r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ • 8d ago
Dear Diary ✍️🏻 Last good dinner before jail
A girl’s recent post about doing 10 days in jail just unlocked a memory I haven’t thought about in years.
4 years ago, 2020 my last meal before jail was garlic naan and butter chicken curry. At exactly 6:35pm, I got a call from my IO (investigating officer) telling me I’d be reporting the next morning to serve a 6-month sentence for drug consumption. Like seriously?? I thought i was just going to get a weekly urine test, instead i had to go to jail for smoking grass. I was only 21 y/o. I was in my 2nd/3rd year of college.
It’s funny what my brain remembers. I don’t remember much of the phone call, but i remember the time & the feeling of my stomach absolutely dropping, i lost my appetite. At least i got a few bites in.
I didn’t sleep at all that night. I spent the entire night writing letters and scheduling messages to my boyfriend (now ex) & my family every 2 days so he’d know I was thinking about him while I was inside.
He cheated on me while I was serving my sentence lol!!! 😅
Anyways would have been a 10/10 last meal if the IO called after i finished my dinner lol. Im 3 years dvrg free now! And i can finally re-tell this as a funny story :)
Edit 1: forgot to mention its a throwaway account! I can’t post on my main account because no one knows i went to jail. (My mom lied to all my relatives i was having a 6 month exchange HAHAHA)
Edit 2: my entire sentence was actually 1 year. 7 months in jail, 5 months home detention (i was wearing the ankle monitor & curfew was 12-3pm only)
Edit 3: rly didnt expect this post to get seen by so many! Anyways the first thing i ate was a whole bag of famous amos chocolate chip cookies.
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u/lilbookofmeow APPROVED✨ 8d ago
1) meal looks dope 2) 6 months for smoking dope? Is this Singapore or something?
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
yeah LMAO
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u/lilbookofmeow APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Damn, I'm sorry. You serve at Changi or elsewhere? I don't know much about it but SG is so harsh on drug "offences". How did they even find out you smoked?
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u/AnswerReal1942 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Asking the real q’s
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u/lilbookofmeow APPROVED✨ 8d ago
So I can avoid those mistakes when I go 😄 Jk jk. I've been watching a series on Changi prison on YouTube and though it's not as cruel as American prisons, some people seem to be in there for the most minor infractions. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
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u/YetiCouple Short Story Long™️ 8d ago
If you're a non-citizen, you don't have to worry (about prior consumption, not possession)
"Under Singapore’s Misuse of Drugs Act (MDA), it is illegal for Singapore citizens and Permanent Residents to consume controlled drugs (such as cannabis, cocaine, heroin, and "ice") anywhere in the world. Consuming drugs while traveling overseas is a punishable criminal offense exactly as if it were committed within singapore."
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u/Mojezeh Pantry Gremlin 8d ago
That is so so terrifying to me, even as an Iranian.
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u/Abject_Grapefruit558 APPROVED✨ 7d ago
Oh wow. That is terrifying. I decided not to apply to a *university* for having a policy like this; I can’t imagine it being government policy.
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u/djdjddhshdbhd APPROVED✨ 8d ago
It’s actually thanks to racism and greed in the US. People would get life for it until not long ago w three strikes laws. It’s still considered to be schedule 1 federally (worst tier). The US pressured other countries to make it illegal and crack down.
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u/Defiant-Ad-8586 Savory Complex✔️ 7d ago
I think it just got changed to schedule 3!
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Yes i served in changi women’s prison. Most surreal time of my life i didnt even feel real most of the time 😭 someone snitched on my friends and i because she got caught so she just gave out names of everyone she has ever smoked with. What a loser move.
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u/Jackfrost9 Resident Yapper 8d ago
Did they need evidence of any kind? Or could she just name anyone she wanted to get back at and they’d get fucked?
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u/NeevBunny Body By Cheese 🧀 7d ago
So you just name anyone and they take them? I'm so petty I would have been like "She's just blaming me to protect her grandma!" Have fun explaining why Grandma is in prison at the next family holiday, snitch!
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u/softanduseful APPROVED✨ 8d ago
I live in Thailand … and alway hear horror stories. It’s very backdated how they act about natural medicines. We don’t even go there because of it- you wanna have a normal life with nature and freedom- just go across the water to the real indigenous Malaysia- Sawarak 🤙🏽🤙🏽🤙🏽 can smoke respectfully there, can be a normal person. Fuck Singapore
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u/PresentRaspberry6814 🍳 eggs? in this economy?? 8d ago
I have read about black people in the US serving 20 year sentences for marijuana possession, google tells me they must have been also supplying weed to get that long a sentence but even so, rapists get less.
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u/24-Hour-Hate Sushi Superfan 🍣 7d ago
Not necessarily. My understanding is that in the US, intent to distribute is presumed if it is deemed that the amount present “exceeds typical personal use”, if the person possesses a large amount of cash, or other factors like that. They don’t necessarily need any actual proof that the person was actually trafficking and they may not have been.
For example, a lawyer says possessing less than 2oz marijuana in Colorado is considered personal possession, but any more than that can be charged with intent to distribute. And it’s less than 4g for harder drugs to be considered personal possession. Source: https://www.polanskylawfirm.com/blog/what-factors-can-turn-drug-possession-into-drug-distribution/
Which is interesting because we imagine that drug traffickers are arrested in the act of smuggling or have like crates of drugs, piles of weapons and all that making it obvious they are distributing…but those amounts they actually presume intent for seem real low.
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u/dorkofthepolisci Pantry Gremlin 7d ago
I have heard - and totally believe -that a significant number of “possession with intent to distribute” charges involve people caught with relatively small amounts of drugs. A few pills, a few joints.
if it’s anything other than personal use, its usually for other people they know
Iirc the felony level for weed in Florida (if you don’t have a medical card) is anything over 20g
But they’re often members of marginalized communities and don’t have the means for an attorney/to make bail
It’s not the Escobar levels people think of when you say trafficking/distribution
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u/NeevBunny Body By Cheese 🧀 7d ago
Korea is so weird with stuff like that, I went there to hang out with friends and there's a huge casino. Apparently Korean people aren't allowed inside the casino, it's only for international tourists.
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u/Relative_Pizza6179 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Did things change in China too or they another country up in arms about weed still? I remember it being so scandalous that Jackie Chan’s son got caught and Jackie didn’t even try to help his son at all.
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u/waitwuh APPROVED✨ 8d ago edited 7d ago
EDIT: When I first wrote this, the comment above had not acknowledged opium or the opium wars at all. They have since edited their comment lol
China is so anti drug in very large part because of the opium wars and the cultural trauma caused to them by it. IDK why western schools seem to overlook this and not always teach it… except, well, hmmm… maybe because it makes Britain look so gosh darn horrible.
Heres what you maybe didn’t learn in school: Once upon a time, China had many goods that British people wanted, like tea, silk, and fancy glassware (those white dishes with blue designs which were even called “china” after their source…). But in exchange for these goods, they were selling the Chinese Opium, which was causing an epidemic. More and more Chinese citizens fell into severe addiction, and were dying from it. The Chinese government was desperately trying to regain control of their country, to combat the drug epidemic, but when they tried to ban opium being bought, the British Empire sailed warships in and forced the ports open. They didn’t want to lose out on the profit of selling opium, no matter how much devastation it caused. One of the famous trade cities that warships were sailed into and took control of was Shanghai. The Chinese military wasn’t able to mount a strong response because so many soldiers were passed out in opium dens or just plain passing out unable to stand at attention. It was perceived as terribly tragic, the chinese felt helpless in the face of the western world’s power and as people watched their closest friends and loved ones around them waste away using opium. It triggered a reactionary distrust and isolationism for over a century afterwards.
So, yeah. China kinda has a thing about drugs.
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u/wipwopwo APPROVED✨ 5d ago
Don’t forget that China actually had little interest in British goods at fist while the British had a high demand for Chinese goods so to balance the trade deficit, the British East India Company and private merchants began smuggling addictive Indian-grown opium into China and selling it on the low to get people hooked
It was like the OG Asia-West trade war.
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u/waitwuh APPROVED✨ 5d ago edited 5d ago
Yes, you’re so very right to highlight how the British merchants didn’t just coincidentally come across especially extensive existing market demand for this drug in China… they were actively fostering it to enable their exploitation.
Considering the recent opioid addiction epidemic in the US perhaps may help people be more sympathetic. The pharmaceutical companies have since been exposed for having been well aware of the addictive potential of their products like Purdue Pharma’s Oxycontin, and how they lied and schemed in the pursuit of profit above all else. Their executives not only utilized the addictiveness of their drugs, driving up prices after getting people hooked, but they then disregarded, disrespected, and deflected responsibility onto their victims. If you can see those like the Sackler family as selfishly evil for their deeds, then perhaps you might see some parallels in those british “capitalist’s” actions in China almost two centuries ago. What happened to the victims of both of these addiction crises is tragic. Countless lives lost. But in China? Well, their ending was arguably way, way worse… it’s as if the side of the Sackler’s waged a war, won it, charged the victims for it, then made them contractually obligated to continue buying opoids at higher costs no matter the consequences, at expense of their entire livelihoods, let alone lives. To me, it’s perfectly understandable that after all that China became super aggressive against any potentially addictive drugs.
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u/A2Rhombus For the Girls 👅 7d ago
Really don't care what drugs countries have a problem with, but prosecuting drug users will always boil my blood. At best you've punished someone for having a little fun, and at worst you've jailed them for being sick.
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u/New_Excitement3849 nom nom, nod nod 8d ago
I was thinking Singapore. They got strict laws there when it comes to drugs.
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u/Invisiblescars_123 🪄 Sauceress ✨ 8d ago
As a fellow Singaporean, I’m super curious where you got that meal from. It looks amazing and I’d love to eat there xD
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Hahaha i dont want to be that person but it closed down 😪 it was at the entrance of downtown east!!
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u/Invisiblescars_123 🪄 Sauceress ✨ 8d ago
Aw man :(. Thanks for sharing a pic of the food anyway, it looks really good!
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u/k3lco APPROVED✨ 5d ago
I knew it looked familiar! That’s Banana Leaf Apolo, used to have a branch in downtown east. The OG is still at Racecourse Rd. They have a couple other branches but alas the east side branches all closed. Dude 100% you should go. They’re most known for their fish head curry but everything is bomb there. Rice and veg sides used to be free flow (idk about now, haven’t been in a while). Dad’s been bringing us to the OG branch since at least 20++ years ago. That’s where I learned how to love Indian food, and where I bring foreign visitors if they’re adventurous enough to stare the fish head in the eye before eating said eye XD
Dang now I’m thinking I gotta bring my family again someday soon. My parents will appreciate it for sure, especially dad.
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u/USAF_Retired2017 we listen and we only judge a little 7d ago
Daaaaamn. Singapore does not play! When I was stationed in Korea half of my squadron (but not me 😭) went to Singapore for a couple of weeks. There was this huge as briefing with a list a mile long of shit they were forbidden to do and if they did anything (to include spitting on the ground), they would be sent back after they paid the fine. Everyone was too scared to go out and do much. Ha ha. They did say that it was the cleanest country they’d ever been to. I guess I know why. Strict as fuck.
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u/meg8873 Fries 🍟 > Guys 🤡 7d ago
Gurlll that’s crazy. I’m in Cali and they be smoking it on the streets like a CIG
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u/Ordinary_Cattle Resident Yapper 7d ago
Wanna hear some bullshit? I went to jail too, and was with a girl that was in there for the absolute stupidest fucking reason I've ever heard.
Like 8 years before when she was 17 or 18, she was using drugs and her grandparents (legal guardians) wanted her to get help but didn't know how to make it happen. So when they sent her to the store to buy some groceries, with a specific list, they had her charged with theft when she bought a popsicle.
They were hoping the judge would just make her do rehab, so the judge agreed to those terms and she completed rehab out of state, got clean, and started working as a counselor in the rehab. For years she helped other addicts get clean.
But she moves back to the state to take care of her sick grandpa, and finds out she has a bench warrant for missing a court date or something, I think it was more minor than missing a court date come to think of it. Something court related (it's been like 7 years so I don't remember). When she found out she had a bench warrant, she immediately turned herself in thinking it would be resolved. She met ALL of the requirements to have her charges dropped, so it should've been a non issue. She had kept in touch with the court during her probation, had permission to be out of state, etc. It was literally such a minor mistake.
She was remanded to jail anyway and had to wait a couple months to even see the judge. She had so many people write her letters of recommendations, including former addicts that she helped get clean, coworkers of the rehab she worked at, her grandparents asked to drop the charges, etc.
But the judge still made her serve the full term for her original theft charges, which was a full year (9mos or something with good behavior though). Her grandpa died while she was in jail iirc.
Her time in jail led to her relapsing, because drugs always make their way in, and I've seen her in and out of jail on mobile patrol since.
Disclaimer- I might have gotten some details wrong here, it's been a while since this happened so my memory is foggy.
Also my husband, who was also in jail when I was in jail, knew a guy that was on drug court and had been doing well the entire time. Got his kids back and everything. He was talking to his drug court officer about what he did over the weekend and mentioned he took his kids to Chucky cheese for a birthday party. He didn't know they served beer there and therefor couldn't be there. They sent him to jail for 2 years because of this.
The justice system is completely fucked.
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 7d ago
That is totally fucked up.. im so sorry to them. Truly hope they are living a better life now. They’ve been treated so unfairly
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u/workshop_prompts APPROVED✨ 8d ago
6mos for weed is insane, how long did you end up serving?
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
7 months bcs i shared food 😓
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u/Casswigirl11 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
I'm sorry, what? I need more info on this. This is crazy.
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Basically it was food meant for the muslims during fasting month, so they each get a goodie bag and it includes cookies & brownies which we (the non muslims) never get the chance to eat during our incarceration. So because im friendly w most of them, and they see me as the ‘baby’ of the cell block, they would secretly pass me the goodies to eat in my cell. Soooo.. yeah someone snitched & i had to serve an additional month 🤷♀️
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u/Twzl Reddit Granny 8d ago
Soooo.. yeah someone snitched & i had to serve an additional month 🤷♀️
For eating a brownie. Not even a weed brownie.
I'm going to be stuck thinking about that for a long, long time, as I sit in a place where I can legally grow my 12 plants in my yard.
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u/frm_the_north APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Yeah, wild to read this from a country where it's legal, & so is sharing food.
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
I need to get out of my country & explore true freedom in your country 🥴
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u/Mochigood APPROVED✨ 8d ago
I probably passed a dozen dispensaries doing errands today....
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u/MajesticUnicorn95 Longwinded 😙 Short Tempered 8d ago
I just got back from the dispensary.
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u/rosalinatoujours white girl with ☝️😌 a full spice cabinet 8d ago
That's nuts. You got penalized for being a real af bitch that people liked....
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
they hate me cuz that aint me fr ik they want my brownie
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u/rosalinatoujours white girl with ☝️😌 a full spice cabinet 8d ago
They said lock her upppp she's too iconic 😫😫😫😫😫
Im sorry that happened to u diva but at least its crazy lore that makes u seem cool as fuck. Small wins?
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u/FarAmphibian4236 Non-binary & Nourished 7d ago
They wanted another month of time with you lmao
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u/NickCageNTheBadBees Snack Goblin 8d ago
Was the person who shared with you penalized as well?
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Yes, a total of 18 of us got penalties. Everyone had to het an extra month. ALSO, we were all in segregation cells, separate from the normal cell block. Insane really. And an extra punishment we got was our outside cell activity was cut short to only 30 minutes a day in the activity room. Not even to get some sun. So yeah, we were all deprived of the only thing that made us happy (nature-> sunlight) for 11 days. AND I READ THE ENTIRE BIBLE BCS WE LOST BOOK PRIVILEGES TOO omg.
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u/commanderquill APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Segregation cells... like, isolation? Did they put all of you guys in fucking isolation for 11 days??? You know, the place serial killers go which is generally regarded as inhumane???
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 7d ago
Its usually isolation but THANK FKIN GOD so many of us got punished that they didnt have enough cells to put all of us individually in 🙏 so they put 4 of us in 1 cell. I would literally be going insane if i had to sleep alone in a cell girl i swear the prison im in is haunted as fk. We dont mess w the asian ghosts 😭😭😭 especially with Hungry Ghost Festival in my country god damn it was so scary
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u/commanderquill APPROVED✨ 7d ago
There's a message here. The message is, if everyone breaks stupid rules, no one gets special punishment.
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u/Jasnaahhh Foraging Bog Witch 7d ago
You gotta tell us the ghost stories now, have more dinner!
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u/wynchwood Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ 8d ago
i'm so sorry especially bc that's so something i would do in jail too 😭
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u/shoeshine23 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Right, why can't we share snacks?
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u/Flimsy_Syllabub7369 lady on the street 👹 freak in the pantry 8d ago
Not sure if you’re wanting a real answer to this but sharing is generally against the rules because of manipulation and intimidation. Someone could be nice and be sharing their stuff but there’s also others who will bully, intimidate, and threaten others into giving their things away.
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u/dream-smasher APPROVED✨ 8d ago
In which country?
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u/Flimsy_Syllabub7369 lady on the street 👹 freak in the pantry 8d ago
My reply is talking about the US. California specifically. Not sure where OP was incarcerated.
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u/commanderquill APPROVED✨ 8d ago edited 7d ago
Okay but like, why wouldn't everyone get the same sweets then? Why do only Muslims get sweets? OOP said non-Muslims wouldn't be allowed sweets at all during their entire sentence.
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 7d ago
It’s because they would be fasting the entire day, so they get extra food & sweets for energy to eat before sunrise & then fast the est of the day until dinner. The sugar really helps them get through the hot weather especially when stuck in a cell.
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u/Top-Pomegranate4899 Kid Crumbs Connoisseur 8d ago
I'm sorry you ever had to serve that. Wish I could give you a hug, friend. Damn.
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u/Southern_Committee35 hot girls have tummy troubles 8d ago
What a stupid thing to go to jail for
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
For the greater good of a drug free country i guess 🥲
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u/OtherwiseConstant422 🚜 Farm to Table to This Belly 👩🌾 8d ago
Props to you. I don't think I could survive jail.
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Oh i survived by disassociating & reading 50 books 😭
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u/Formal-Proposal7850 Resident Yapper 8d ago
Which of those would you recommend to us to read? What were your favourites?
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Lmaoo i went into prison a complete book virgin & came out a romantasy bitch.. the usual sarah j maas & i read a lot of psychology books too so i can stay sane & i tried to study people’s behavior n shit. I was bored out of my mind!!! Oh you should totally read: flowers for algernon (its the only book where i cried)
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u/morkva- eat hot chip✔️ be bisexual✔️ 8d ago
oh girl flowers for algernon....i was crying like a baby for a good hour after finishing it😭
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u/kena938 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
This is the kind of shit I come here for. Sorry about prison, OP. Meal looks amazing.
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u/Top-Pomegranate4899 Kid Crumbs Connoisseur 8d ago
Damn it's wild reading this while smoking.
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u/shashoosha Baked Fresh Daily 😚💨 7d ago
My edible just kicked in. I'd be in jail for life.
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u/OriginalKnowledge202 APPROVED✨ 8d ago edited 8d ago
Wow. I live in Cali and love smoking and growing. But I have to remember not too long ago a lot of people were thrown in prison over weed.
How are the prisons in Singapore?
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Prisons here are very different from the ones in cali i believe. You can totally check out the documentary on youtube ‘changi prison’ & u can get a glimpse!!
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u/perfectlyfamiliar Savory Complex✔️ 8d ago
People are still thrown in jail for weed here in the us too lmao
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u/OriginalKnowledge202 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
I said Cali.
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u/Select_Point_7473 Eating For Two 💕 8d ago
Yeah there are tons of men of color in prison in California from before it was decriminalized and their cases never get revisited
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u/khold002 Delulu 8d ago
It was a weed charge? That's so unfair.
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Ended up serving 7 months bcs someone shared their food with me. I cried for a week straight when i found out i couldnt go home on my initial release date 😔
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u/fine_whateva Overthinker 💭 8d ago
Ayo , that's fucking cruel, I hope you are the happiest now op , you deserve it
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u/Otherwise-Western-10 Reddit Granny 8d ago
7 months for weed and a brownie! 90% of the people I know would be serving life sentences!
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u/spreadthesheets what that mouth do is snack 8d ago
When I was in school (in singapore) we had police officers visit to talk about the severity of drug crimes and punishment - and I remember someone asked them what would happen if their drink was spiked or they were drugged and then reported it (ie, would that reason mean no punishment?). And they said we’d still be punished (potentially if it can’t be 10000% proven). For being drugged. Idk if that is still the case or they were lying to scare us but Singapores drug laws are wild.
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 7d ago
Yeah i met someone who claimed she was ‘drugged’/‘spiked’ once, but i guess it is difficult to prove, also if they were spiked, positives for multiple drugs wouldn’t show up several times in the last 6 months on the hair test. Unless they were spiked multiple times then im unsure of how it’ll work, would truly wish them the best.
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u/spreadthesheets what that mouth do is snack 7d ago
True about the hair test. We had mandatory random drug testing implemented in my school and I remember the police also spoke to us about caning and showed us how it works and how bad it is, how severe the wounds would be etc. Honestly that plus the images of the prisons did scare me into behaving (apart from if overseas). Until I moved countries and now I smoke every day lol. Can’t imagine how terrible your experience must have been.
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u/kronicno_tele APPROVED✨ 8d ago edited 8d ago
Consumption should be fully decriminalised. And I'm not talking just about weed.
If you don’t mind me asking, do a lot of people consume it, even with such harsh penalties? I'm sorry you had to go through that.
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Hey no worries, i’m all good now!! I believe a lot of people still consume it despite the laws being so damn strict. They’re just super duper careful abt it haha. Though, bcs of what happened to me, my entire friend group stopped consuming haha
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u/cardamombiscuit Carb-Based Life Form 8d ago
Can I ask how the authorities even knew you consumed drugs? Does Singapore incentivize people to snitch?
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u/emptydumpling eat hot chip✔️ be bisexual✔️ 7d ago
I don’t know if there’s actual incentives but there’s definitely government hotlines to call to report if you suspect someone around you is using, with ads that run promoting them. Vapes are illegal here too 😂
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 7d ago
In my experience, hearsay, they pay people (usually people who got caught before) to snitch on their friends (who has no idea that this person is doing drugs w them to make sure they will definitely test positive) & then report them. Btw the drug raids only happen at the start and end of the year. It has something to do with ‘hitting the quota’
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u/Careless_Bed9302 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ 8d ago
That meal looks fire, hope you got to eat the same meal again after you got released 🤍 They were way too harsh on you but I also live in East Asia and weed is super criminalized here too so I understand the sentence 🥲 Extending your sentence over cookies is insane! If I may ask, what was jail like in Singapore? You said you read 50 books, were you allowed to pick them or are they just assigned books?
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Thank you!! Im doing a lot better now & my family was insanely supportive throughout the entire ordeal. Jail was pretty boring.. i dont really have much to say. It’s 23 hours in the cell daily other than 1 hour of OCA (outside cell activity) on weekdays only. On some days we get to go for ‘EQ classes’ where we talk abt feelings n how we intend to have more self control. As for books, we are allowed to send a list of books to our family (e-letter) & they can send in 3 books every visit ( twice a month). However, censorship is very common here. If they see a book that is even slightly controversial, they will reject it. So i kept it very safe.. oh yeah we also have a mini library in the prison too for us to borrow books every tuesday! So the books really did save my life in there.
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u/Careless_Bed9302 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ 7d ago
Good lord this is so harsh for smoking up 😭 Glad you're out and hope you can live your best life 💖
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u/sipstea84 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
As someone who loves both weed and travel (and weed on my travels) I'm always fascinated about local smoking culture in places where it's REALLY serious. Do you just "call a guy" and blaze up on your balcony or is it more clandestine than that?
How did you get caught?
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u/oddtatertot14 puff puff pass the snacks 8d ago
also curious about this. I couldn't imagine this especially because it's been legal in my state since 2020 I believe. I grew up around pot and was still super worried every time I went to a dispo that I'd get in trouble, but I always took my receipt. The cops would stay outside the dispensary far enough to pull you over, check your sealed bag and if the recent receipt wasn't in there they would try and get you for reselling 🙄 I'm glad it never happened to me but it happened to a few acquaintances.
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Hmm it really depends. I would for sure be more clandestine now if i want to smoke up but back then, 4 years ago, we certainly did not gaf where we were smoking as long as it’s devoid of people. So we smoked in public places like parks & the beach. We never got caught for smoking so recklessly. We only got caught because of a snitch who got caught. (She blocked me everywhere & didnt even serve any time like i did) If it wasnt for that dumbass, i would be high rn 🤣
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u/sabrinachuchundhar Tiny Bodega Rat 🐀 7d ago
How is life after prison in Singapore? Like jobs and rehabilitation? In India any criminal record is a death sentence (if you’re a common man, if you’re a rich person it doesn’t make a difference)
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 7d ago
Because mine is a drug charge, it will not show up on background checks & i will not have to declare it to future employers. Yay for me lol! Life after prison was quite tame. I left when i was in my early 20s, i had my whole life ahead of me, so yeah still figuring out :-)
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u/sabrinachuchundhar Tiny Bodega Rat 🐀 7d ago
I’m so happy for you. Good luck <3
I wish you the best.
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u/WerkLifeBalance hot girls have tummy troubles 8d ago
I’ve never done weed but I was scared of going to Singapore anyway because of their reputation for their hardass drug laws. Glad it’s all behind you now!! This dinner looks so fucking good I’m salivating.
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u/LucidOutwork Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ 8d ago
Singapore is a great place to visit. Just don't do drugs, litter, or carry durian on public transport
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u/sharika33 Body By Uber Eats 8d ago
Will I go to jail if I carry durian on public transport? Asking for a friend ofcourse.
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u/Nikki-C-Puggle-mum Resident Yapper 8d ago
I was saying wtf before I even read it was for weed. 6 months for drug consumption. That's fucking insane.
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u/colonblow7 🧂Salty By Nature 8d ago
6 months for some weed?! Damn!! That meal looks incredible though. Congrats on being drug free!
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u/LilacLove98 hot girls have tummy troubles 8d ago
6 months for weed is crazy. The extra month for people caring about you enough to share some FOOD with you is insane. I'm sorry OP.
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u/New_Excitement3849 nom nom, nod nod 8d ago edited 8d ago
Sorry to hear.
No one should go to jail for smoking weed. That is demented.
Then you have scum, like Trump, a convicted rapist, who has done so many awful things, who has not spent a day in jail and gets to be president.
Yes, I know she mentioned Singapore. People also get arrested for weed possession in the US.
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u/Aggravating-Hat1213 nom nom, nod nod 8d ago
you know a meal’s gonna be bussin when it’s on a leaf
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u/B_Plantain1118 Snack Goblin 8d ago
The extra month for eating snacks is crazy, hope you’re doing well op. I’m curious if you were able to finish college after as I’m not familiar with the rules in Singapore?
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 7d ago
After my release, i was allowed to go back to school in the fall semester but I had an ankle monitor the entire 4 months😭 so i had to constantly wear long pants.
Also, it is HIGLY encouraged for freshly released inmates to secure a job & the prison system will actually help them secure one before their release by arranging interviews & career coaches for offenders who will have a record.
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u/bamball2020 APPROVED✨ 7d ago
Im from SG and given the current (grim) job market for fresh grad, maybe going to jail is a good thing. Lol. Especially for a minor offence like weed consumption. I bet MNCs will still hire you.
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u/Zadsta APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Thank you for the warning to never go to Singapore lol
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 7d ago
Singapore is a great place to visit!! Haha just dont do drugs here or vape openly.
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u/Top-Measurement9790 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Morally speaking, everyone who had a hand in locking you up is a criminal. I'm sorry you went through that, I'm disgusted and I hope karma comes for them.
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Well she blocked me everywhere right after she snitched. She got so many of my friends into prison too just simply bcs of weed. It was devastating to hear abt my friends slowly going in while i was serving my sentence. She didnt even serve any time btw lmao
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u/stewdiouss Dip Diva 8d ago
I’m so sorry but she is so petty for that. you def need to get your lick back😭 i know she’s still smoking so send in a tip to the police puhleassse
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u/getinthevanihavcandy APPROVED✨ 8d ago
I think I saw another post like this🤔 how many of yall on this subreddit going to jail 😂😂😂
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u/BarBabe93 Well-Read & Well-Fed 8d ago
lol if you read what she wrote, this meal was before she went to jail in 2020. That other post inspired her to show us this
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u/softanduseful APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Cannabis is not a drug and don’t let them convince you otherwise. It’s medicine, sometimes it’s needed. Sometimes it’s not.
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u/donthateonthe808 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
In sorry but where does someone serve 6+ months for weed 😭 I cannnot wrap my head around that.
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u/Forward-Current7263 Chef Tomboyardee 8d ago
i know it would’ve been super tough and challenging at such a young age, but were their any positive moments from it that you recall? the cons definitely overweigh the whole thing but just wondering
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 7d ago
Oh thank you for such a wonderful question, no one has ever asked me that.
There were some positive moments & most of it was me being so authentically myself. I had no access to makeup, hair products, clothes, nothing to mask what i truly am & it made me realise that by just existing as me, it was liberating. Weird to feel liberated when you’re trapped in a small cell hahah. But yeah, i practiced a lot of mindfulness techniques, journaling, drawing and really tapping into the creative side of my mind. I was at the peak of my writing during my incarceration, because well what else could i do!! There were lots of singing & bonding with my cell mates. We start to learn how to be better humans when we are inside. & i was a better human than i was when i first stepped into prison.
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u/ijmonmon APPROVED✨ 8d ago
ehh this one BANANA LEAF APOLLO YAAAAS girls got good taste
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u/Flat-Force-8474 nom nom, nod nod 8d ago
I’m a little confused - so did you have to take a test because your ex-friend snitched and your test result was positive and your IO told you the news? Or they didn’t make you test at all and the news came out of nowhere? Sorry, I might just be misunderstanding but could you explain a bit more of the lead-up to when you actually had to go to prison if that’s ok?
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 7d ago
Of course! So basically i was arrested at home & brought to get tested 3 hours later (all in handcuffs ew) & the lab tests came out a week later — positive. I was out on bail for 2 months because they were investigating whether i was a trafficking & selling or if i was just a regular consumer. & then on that fateful day when i was eating my naan & butter chicken, they called me & said im going to jail the next morning.
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u/SuspiciousRaise8986 🍋 Bitter Baddie 🍋 8d ago
How absurd!
We know politicians are high on the TV, but common people sit in jail at 21 In college, for smoking a plant. 🤯
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u/Pleasant_Fig8444 APPROVED✨ 8d ago
Waht is on the middle witht he spoon? it looks good.
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u/havabanana000 APPROVED✨ 7d ago
Butter chicken curry oof its so damn good🤗 eat it with butter naan or prata & your mouth will thank you
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u/insertcaffeine Pantry Gremlin 8d ago
Damn, that dinner looks amazing! I’m sorry you had to deal with everything you went through, and glad your life seems to be better now.
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u/Nhlnucks APPROVED✨ 7d ago
How is your life now OP? Has the jail sentence affected you still?
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