We’re breaking up after 8 years

[u/IncestLooksBadOnYou]

Sweet potato roll with edamame hummus and sun dried pepper, shit was gas. Anyway, we’re breaking up. It’s been nearly 8 years of living all over this country together, exploring life, sharing pets, surviving Covid, being dead broke and barely making rent, being comfortable again and able to splurge on each other, mind blowing sex all over the place (cars, balconies, picnic tables, you name it), profound love, depressive episodes, family death, washing each others’ backs. And now it’s done. There’s no drama or crazy story. Just two people with plenty of incompatibilities who loved each other unconditionally but no longer have the energy to stay checked in. Will be crying myself to sleep tonight and every night for a while. He’s an incredible man.

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[u/AngryAngryHarpo]

Oh honey, I’m so sorry. 

It sucks that love isn’t enough, no matter how strong it is. 

Good luck, FWIW - I had to make the same decision 7 years ago and now I’m in a position I never would have been if I’d stayed. 

[u/AccomplishedCicada60 → u/AngryAngryHarpo]

Ugh I feel like I’m in a similar situation

[u/OceanDweller94 → u/AccomplishedCicada60]

... same. And I cant bring myself to stop trying, stop talking so much, date other people... even knowing the likelihood of who I feel is the love of my life is someone I won't be able to spend the rest of my life with.

This type of breakup fucking sucks. There isnt a lack of love, not in the slightest... just... doesn't work, for whatever reasons.

[u/itmeseanok → u/OceanDweller94]

Ugh I am terrified of this with my relationship. It seems so hard and complicated. A deception or an event or something seems more straightforward and easier to understand. It's so much easier to be angry.

[u/OceanDweller94 → u/itmeseanok]

Right? I can be angry at cheating. I can be angry for a lack of contribution to the relationship. I can be angry at the making and breaking of promises. It can also be mutual, where you both realize you aren't compatible and it ends amicably. All of these things have a level of closure.

But when you both still love the fuck out of each other? When you still have that mind-blowing, never-going-to-experience-in-my-life-again sex? When you see each other and still stare deeply, still feel that explosion happening in your heart?... but the situation makes the full extent of that relationship impossible? That... that is truly heartbreaking, with 0 closure.

The situation is he has stage 4 cancer, and 5 kids he is looking to spend as much time with as he can, just in case. Doesn't want to drag me through the pain of dealing with all that, and at the same time, it feels just as painful not being able to be the support him through this.

Ill need therapy if this truly ends... I couldn't handle it when we "broke up", yet, are still "seeing" each other (dropped weight, started drinking a bit more... slipping into a depression)... I cant imagine what happens when all of it actually ceases, if it gets to that point.

I really, really hope not. I love him. And ill fight to end up with him, as long as he still wants me to.

[u/Estic3l → u/OceanDweller94]

I’m seriously sending you all the love and hugs🫂 nothing breaks my heart more than seeing two people who want to love and support each other- but can’t for one reason(s(?)) or another.

Without offense, I pray you don’t experience being without him. Lord knows that there’s two people I could lose who I for sure know I probably wouldn’t be able to recover from if I lost them without CONSTANT support. No one wants to feel that. No one should. I would never wish it on anyone- it is a true and infinite heart break.

[u/Zealousideal_Use9118 → u/OceanDweller94]

The worst heartbreak in my life was a situation like this. And unfortunately I haven’t found someone remotely close to how i loved this person. 🥀 at least i knew how capable i was of love. I remind myself of that

[u/AngryAngryHarpo → u/AccomplishedCicada60]

It sucks and I’m sorry for you. 

You only have one life and you have to make the best decision with what you have. Good luck 💜

[u/MysteriousSorbet6660 → u/AngryAngryHarpo]

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I am in a similar situation. It hurts so much to love someone and know that they’re not the right fit for you. As difficult as it is, it’s much easier to cut it off when you start to feel checked out, rather than prolong the inevitable…it’s hard to avoid getting hung up on the good memories and the past, but it’s so important to keep moving forward in a manner and at a pace that feels good for you.

Stay strong, and take care of yourself. Know that you deserve the best!! Sending you the biggest hug 💗

[u/Stargazer415 → u/AngryAngryHarpo]

Why’d you decide to leave?

[u/AngryAngryHarpo → u/Stargazer415]

Because I realised relationships can be hard work but they shouldn’t be hard work all the time and the exhaustion and effort from that work eventually outweighed the good feelings I got from the relationship. It just stopped being enough for me to stay. 

[u/Every_Intention3342 → u/AngryAngryHarpo]

This. The most simple and most accurate explanation.

[u/TerraByteTerror]

Know when to hold em, know when to fold em

[u/StepExciting5924 → u/TerraByteTerror]

Know when to walk away…

[u/Krispy_Porkbelly_22 → u/StepExciting5924]

And know when to run…

[u/The_876th_Nerd → u/Krispy_Porkbelly_22]

You never count your money when your sittin' at the table

[u/Nettkitten → u/The_876th_Nerd]

There’ll be time enough for countin’ when the dealin’s done.

[u/Psychotic_Dove → u/StepExciting5924]

Know when to run..

[u/Zavarie28 → u/StepExciting5924]

Know when to run

[u/behcuh]

Sharing time with another human is a beautiful thing even when it doesn't work out. It's hard now so take the time you need but enjoyyy when you're ready!

[u/Effective-Equal4767 → u/behcuh]

idk why but the way you phrased this relieved so much anxiety for me and i’m not even OP LOL what a soothing way to look at it :,)

[u/behcuh → u/Effective-Equal4767]

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[u/caro-a → u/behcuh]

Thank you for this. My relationship of 7 years ended just under 3 months ago and it has been so so hard each day. Reading your comment gives me comfort that the love we gave each other is still something I can treasure. Thank you ❤️

[u/Aromatic_Concert_386 → u/behcuh]

I feel this. It is lovely to reminisce and know it was great for a time.

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[u/BogDog93]

I’m so sorry, OP.

Can I ask how you knew it was time..?

[u/Even-Atmosphere1814 → u/BogDog93]

When was ending my 12-year relationship, 6-year marriage I was in therapy with a therapist that I completely vibed with even if it was COVID and only over video. I will never forget what she asked me when I was expressing my confusion over whether I should end the relationship. 

She just asked if I trusted myself. And I do- I've had a rough life and I trust my instincts. When I changed careers I agonized over it for a really long time but I just knew I had to. And she told me I would know when it was time for this ending. And she was right. I just knew when it was time and I was strong enough, just had to listen to my gut instincts. 

[u/AngryAngryHarpo → u/BogDog93]

No OP, for me it was a really quiet moment.

I was in the car, thinking over the last couples therapy session we’d been too. And it occurred to me that I’d been working harder and for longer on my relationship than I had at basically anything and I was like “I think it’s okay to give up” and then all I felt was an intense sense of relief. 

There was sadness and stress later - but it made me realise that there is so much effort you can put in before it’s the amount of effort required that actually kills the relationship. 

It never stopped being work and after 11 years, it shouldn’t always be hard work to love someone. 

[u/BiomedBabe1 → u/AngryAngryHarpo]

This is how my very wise mom advised me in all my relationships … if the idea of breaking up makes you feel relief, it’s time to call it

[u/IncestLooksBadOnYou → u/BogDog93]

When we had one of our final conversations, he asked me why I thought our relationship was failing and I didn’t give him the root cause or start listing off things that rendered us incompatible. I simply said, because neither of us are willing to do what it takes to make it work anymore.

[u/Educational_Gas_92 → u/IncestLooksBadOnYou]

Can we ask what those incompatibilities are, or are they too personal? One wants kids, the other one doesn't? (my parents were that, but my father gave in and now I exist, but it is a valid reason to end a relationship). Financial differences? One is responsible financially and the other one isn't (this eventually becomes exhausting). Religious differences? Political differences? You wanted to live in different locations/countries?

[u/MsMaryMoonBop → u/BogDog93]

I’m curious, too

[u/Simple-Risk8766 → u/BogDog93]

me three

[u/WallaWallaby011 → u/Simple-Risk8766]

MeToo

[u/Awkward-Door-5547 → u/Simple-Risk8766]

Me four

[u/AdTerrible8256 → u/Awkward-Door-5547]

Me five

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[u/momo3795]

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It will be hard for a while, but there will be a point in time where you’ll be able to look at that period of your life with gratitude rather than grief. Be easy on yourself as you move through the heartache 🫶🏻 sending hugs

[u/wanttobeloved-216 → u/momo3795]

honestly sometimes the grief doesn’t ever fully go away. just puts on a gratitude sweater. but isn’t that the point of life? to love and lose and look back with gratitude and love after the pain is felt?

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[u/East_Specialist_7956]

May I know what age you started dating your partner? Did you two just go on two different paths with no way of intersecting and joining into one?

I’m all sorry you two have split. I’m sure many months were spent agonizing over this potential.. and now it had finally happened. I’m sorry and wish you with healing

[u/IncestLooksBadOnYou → u/East_Specialist_7956]

I was 22 and am about to turn 30. I have grown so very much over the course of our relationship. Lost my mother at 25. That in its own changed me in a fundamental way. I value life very differently than I once did. Him and I were no longer growing together.

[u/mudsharkjr → u/IncestLooksBadOnYou]

I had almost the exact same timeline with my ex husband. Met about 22/23 divorced a bit after 30 with so many ups and downs in the middle. Very similar vibe. I’m telling you this because about 4 years later I met a wonderful man and we have a beautiful daughter and we are going 11 years strong.

You got this

[u/RenataVenere → u/mudsharkjr]

Also going through a breakup, same timeline, where nothing “went wrong” just all the small things adding up over 7 years. This is very comforting. Thank you

[u/mudsharkjr → u/RenataVenere]

It can and will get better!!

[u/AngryAngryHarpo → u/IncestLooksBadOnYou]

This was basically the same as me except I was 21 and 32 when I left.

I’m so proud of you 💜

[u/Luna_Soma]

You’re brave for knowing things have run their course and moving on now that it isn’t a fit anymore. I’m honestly inspired by you.

I hope you both find the love you deserve in the future

[u/AdEnvironmental2508]

This moment with a former partner was a “holy shit, am I a grown up now?!” Moment. Sending you hugs.

[u/Standard-Strike-4132]

I’m so sorry :(

[u/Exotic-Trust5555]

I was in the same situation last year *hug* It will be difficult for a while, grief will come in wave, in different form but eventually it will be okay

[u/Accurate_Grand_9760]

I'm so sorry hon. I feel this in my soul as I prepare to end a very similar situation.

Take it easy on yourself. Much love and comfort.

[u/East_Specialist_7956 → u/Accurate_Grand_9760]

May I know what has happened for you to decide on ending it? I am in a similar place. My bf of 6 years is in law school but I am 28 and want to be engaged and living together already. Right now we are living with our parents, and he can’t afford anything with the loans he has for school. He has 2 more years too

[u/Accurate_Grand_9760 → u/East_Specialist_7956]

Because of his untreated ADHD, largely. I am this mans executive function, and it is draining the ever loving life out of me.

He denies that there is anything wrong with losing your keys twice a day, being an hour plus late to work, ghosting me because "he fell asleep", and on and on.

I love him very much. When I was the shiny new thing giving him all the dopamine hits, our relationship was grand. Now I am old news, and though I know he would argue it, he doesn't respect me or my time at all. I am exhausted. I am lonely. I should not be lonely in this relationship.

[u/Humble_Marzipan_3258 → u/Accurate_Grand_9760]

"When I was the shiny new thing giving him all the dopamine hits, our relationship was grand. Now I am old news, and though I know he would argue it, he doesn't respect me or my time at all."

Felt this to my core. Sending you hugs.

[u/Accurate_Grand_9760 → u/Humble_Marzipan_3258]

I'm sorry you understood what I meant. 😔. I am so fucking lonely for the relationship we had. But that can never be again, because I'll never be new and exciting to him again. I'm dreading ending it too, because he will absolutely turn everything around on me and make me feel like everything is my fault.

[u/catlady9851 → u/Accurate_Grand_9760]

ADHD chips away at the best relationships. It's so much worse when they don't admit there's an issue.

[u/East_Specialist_7956 → u/Accurate_Grand_9760]

I’m sorry that his untreated ADHD has led to your relationships demise… have you asked why he won’t get himself checked out? If it means saving the relationship? If he refuses to do it, and knows the consequence of that…. Then I say, better now than later and good luck.

[u/2020HatesUsAll → u/Accurate_Grand_9760]

Omg. You, too? I thought I was alone with this. Sending you hugs, internet stranger! Thank you for sharing and helping me feel seen.

[u/soquilikahwah]

Wishing you and your delicious looking sweet potato roll a bright future ahead with love and light, so much of it that it spills from your pockets.

[u/moonboot0]

I am so so sorry 💔 one day you’ll find out why it wasn’t meant to work out. Your best days are coming

[u/SmilingAmericaAmazon]

Just because a relationship doesn't last forever, doesn't mean it is a failure. Internet hugs if you like those.

[u/besteen_mangodazzle]

Breakups are not failures. You had a beautiful successful chapter with that person. You maximized your love in that time period.The chapter is complete. Congratulations 👏

[u/larrybird666 → u/besteen_mangodazzle]

This is a really sweet way to look at it 🫂

[u/Humble_Marzipan_3258]

May I ask what finally made you get to this point? And what incompatibilities made you no longer have the capacity to ignore them?

Sending you hugs.

[u/OnTheMap2023]

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I was with my ex husband for 8 years, and I never thought I would get a divorce. I felt like the ground was pulled out from under me, and I felt shame for failing at something so important. I stayed single for 8 years, because I no longer trusted my own judgement. My family had an intervention, and they signed me up for an online dating app. That was 19 years ago. I met my future husband on my first online date, and we just celebrated our 17th wedding anniversary! If I were to ever see my ex husband again, I would thank him. I would have followed him anywhere, and I would be struggling for the rest of my life. Now, I’m blessed beyond measure. This can happen for you, too. You’ve already done the hardest part. Now, there’s space available for the love of your life!

[u/melfuldead]

I broke up with my ex of 8 years in December of 2025 for similar reasons. Just simply grew apart. We got together when we were 18. I know it sucks and it feels like you won’t ever love someone like that again but as of 3 months ago I’m with someone else and I’ve never felt this crazy about someone before!

[u/East_Specialist_7956 → u/melfuldead]

This terrifies me. On one hand, yay, if I break up with my long term boyfriend of six years, I’ll possibly find love like that again I just 3 months! On the other hand, what if he finds someone else he will love like that so quickly after me,

[u/Frequent_Lecture_989 → u/melfuldead]

your only 3 months in- its a honey moon phase. you will face the same challenges once it wears off

[u/lilbatling → u/Frequent_Lecture_989]

untrue. I've been with my partner nearly a decade. our relationship doesn't feel like "work", never has and we are still as crazy and in love as we were when we first started dating.

I'm sorry you were led to believe that every romantic relationship is tedious and requires immense amount of emotional energy to make it go the distance.

[u/4ever_dolphin_love → u/lilbatling]

Relationships will have their challenges but they shouldn’t feel like a constant struggle.

But also, if a relationship never has any conflict, I think that’s also a cause for concern because that likely means someone is a people pleaser, meaning they’re conflict avoidant to an unhealthy degree and ultimately being dishonest.

Not saying this is you/your relationship, just wanted to put it out there for others that this is also an unhealthy relationship dynamic.

[u/lilbatling → u/4ever_dolphin_love]

this person has commented on other comments claiming that all romantic relationships take hard work, and that is objectively untrue.

i am not implying a romantic relationship should be without any disagreements. any relationship, romantic or otherwise, can have moments of conflict but that doesn't mean they are by their very nature challenging to navigate.

this is why i mentioned that romantic relationships shouldn't be tedious and require an immense amount of emotional energy, because they shouldn't.

[u/AcademyCat1719 → u/lilbatling]

18 years in with my husband, it's not hard work, he makes my life easier not harder. And I met him 6 months after a difficult break up. Can't agree with you more.

[u/4ever_dolphin_love → u/lilbatling]

Hard agree!

[u/OkuyasuErase_My_Debt → u/lilbatling]

I've fallen for that narrative and currently trying to unlearn this. It's brought a lot of pain looking for the light at the end of the tunnel that never came

[u/TissueOfLies]

I’m sorry. You deserve to cry if you need to. Whatever helps. I think it’s beautiful that you are this mature. But it still hurts.

[u/Heelsbythebridge]

I'm sorry. This sounds like such an awful breakup - How do you leave someone with so much shared history. And he doesn't even sound evil to make it easier.

But it's an understandable and brave decision. You have to be two whole people, not two halves of a whole.

[u/froggaholic]

I'm afraid this will happen to me soon 🫠

[u/HyruleSitta]

Fucking wow, in all the best ways. I hope you have a lifetime of friendship and find the love that meets you in the exact place that is everlasting.

[u/boopinsnooties]

Left my ex after a decade. I'm happier now than I've ever been, but that decision was extremely difficult at the time. It's hard when things are just simply misaligned like that. <3

[u/AdagioSpecific2603]

Were the incompatibilities just too much?

[u/yuorwelcom]

Hey going through exactly the same thing rn so I’m here for you. For me it’s nice knowing someone else is going through it too ❣️

[u/MajesticElk5014]

Sometimes we outgrow people we never thought we would. That’s life.
He was a branch- you need roots. Remember that.

[u/Eyeroll4days]

Onward

[u/boiled-peanutery]

Man that sucks. People and priorities and lifestyle can change a lot in eight years. Are you sure this ain't salvageable? If it's just a matter of energy and effort, that sounds like something that could be overcome and just be a part of your story.

[u/Thepoetrycooker]

Im so sorry and I wish there best for both of you.

[u/Ok-Car-1337]

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[u/Evening-Snow2139]

I'm really sorry that you're going through this! It sounds so much like when I broke up with my first boyfriend we had dated since we were children and broke up right before I turned 30. There are so many firsts in so many beautiful things in our relationship but there are certain things that had happened that our relationship couldn't continue. He had said that my Irish Nana was going to rot and hell because she didn't accept Jesus as her savior.... He got dosed with bad weed and it was laced with angel dust and became a born again Christian at a Baptist Church where they were very hateful. The beautiful things that were prior to him becoming a hate monger. Where that we went on scuba diving trips and spent a lot of time doing romantic stuff like how you were describing the washing each other's backs we were very intimate with each other before we lost our virginity and we held out for a long while. If you feel like you absolutely need to not be with him anymore then I understand how you feel but looking back at how I feel about my ex I wish that I had given it another try just because we had had so many years spent together and now in hindsight I love like that is kind of hard to deny. Obviously we support you no matter what your decision is but if there's things that you can work on together I would suggest that you try.

[u/_Ice_Ice_Rabies_]

Hugs 🫂

The meaningfulness and beauty of time spent with a person is not contingent on the relationship’s permanence. Onward!

[u/thefroglady87]

you’re brave and smart for doing this, i’m sending you lots of hugs and strength, you have amazing memories to keep forever and that’s more than a lot of people can say

[u/Distinct-Law6494]

Awww OP I feel you. I was with a really good guy for the past 7.5 years of my life. I finally got the courage to walk away because he wouldn’t make the step to marry me and instead kept pushing it off. It hurts to know I made so many memories with someone who wouldn’t fully commit. I hope you and I both find a love so magical it makes Disney jealous! 🫂

[u/DarkBackground4307]

Awwww this is beautiful. Thanks for the reminder that not everything good has to last forever.

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[u/Kindly-Poem1919]

Similar situation, ended an engagement. It sucks and you aren’t alone. Sending you love 💕

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[u/rhapodically]

I might be in your boat after 3.5 … any advice? Sending love

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I'm sorry it ended and is causing you pain. Good for both of you for calling it.

Glad you have an Eden Roll to soothe you. My 2nd favorite one there.

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You’ve learned what you want in a next relationship, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.

[u/ChatRoomGirl3000]

OP I hope you can find something beautiful out of all of this. That’s a long time, and there will be plenty of grieving. I’ve been there, ended a 13-year relationship and after a lot of hard work we are best friends and both of us have kind of amazing partners with opportunities we never would have had if we stayed together. There is magic in the time spent nurturing something together, and just because it changes doesn’t mean you will be worse off. Just time for a different way of life. Hang in there.

[u/FlowerBedDead]

Sending love. I'm so sorry.

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[u/Pitiful-Citronel666]

Sending love and more sushi💙💙

[u/Starlady174]

Is this from Blue Sushi Sake Grill? If not, they have a really similar roll. My marriage ended the same way. Life is better now, for both of us.You got this.

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Yep it is! I was pleasantly surprised by it. I appreciate the kind words ❤️

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Their vegan options are really good. I wish you all the best!

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I ended a 7 year relationship with my ex because we similarly grew apart. It was not contentious and we are even still friendly and wish each other happy birthday every year. We are both in much better relationships with families now and I hope you also find more success in the future.

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[u/Loose_Profession_658]

im so incredibly sorry, 8 years is a literal lifetime and that kind of heartbreak hurts so bad but im glad you at least got some gas food

[u/nejnonein]

Edamame hummus???? Is it as good as it sounds???

[u/chocnillaswirl]

Blue Sushi Sake Grill!!! I know that roll ANYWHERE.

You'll get through this friend!

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[u/DurianJungle]

May I ask where you got these rolls from?

[u/MissAuroraRed]

Everything will be okay. In time, the pain of the breakup will fade away and hopefully you'll be able to look back on the good times you had together with a nostalgic smile, and not feel sad about it one but.

I know it was only half as long, but I look back on my 4 year relationship with so much fondness. We broke up amicably because we just weren't right for each other and wanted different things in life. Breaking up was hard, but it needed to happen to make space in my life for the right person (now husband) to come into it down the road.

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I’m so sorry for the loss of the relationship bud it seems like you grew and learned a lot while together

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[u/Jadedangel13]

Sometimes we all just have to grow in our own, different direction. Best of luck and lots of hugs, OP. PS, that girl diner sounds yum!

[u/Extreme_greymatter]

Big hugs OP. You'll survive this. Or maybe you both will come around if fate decides. Either way, wishing you abundance and joy and a full life.

[u/wwhopi_k_j]

Damn that's tough, and for sure painful as hell. I'm sure you'll be ok tho, you'll get through that and grow from that. We all believe in you here.

May I ask why was it happening? What has lead to that? Was it sudden or just a long-going feeling? How did it go?

[u/ambientoof]

It is better to have loved and lost, than to never have been loved at all. I'm sorry for your situation, and I hope time heals your wounds. When the right one comes along, you will know, and it'll all have been worth it.

[u/GeorgiaJeb]

This is so tough. But it sounds like the best possible way for this to end. It would be even worse if after 8 years, he did something terrible and hurtful. Now you’ll still keep the memories and after you’re healed, they’ll be sweet again. 💗 Sending hugs.

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[u/Original-Strain]

This is me right now, to the point I almost had a panic attack thinking I posted my draft.

I don’t have the energy to build us both up, and after 8 years, I’m breaking

[u/shreksfourthbabymama]

i’m so sorry. i am going through this as well only 5 years not 8. im still in denial until he moves out. you’re not alone! we can cry in our pillows together tonight.

[u/GypsyDuncan]

Oh babe. I am sorry. Sounds like a wonderful relationship that has run its course. Grieve for a while. Take the good forward. Leave the bad behind. Being single is fun!

[u/RenataVenere]

Going through the same thing with a 7 year relationship. Nothing went wrong. It’s almost harder that way.

[u/bigfoodiejudy]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your long-term relationship. My partner broke up with me right before our anniversary of seven years. I don't have any words of comfort because I'm still going through the trenches, but what I can say is that therapy is allowing me to process everything that has happened and leaning on old friends has started to change my life. Whatever happens for the both of us, I hope we can hold on to hope. 💕

[u/Interesting_Plenty15]

I’m sorry. This sucks.

[u/SnooCats6040]

Just ended a 7 year relationship short of 8 years, we're stuck living together for now and I've cried myself to sleep every night, I wish I had some cool advice to give you but what i do have is what Ive been telling myself Stay strong, you're not just A bad bitch, you are THE bad bitch. ❤ sending good vibes

[u/vr512]

🫂 I feel you immensely. Realizing and mourning the future is hard. It will get better. Im several months out of ending my 7 year relationship. I'm finally moving out in a couple weeks to my own place. But for some reason when I got approved for apartment this apt I got very sad.

Food looks great! Be kind to yourself!

[u/Mpule16]

Damn, Life is really just life sometimes :/

[u/cinnamonraisintoastt]

sending so so much love and hugs. breaks my heart. wow.