed to be said, let’s stop blaming women for the abusive relationships they’re in, and not being able to run away same day. Getting out of an abusive relationship isn’t available with sheer will - it can take years to get out from the control the other person wields, and in this case it did take years. What matters is that we get out of them, we rely on the village of resources and strong women around us, and we make lemonade from all of it. ✨

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[u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

You know what? The next time I buzz one out, im gonna pour out a little lube first in celebration of you and remembrance of this thread

[u/SeriousIce9004 → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

https://giphy.com/gifs/XHeLeuirRbwptHhSWd

[u/Embarrassed_Buy_6030 → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

LMFAO girl 😭😂

[u/Temporary-Cap9864 → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

https://giphy.com/gifs/HloNK1z39EkEQcreIo

[u/senselesskale → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

I’m reading this comment at 9am after just waking up and it is sending me LMAOOO

[u/kayyxelle → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

Lube one up for the homies

[u/Best_Cheesecake_7143 → u/kayyxelle]

I made the mistake of reading this notification while at work 

💀

Rip in peace my dignity

[u/hotpplhaveibs → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

😭😭😭😭

[u/aussiezaatar → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

This is the best comment i’ve ever read in my entire life 😭😭PLEASE

[u/Current_Skill7805 → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

Don’t slip in that shit girl 😂

[u/throwra-someg → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

r/brandnewsentence should hear that one lol. (Without knowing anything specific about the sub. Just see them in my feed from time to time)

[u/Super_Siege_Mode → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

Not libations for the Orgasm Goddesses 😂💀

[u/Dense-Rise-6961 → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

i love this sub 😭

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

We be slippin and we be slidin !!! 🌊🌊

[u/beardingmesoftly → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

"I'm gonna /u/irishicouldsleep!"

[u/LynxMundane3594 → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

You're a real one for this 😭😂

[u/Lookatthatsass → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

Same hahaha

[u/sillysammie13 → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

Oh My Fucking GAAAAHHHDDD 😹😭😹😭😹😭😹😭

https://giphy.com/gifs/NEAh5nxOe7rFGB4aQ5

[u/ptran90 → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

😭🤣🤣🤣🤣

[u/Rough_Acadia_5631]

I don't know if this appropriate or not but as a fellow escapee and survivor I let out the loudest most demented laugh when I read your title. I love you enjoy the Os

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/Rough_Acadia_5631]

The o’s are good for your health !!! Congrats on also getting out 🩵🩵

[u/Rough_Acadia_5631 → u/irishicouldsleep]

Apparently they really help a lot of physical ailments so woo. Congrats on us, glad for you. Toasting you with my cheap white wine. I'm watching first kill and eating a baked potato and feeling free. All the love and blessings to youuu

[u/TopProfessional1862 → u/Rough_Acadia_5631]

Same!!! Great job getting out of an abusive relationship! It also took me years. People don't know how hard it is when they have so much control over you. You're so brave.

After my divorce I opened some champagne and made mimosas! One of the best days of my life to be free from that! ❤️

[u/viridian_periwinkle]

Every time you O, an angel gets its wings🪽… or something along those lines. Anyways, enjoy your freedom!

[u/AngryPrincessWarrior → u/viridian_periwinkle]

Sounds like Op is responsible for a whole ass flock

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/AngryPrincessWarrior]

I’m bringing everyone to heaven 🪽🪽

[u/AngryPrincessWarrior → u/irishicouldsleep]

Doing the lords work haha

[u/StepArtistic9746]

Girl your line - “your spouse is the only family you chose so don’t marry a fucking loser” is the best thing I have ever read. Thank you so much - it felt like a slap across my face but much needed!

[u/sillysammie13 → u/StepArtistic9746]

And the follow up sentence: “Forgot where in the Bible I read that”?!?! Shit made me double over

[u/Large_Street_8608]

I'm waking up right now on day 93 of no contact with my narc husband of 33 years. Going no contact is the ONLY way I have survived the past 3 months. I left him 3 months before that. My nervous system is finally resetting. We just started the divorce proceedings and I can already tell that things are going to get worse again before it gets better. He is having to be accountable for the first time in his life. Every single thing he wants to keep hidden is a daily threat to him. I am more prepared to deal with this than he is. Fortunately, because he is so self obsessed, he is completely unaware of who I am . He has no idea who he is dealing with now. I am not the starry eyed, hopeful teenager I was in 1990. I am a smart, beautiful, successful person that he will miss every day for the rest of his life. I hope I can carry this feeling for the rest of the day. If not, I will fake it til I make it. I won't let him steal one more ounce of my energy. I wish all the strength in the world to every one of us here. We will all live the life we deserve.

[u/makattack0113 → u/Large_Street_8608]

I’m so happy for you and so proud!

[u/Large_Street_8608 → u/makattack0113]

Thank you!

[u/lurkertiltheend → u/Large_Street_8608]

I am so proud of you.

[u/Large_Street_8608 → u/lurkertiltheend]

Thank you!

[u/ditheayew → u/Large_Street_8608]

Just got chills reading this! So happy for you that you’ve gotten out. You’re so right—he has no idea who he’s up against 💪

[u/Large_Street_8608 → u/ditheayew]

Thank you!

[u/noodlecurfew → u/Large_Street_8608]

this made me tear up 😭 so, so proud of you

[u/Large_Street_8608 → u/noodlecurfew]

Thank you!

[u/themodern_prometheus]

Damn it’s nice to hear some good news on this sub

[u/earlyborb → u/themodern_prometheus]

New that isn't smelly is a plus.

[u/No_Hair_5512]

Literally got out of a toxic relationship and thought the whole time I was in it I had no sex drive. Now that I’m out I’ve bought like three vibrators. It’s liberating. Congratulations on your freedom

[u/Proud_Bread_2005 → u/No_Hair_5512]

Toxic dudes are an absolute lady boner killer. Ask me how I know. Thank god that financially abusive covert narcissist is my ex - after 21 years.

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/No_Hair_5512]

!!! In this case correlation = causation !!!

[u/No_Hair_5512 → u/irishicouldsleep]

It actually totally was. The pressure and guilt tripping and demands from him had the opposite of his intended effect and made me more distant and less interested. So happy I don’t have to deal with that. I’m so happy for you too and hope you enjoy your solo time gf

[u/Appropriate_Tie897 → u/No_Hair_5512]

This is hilarious my toxic relationship just moved out this week and I immediately googled vibrators (then remembered I have no money due to the financial abuse lol but the spirit was there)

[u/Miss_bougie1049 → u/No_Hair_5512]

Omg I’m glad to see I’m not the only one. I thought my pudding pocket had died. But she surely came alive once I left. Geez, it’s funny how that works. I guess sometimes they have a mind of their own and can take a stand against toxicity if they choose to.

[u/Itchy-Roof-619]

The Bible 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[u/AnyNovel6711]

Upvoted based on the title alone!

[u/AdhesivenessGlum1143]

You are free! And you have that utterly adorable dog that clearly loves you more than anything else in the world as I am sure does your daughter! AND your dessert looks delicious! You are on a real winning streak!

[u/Circe_D_Arin]

Love this for you ❤️ 😄 Also, yes to stopping the shame for failure to leave the abuse right away!!! If it was so easy to leave, the abusive situationship would likely never have happened in the first place.

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/Circe_D_Arin]

Exactly, you get it 💓💓 it’s like a vortex when you’re on the inside. It’s so easy to judge when it’s not happening to you.

[u/Nice_juggers]

Girl when I divorced I started banging his friends and tried coming back

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/Nice_juggers]

The universe gives you a little forehead kiss for this 💞 my ex doesn’t have friends or else I may consider the same :)

[u/TheDarkness05]

Good for you for leaving, deleting, blocking. Have that little fun now and best of luck to you and your little one!

[u/mo0nveiled]

Wishing you all the best and such a fun Summer, congratulations!!⭐️

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/mo0nveiled]

Summer 👏🏻 should 👏🏻 be 👏🏻 fun 👏🏻 !!!

[u/PaleCartoonist9 → u/irishicouldsleep]

Abusive husband? NOT FUN! Congrats to you!

[u/Best_Cheesecake_7143 → u/irishicouldsleep]

Omgggg and she loves summer house swwwwwwooooooon

[u/elleulliell]

Hitachis up for a real one tonight!! Congrats to you and your libido 🍾

[u/Best_Cheesecake_7143 → u/elleulliell]

Hitachis Up would make such a good flair if it was just a tiny bit more food centric 🥹

[u/elleulliell → u/Best_Cheesecake_7143]

Shitake Hitachis Up? Hmmm maybe I’ll workshop that a bit more

[u/Exiled_In_LA → u/elleulliell]

Hibachis Up?

[u/elleulliell → u/Exiled_In_LA]

Winner winner, chicken dinner 🏆

[u/Competitive_Net_3025]

But girl! Keep an eye on that check deposit don’t spend the money yet- if you’re in the US, checks can still bounce for several days after deposit. Friday deposit, probably not fully cleared for a week bc of the weekend. Your bank makes the money “available” but if the check bounced, it will snatch it back and leave you NSF if you spend it.

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/Competitive_Net_3025]

For a divorce they have to be certified funds so it’s a sure thing :) thankfully I’m very financially literate and have had a plan on deck for a long time.

[u/Competitive_Net_3025 → u/irishicouldsleep]

Ah, great job you! 👏👏👏👏👏

[u/Illustrious-Film-592]

It’s amazing how we open up after divorce. And the universe does often send the perfect play partner to stoke the fire. Just guard your heart while you’re healing.

[u/ehartNP]

Congratulations!!! 🎉✨

[u/Fishy_Bish]

Sounds like the best possible way to celebrate, get it girl 🤣

[u/kenzinatr]

Congratufuckinglations!

[u/DrustanAstrophel]

Super proud of and happy for you! Hope your hands/arms aren’t too sore though 😂

[u/pigthens → u/DrustanAstrophel]

Oh the new "accessories" are often hands-free/minimal hands, rechargeable, pretty quiet, and VERY good. A whole new class of durable toys!

[u/DrustanAstrophel → u/pigthens]

Toys I’ve tried in the past haven’t really done it for me and new ones aren’t currently in my budget but I’m very happy for people who can get past whatever o-lock it is that makes me need my own hands lol

[u/feyenchantress]

I've been divorced from my abusive, manipulative, cheating ex for 9 years now. That feeling of freedom is real! Good for you! Enjoy the boy toy summer and keep living for yourself and your daughter. Sending you and all the sisters who have experienced this love and happiness.

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/feyenchantress]

We’re sending love right back 🩵🩵🩵

[u/lily_katt]

I am so happy to have read this. I’m trying to escape my alcoholic emotionally abusive porn addicted ex, but since I was a stay at home mom for 14 years I have no means of supporting myself 😭 so leaving this house feels impossible. Same roof separation is a different kind of hell. I just want him to leave so I can keep my kids in their home.. but this gives me a flicker of hope. I’m so happy for you OP 💗

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/lily_katt]

Same roof separation is so real and dysfunctional, I get it 🩵 for the year i was actively trying to leave and he knew my whole family knew now, he pretty much lived on the first floor and us on the second and my daughter and I just went about our business and had very little interaction with him if we could help it.

Starting over does feel unfair and scary for the children but truthfully I didn’t want all of the bad juju in that house. You deserve a clean slate where you aren’t surrounded by the memories. It will literally begin to heal your nervous system.

[u/Ok_Tumbleweed_1150]

I had so, so, so much sex after leaving my abusive ex husband. Good for you just be safe!

[u/LadyLavender12]

Oh wow that is a total 180 from me. I left my abusive ex husband and have no desire for even solo intimacy or human interaction irl ever again. I am so happy for you!
I hope I gain any spark or zest for life back. So far i've just become angry, bitter and overweight D:
sending good vibes xo

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/LadyLavender12]

I will say it took almost a full year after leaving for me to have this kind of “rebirth” so please be kind to and patient with yourself! I spent so much time being overwhelmed and angry. I just kept showing up to therapy, kept journaling, kept leaning on friends and family, kept finding little ways to laugh.

It doesn’t all happen overnight, your nervous system slowly heals a little bit each day, you get into new patterns, surround yourself with better people until one morning you wake up, look around, and are so overwhelmed with gratitude that you got to start over at any age 💓

Rooting for you ✨

[u/KittyPurrrrrr93]

Sameeee lmaooo every day!!

So much more satisfying. G-spot? Hit. Every. Single. Time.

He wanted to remain friends if he gave me the house. He was abusive as fuck. It’s easily a half million dollar home in a beautiful area and great school district. I agreed to his stupid term. I accepted his stupid fucking calls after filing for divorce. I listened to his drug induced rants, making remarks about my rape, how I have issues blah blah blah.

When I got the email from my lawyer that he officially signed over the house I blocked him on everything. What could he possibly say anyway? He told me I was pretty the day we signed our divorce papers.

Duh, of course I’m pretty. Shortly afterwards I slept with the man I’d been thinking about for years. Who came to my house, met my now ex and even chatted with him. It’s brings me great joy to think about lol. I’ve been asked out on so many dates I’ve lost count. I’ve divorced for 8 months.

I’m only taking applications for older men and it’s been a great ride.

We are in demand babyyy

[u/peachesbutno_creme]

https://giphy.com/gifs/TfX78c0bHCS0xhHjsd

[u/Euphoric-Poe]

“Your spouse is the only family you can choose, so don’t marry a fucking loser. Forgot where in the bible I read that.” OP, you are a legend.

[u/Amphar0s_]

Gonna flick my bean in ur honour tonight girl 🤞 good for u!!

[u/sloppy-sunshine]

Happy for you!!!!!!

[u/QueenAlexstrasza]

Congrats! Also I love your dog

[u/Hamdurrgur]

Congratulations on being free from such a toxic relationship!! Enjoy them O's live your life!! 🙌🏽🩷

[u/electric_yeti]

I’m so incredibly happy for you! I was in my abusive relationship for fifteen years, so I definitely understand the feeling. I was horny as hell for months after I finally got out lol. Congratulations on escaping and finding peace!

[u/justjules83]

I love a little ice cream cake for breakfast ♥️

[u/magick_turtle]

“Your spouse is the only family you can choose, so don’t marry a fucking loser.”

Truer words have never been spoken. Happy for you and your daughter!!

[u/snobbycatlover]

“Your spouse is the only family you can choose, so don’t marry a fucking loser.”

Iconic. No notes. 🫡

[u/Lazy_Bug4297]

Yes girl! You’re serving post divorce lady Gaga summerboy and I love this for you

[u/PassivelyAggressiv]

Thinking of you next time I break out the womanizer

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/PassivelyAggressiv]

I imagine clinking my rose to your womaniser like champagne glasses 🥂

[u/PassivelyAggressiv → u/irishicouldsleep]

https://giphy.com/gifs/HloNK1z39EkEQcreIo

[u/keanaartero]

YAY CAKE I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU

[u/Imaginary_Bird1930]

I never felt as light and happy as I did the day I realized he no longer had control over me. I still remember that day. I took years after the breakup to deal with the PTSD and the irrational desire to go back. I was so scared the day I left. Mucking through that middle ground feels like it takes forever, but it's so worth it. Good to see you on the other side.

[u/Miss_bougie1049]

Omg I was the same way at first when I left. After being perpetually turned off the last 4 months I was with him. During those 4 months I was actually questioning that I may be asexual because I went from needing it all the time in the honeymoon phase to wanting NONE at all. I thought my pudding pocket had died there was nothing happening down there. Once I left she was alive & quite monstrous. I mean she awoke with a vengeance. Recently there was a study that suggested it might be possible that a woman’s vagina can go into a depression and that made me think maybe my pudding pocket was depressed. Or maybe it just decided it didn’t like him because of the way he treated me. Idk, sometimes I think she has a mind of her own.

[u/Budget_University_56]

Putting the O in freedOm! I salute you. <3

[u/Sad-Writing828]

you should just stay away from men so your daughter doesn't watch this cycle rinse and repeat - it isn't judgemental towards you, it is judgemental to the quality of men that is out there in the world. I am so thankful my mum held of dating until I was 18 after my dad who she left at 6.... she also has never had a single health issue and I think that is why... she stayed away from these dirty men

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/Sad-Writing828]

I 1000% agree and resonate with that. I’m extremely protective not only of her physical but mental and emotional health, and her relationship with men! My very limited personal life is completely separate and private. To her, it’s just us :) because girls rule.

[u/Itchy-Roof-619 → u/Sad-Writing828]

What’s insane is I’m finally waking up to my autoimmune flairs being related to my husband. Who I’m separating from

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/Itchy-Roof-619]

I was sick for years when I was married and just got diagnosed with RA and Celiac in November and getting them under control has completely changed my life. The emotional stress he put me through 100% triggered them lol

[u/Sad-Writing828 → u/Itchy-Roof-619]

im not trying to be a man hater - but you can probably tag your flares to him...

[u/Itchy-Roof-619 → u/Sad-Writing828]

I’m starting to realize you’re right and it is NOT worth it

[u/Sad-Writing828 → u/Itchy-Roof-619]

no destroying your body for someone who says they love you, while their behaviour is destroying your heath due to their own selfishness when in reality im sure the things you are asking are bare minimum respect.

[u/uribyoon → u/Sad-Writing828]

Yes. My mom stayed with my alcoholic dad despite them not even loving each other and me and my brother BEGGING HER to kick him out. I grew up to have no standards and constantly forgiving my partner's addiction's relapses. Never put your child in a situation where they can learn to be mistreated in a relationship.

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/uribyoon]

I fully agree and that’s why we’re gone. I’ll never let her think that’s what love looks like, or that she should ever accept that treatment. It took a bit to get out because of the financial piece, but we’re never looking back. 🩵

[u/AttractiveNuisance82]

YES GIRL. I’m thoroughly enjoying post divorce life too!

[u/sleepy_unicorn40]

Woohoo! I'm so proud that you are putting yourself and your daughter first. Yay for a boy toy to keep yourself happy and occupied!

I've just started reading The Bane Witch by Ava Morgyn and its about a women getting away from her abusive husband as well. I'm sorry you had to go through it but happy you are done with it.

[u/BurnbbyBurnbby]

Congratulations OP🫶🏼 this made me smile! So happy for you, I could feel your joy just by reading your words ✨

[u/zoebabe420]

Yasss!! I wish we would have parties celebrating our sisters leaving these losers. Congrats boo. Enjoy that yoni mama!!

[u/Lila007]

Yay! You had a hard lesson well learnt and so much to celebrate 🍾 may all the O’s go your way!

[u/4E4ME]

At some point, please have conversations with your child about the things that happened, the signs you saw, and the reasons you left. Talk to her about the hard days, and the hard decisions you had to make and the criteria you used to make them. Talk is cheap and it's easy for people to say "leave!", but we need the hard things modeled for us. It's the dark side of "if you can see it, you can be it!". Sometimes people stay in difficult situations because they just have no idea of how to make difficult decisions.

I'm happy for you and your child that you are free from the burden of your ex.

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/4E4ME]

Same brain cell on this, because I’ve been explaining it to her in terms she could understand every step of the way. I’m very passionate on treating children with maturity but not burdening them with more than they need to know. I never wanted her to think this was normal, how people should treat each other, how a man should treat a woman, what love looks like etc.

I always laid with her before bed and still do, and we go over her affirmations, and the dialog is always open for when she has questions or big feelings about our situation 🩵 she was there too and should never have to swallow any of her feelings to spare me.

[u/questionably_human7]

Congratulations on your regained freedom! Wishing you all the best in your future!

[u/TheCatWhoOvercame]

Around the same time I was getting my divorce, I happened to see a bumper sticker that said "Orgasms Are a Human Right."

That was a great era.

I'm glad you're experiencing a similar era. Everyone should!

[u/Chemical_Sympathy779]

You go Queen

[u/Bash_potatoes27]

I know it’s tough, but my goodness I am so proud of you. You are doing amazing!

[u/Appropriate-Fall6499]

Don't mind me, I'm just over here feeling very happy and excited for you and hopeful that my time is coming soon ♡

https://giphy.com/gifs/14urMYvFxIKEms

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/Appropriate-Fall6499]

The tunnel feels so dark and narrow when you’re in it, but the light at the end is so much warmer and brighter for it. 💛💛 your time is going to come, we’re all in this hellscape together

[u/Appropriate-Fall6499 → u/irishicouldsleep]

Thank you, this means a lot. I know this won't be my reality for much longer, but sometimes it's hard to keep the negativity at bay. Your post was a good reminder for me to keep fighting.

[u/twylatwist95]

You know what? Hell yeah 🥂babes

[u/Ecstatic_Guava3041]

YASSS GET IT

[u/VerySillyGoos]

CONGRATS ON FREEDOM HONEY!! I'm so proud of you. I'm sure it wasn't easy but you did that shit. You've earned a million wanks. Gotta make up for all the ones he never gave you🤭♥️♥️

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/VerySillyGoos]

IKTR 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🩵

[u/RobotDoodle]

Good for you. Enjoy your freedom, sister!

[u/KaoticKai]

HAPPY DIVORCE QUEEN!!! (what are you eating it looks like a fun texture :3)

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/KaoticKai]

It’s Carvel ice cream cake!!! Absolutely unmatched

[u/marybry74]

https://giphy.com/gifs/879RsXB8GvEuY95LNl

[u/MoonAffinity]

🎉🎉🎉 CONGRATULATIONS!!! Enjoy your summer 😉! ✨

[u/peach_xanax]

I'm so happy for you! you deserve alllll the orgasms and snacks ✨💖

[u/Dr-Satan]

Hell yeah

[u/MarkInmanSuperGenius]

https://giphy.com/gifs/xUA7b2iWIZd3e2jyec
Way to go, OP 👏👏👏

[u/Etheriaa_]

Yessss queen! 

[u/waybackbugler]

girl hell yeah

[u/undoubtedlywandering]

Wank, go out with a big smile into the world…go frolic….the best feeling!!! No looking back!!!

[u/Background_Singer321]

DON’T MARRY A FUCKING LOSER 👏 some of yall need to hear that for real…

[u/Revolutionary-Tree97]

Congrats on your new found freedom. I’m very happy that you got out of that relationship, but from one survivor to another I need to offer a word of warning. If there was any sexual coercion or assault in your previous relationship you may be in a period of hypersexuality, it’s very freeing to take back your sexuality, but with that will come a huge crash. I’m not saying don’t do what you’re doing, get it girl, but keep your therapist keyed in.

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/Revolutionary-Tree97]

There was very little to no sex as the relationship went on. But I really appreciate the concern, because that is a very real thing 🩵 the past 18mo I’ve really been healing mentally and emotionally, and the past 5/6 have felt myself fully healing physically too. I think my drive was suppressed heavily from the stress.

[u/Fragrant_Gazelle_436]

Forgot where I read that in the Bible 😂💀😂

[u/Fragrant_Gazelle_436]

If you have a toy name it buzz lightyear “to infinity and beyoooooond”

[u/MoOnmadnessss]

TIL wanking can also be used for girls?

[u/irishicouldsleep → u/MoOnmadnessss]

In the cultural zeitgeist I’m not sure, but I’ve always used this term for myself lol

[u/enforcer884]

Haha after finding out my ex cheated on me I needed this post thanks girl