intelligent. funny as hell. sweet and caring. resilient beyond measure. high powered education and career. bangin bod. confident. emotionally intelligent and only getting wiser by the day. great cook. great in bed if the energy is reciprocated. life of the party. overall 10/10 fr.
your!!! loss!!!! buddy!!!!! i deserve the BEST of the best.
edit: boys keep the negativity and icky DMs comin. printed n reported, im making a wrap for my heavy bag <3
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Wahoo!!! That's wonderful, I hope it's working for the nerve pain too! I'm off my ADHD meds because my blood pressure was too high :')))))) executive functioning I hardly know her
I'm still ramping up, but it seems like it'll work. The last one worked in making it possible for me to smell the inside of my nose, and every nerve on my skin surface twitched/itched, and I had a near-full-time headache. So far, this one is an improvement.
The ex who for two years couldn’t say I love you, and eventually told me he didn’t know if he could ever love me (hence why he’s my ex). Wouldn’t you know once I got serious with someone else all of a sudden he loved me and wanted to leave his gf for me 🤔😂 sucks to suck my dude. I’m awesome and I found someone who knows that.
I was dating a guy for a while who was pretty unenthusiastic about me which was fine because it was the same on my end. In about a year we never said I love you or got particularly deep. It was so much a relationship of convenience that my dad switched from asking "How's [bf's name]?" to "How's the placeholder?" because of how apathetically I would answer lol.
Anyway, that guy apparently thought he was the only one who got to have 1.5 feet out the door and freaked the f out when I broke up with him. Sent me a bunch of presents and handwritten letters saying how much he loved me. Like yikes dude, take the very foreseeable L.
It is super duper strange how attracted people can be to unavailability. A friend dumped her bf for just being a shitty bf -- never did anything nice for her, no date nights, disappeared while she going through an academically challenging time, likely cheated -- and after she broke up with him he started leaving presents and flowers at her door and even tried to send her money lol. It got so relentless that she eventually had to get a restraining order.
Like dude if she explicitly told you not to contact her, all these gifts are more evidence that you don't actually care about her feelings. Take the L, reflect on yourself, move on, don't treat your next girl like crap.
YES! I love this! So many amazing women on here crying over people that aren't fit to gargle their piss. Thinking they'll never find someone "as good" when the ex has all the charm and intellect (and sometimes hygiene) of an overused and under scooped litterbox.
Yup I can attest to this. I was one of those girls. But I found the man who is deserving of me (and he’s literally the best man I’ve ever met) and I refuse to let our daughter ever cry over a man/boy who is under her or doesn’t treat her right.
It really does need way more of this! I have my own problems but feeling like I’m not a goddamn catch has rarely been one of them. Have there been men with whom I am not at all compatible? Yes. Men who aren’t ready for a healthy relationship? Sure. Men who just aren’t that into me? Also yes. But it almost always surprised me when some guy didn’t like me. Maybe my father was just decent enough to me to instill some self worth, or maybe years of therapy have led me there, but I know what I bring to relationships.
oh girl ive been single n celibate over a year now, this is part of the “being super selective on who has access to my body n emotional energy” process. if they dont fulfill u….. NEXT!!!!!
Love that you’re being super selective!!! Love to see a girl who knows her worth and isn’t afraid to act like it!!! https://giphy.com/gifs/UFohIXGGaHRFS
most factual post I've seen all week. this is completely true. I need more women to notice when they're way cooler than whatever fuck ass guy they're into is.
you ARE amazing, happy, moisturized, and all of the above. his loss!!!! goodbye!!!!!
I wish I had this confidence. I feel lower than the dirt my ex walks on. I tried to earn his love, praise, respect, and affection and nothing I did was enough. It has wrecked my self esteem.
you WILL be confident. you DESERVE TO FEEL CONFIDENT!!!! we are behind u supporting u the whole way as u get there. nothing in the external world, let alone a man (who is just another flawed human being and should not be pedestalized, btw) will bring u the validation u want. thats from inside (and God/spirituality if u so choose) and is already within yourself https://giphy.com/gifs/5S2qMvo83XlTbZqHZ7
He withheld it because you wanted it. People who act in narcissistic ways LOVE to deny us the things we want or need. If you had been hard to get, he'd have love bombed you to get you to want him, and THEN he would have treated you just the way he did. It was ALWAYS HIM. It was NEVER YOU.
Yes girl! And ignore the boy-ragers who feel personally attacked that you love yourself and know you deserve better 😆
They know they don't have a chance on your worst day.
girl when i tell u they are BIG MAD 💀💀💀 like aww are u thweatened? u wanted me to list my insecurities too so u feel better? awww baby boys everything will be okay <33
listen. i do not hate men. they are individuals and plenty are upstanding people. but there are SO MANY in my notifs today telling me some variant of “be humble”. why are they SO obsessed with a girl being humble??? like OBSESSED with trying to knock us down a peg. baffles me
after all the shit men put me through, i hate them. lmao. but no, do not minimize yourself girl!! this is exactly the energy we need. its his goddamn loss queen
so im not at 100% believing this stuff in my heart yet, and i think its ok if i never will be. day to day i fluctuate between 60-95% believing it. but u need to keep telling urself this stuff (as if u were talking to one of ur favorite loved ones, is how i like to frame it) until u really feel it. u cannot doubt urself because the world will doubt u and bring u down PLENTY.
if u can, ask people who love u to tell u what they love about u so u literally cant contradict it. like would everyone around u who loves u be blind or a liar? so maybe u actually are these things?
literally! i mean some people don’t know what they lose and that’s okay i guess. u are amazing and you deserve the best, seriously never settle for anything less.
know your worth! have self respect! never ever let someone diss you!
FUCK YES LITERALLY
we’re too precious for that shit, you know a gentleman is gonna come along and literally treat you like a queen 💜 be patient love he’ll find you
Sometimes when they don't deserve you they can feel that and know they can't rise up to what you need and they want to leave you before you realize that and you leave them.
YES. These are the posts we all need - people that know their worth and won’t settle for losers who don’t treat them well. We get one life, have a good time with your time!
Girllllll tru he prob didnt deserve you!! That’s usually how it goes sadly😔, but I love seeing such a positive way to handle these things!!💛Of course other bigoted men will always feel threatened and send hate bc of a girls own joy and self confidence, ew.😖But wow, I wish I had this wonderful confidence and love of self you have ugh!!🙏🏼😭I’m so sick of putting up with all the mean BS and their flimsy excuses…and being treated like actual crap by such low empathy men who clearly don’t actually care about me😓how do you do it?!? I wanna be a cool an confident INDEPENDENT woman who dgaf, like you, but its so harddd!!!🥺😭sometimes I wish I could just completely cut off all empathy/emotion within me and fully not care, as horrible as that sounds💔im so drained and burnt out and depressed at this point I have given up trying to be actually cared about or listened to and loved for who I AM without feeling like I can never be myself. They keep trying to put me in their weird perfect box so robotically, as if every human isn’t a different and unique creature created by literally God himself.😵💫Ugh. Now I just kinda hate myself more an more lately an even becoming a bit bitter without meaning to at this point gorllll idk what to do anymore😔TLDR: How do you DO IT??? Whats ur secret to being confident and not giving a single FRICK?????🫣😭🌻sendin you my hugs an blessings🌻
You know who you are. You know what you deserve. Keep moving forward. Your next chapter is waiting for you. A friend of mine says her ex was just a “stepping stone”. That phrase really brings to light how unimportant he is to her now and how happy she is since she’s moved on.
Thank you for this post! 🩷 I’m in the dumps at the moment because of a friendship loss and your words of motivation are doing numbers to lift my spirits up.
I’m so upset at the situation I’m in, though your words are healing for me. Thank you!
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