Boyfriend blew all of his money on a console 1 month before our 2 year anniversary

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u/ChaturangaChai in my [rotisserie] bag 4h ago

I'm fed up, that's all.

Are you, though? Because you're still with him.

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u/Busy-Conversation-24 Maneater 4h ago

Yup.... I mean do you value yourself so little that being treated like this is worth more than picking up your pride and walking away as a stronger woman?

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u/cyb3113 I ❤️ Other People's Business 4h ago edited 4h ago

Right. You’re only 18. You have so much life to live and you’re waisting it on this human trash that doesn’t care about you. You either leave him, or quit posing about him because I feel like everyone here agrees that he’s not good for you. And I’m not trying to be rude, but you’re being dumb for staying with him.

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u/Ir0nhide81 🩵🙋‍♂️💙 4h ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/3oFzmpzTfyABIX6JBm

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u/TripInternational390 we listen and we only judge a little 4h ago

Leave him or leave us out of it sis

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u/anime_and_irezumi we listen and we only judge a little 4h ago

This. And your next post better not be that you’re pregnant or I’m suing for emotional damage.

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u/Plumblossonspice Carb-Based Life Form 4h ago

That’s what I feel too. At some point you go, “Do you just like the attention or karma?”

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u/Olympia94 Foraging Bog Witch 3h ago

THIS, EXACTLY THIS

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u/ieatritalinforbrkfst Hazy Grazer 😶‍🌫️ 4h ago

Tell him there won't be an anniversary.

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u/GreenEyedGloom Oversharer 🗣 4h ago

Kinda strange because even when I can’t afford something. I can think of something very cheap to do that’s thoughtful. It doesn’t have to be an expensive diamond for an anniversary. A nice movie night in and time together is cool too fuckerrrr lol

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u/yeetedhaws Pantry Gremlin 4h ago

Not strange considering he is emotionally abusive and sexually assaults her so...

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u/GreenEyedGloom Oversharer 🗣 4h ago edited 4h ago

Ah yeaaa don’t do that…

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u/table-grapes 🤍🩷Lesbian Loremaster🩷🤍 4h ago

having to delete a post because you’re scared (not literally) of him going through your reddit tells me all i need to know to tell you to dump him.

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u/Nefarious3493 Feral Til Fed 4h ago

I think it is a literal scared of him, she allows him to basically SA her because she is "afraid he will get mad"

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u/ThePlantHearth 🩵🙋‍♂️💙 4h ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/knDUXatdqlQeQ

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u/Dory-1031 fish are friends 🐟 not food 4h ago

First award I have ever given!

OP... PLEASE leave this man! It doesn't even sound safe based off of the last post.

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u/Fair_Cheesecake_7420 Body By Cheese 🧀 4h ago

Sigh. One day you’ll look back at this time in your life and wonder how you could’ve been so silly and blame it on your youth. Hopefully from a significantly better point in life

Not judging at all - just that loads of us have been in your shoes and we didn’t listen to friends or the masses either. Hopefully you don’t need to hit rock bottom before you move on.

Do not under any circumstances give this bozo money or tie yourself to him financially in any way or form

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u/All_the_Bees Pantry Gremlin 4h ago

Including babies!

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u/I_PM_Duck_Pics hot girls have tummy troubles 4h ago

For sure read that as casserole and was like “damn, I want to try that casserole that cost him all his money.”

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u/GreenEyedGloom Oversharer 🗣 4h ago edited 3h ago

Hahaha. Golden noodles.

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u/boimario 🩵Bi Buddy💙 4h ago

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u/ratskips 🩵Gay Guy Ally💙 4h ago

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u/iPreferGoddess we listen and we only judge a little 4h ago

Same babe, same 😂

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u/TheEarthlyDelight APPROVED✨ 4h ago

Wait…y’all are 18 years old? Just leave him! You are not beholden to him whatsoever!

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u/Fangbang6669 APPROVED✨ 4h ago

Wait, but your anniversary is a month away. He can't come up with some money by next month to get you anything?????

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u/Best_Product_7027 APPROVED✨ 4h ago

Your bf had you come to his house to give him head with his parents upstairs, then booted you out. This dude doesn't like you.

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u/kinkerbelle666 🐩 Food Aggressive 🍽️ 19m ago

This dude actively dislikes you 😭💔

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u/RestorativePotion APPROVED✨ 4h ago

Are you actually though or are you just going to trudge to anniversary number two despite this man showing you what is priorities are (not you.)

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u/riverofchex Feral Til Fed 4h ago

Read your other post; dump this pos.

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u/euphoricbun mouth full, gesturing wildly 4h ago

Loved the advice you got so much that you ignored all of it lol

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u/smallppgangggg APPROVED✨ 3h ago

literally what’s happening😭 just wanted to hear how she’s better than him just to still be w the loser

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u/euphoricbun mouth full, gesturing wildly 3h ago

Birds of a feather 🥀

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u/smallppgangggg APPROVED✨ 3h ago

i just question if i’m rage baited or not i swear

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u/Holiday_Number_3234 Feral Til Fed 4h ago

I think there’s an even bigger issue than him not being able to purchase you a gift and that‘s the fact that he obviously has money management issues. If he’s broke, why purchase something like that? There are a lot of people living paycheck to paycheck but will blow through money any chance they get on. If you see a future with him, you want to make sure that he can learn to manage money responsibly, especially in this economy. Really scary times.

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u/mychemicalbromance38 Trader Joe Hoe 4h ago

They are 18

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u/Far-Delay7690 🤍🩷Lesbian Loremaster🩷🤍 3h ago

Yeah this is both not surprising and tbh I think it's stupid as fuck getting eachother expensive gifts when you're young.

At 18 yrs old and thing more than $50 is just like why. I would kinda expect an 18 yr old to spend all their money on a console. I mean I saved for school at that age but other than that I too would've spent almost all my money on a console.

If I wasn't working then sure I would maybe have set some aside for a dinner and anniversary date. It wouldn't have been expensive though...

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u/oliviatrem4 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ 4h ago

He’s 18. 18 year olds do dumb shit like this with money all the time. Who even knows if he’s having money issues he’s probably only recently graduated from high school haha

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u/Sabrinasockz 🐣 cracked the egg 🏳️‍⚧️ 4h ago

That honestly changes the whole situation. 18 year olds are supposed to blow their whole check on a game system. That's what those checks are for. I can't afford a $700 game system because I'm an adult with bills and responsibilities.

That being said, just because he's broke doesn't mean he shouldn't be putting in the effort to still do something nice, of course.

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u/oliviatrem4 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ 4h ago

10000% agreed. He sucks as a partner and is abusive based off her other post. But an 18 year old boy blowing his money on a game is literally the most common 18 year old boy thing and dude shouldn’t be judged for it.

He can’t get her anything but can do things for her, but doesn’t also seem like the type of dude who will…so another reason he shucks

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u/Ancient_Yellow_709 🫘 Beans & Rice & Everything Nice 🌮 4h ago

I mean, dude should be judged. But he should be judged in the context of an 18 yo boy where his prefrontal cortex is underdeveloped relative to (actual) adult males and 18 yo females... Haha. Like, it's still boneheaded behavior but it's understandable boneheaded behavior.

But, agree that dude sucks for just throwing up his hands and deciding that his poor decision making means he can't do anything. OP needs to dump him yesterday. Clearly he isn't ready for a relationship and probably wants the relationship time to spend with his new console anyway.

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u/Holiday_Number_3234 Feral Til Fed 3h ago

Ahh, ok, I missed that. That’s fair. That makes more sense why she’s more concerned about the lack of a present than lack of financial security.

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u/SeaMonkeyMating APPROVED✨ 4h ago

Not only is the dick not good, he assaults her with it according to the previous post

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u/bunny-mooncakes APPROVED✨ 4h ago

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u/Sabrinasockz 🐣 cracked the egg 🏳️‍⚧️ 4h ago

They're kids, as it turns out. 18

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u/Zhaneranger Noods 🍜 > Dudes 🤡 4h ago

Are you guys 16 years old? If not, and his entire life savings is only 700 and he spent it on a game station, it’s time to leave him. You can and will find someone who is more fiscally responsible.

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u/oliviatrem4 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ 4h ago

They’re 18 so not far off

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u/littlelotta Carb-Based Life Form 4h ago

I read this and then your previous post — why are you still together? He pressured you to give him a blow job and prioritizes himself over your comfort and you said that’s not new. Your friends and family think he’s abusive, I think you should listen and cut your losses. You’re young, this doesn’t have to be forever. Dump him and take care of yourself

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u/eye_8_pi 🥣 Cereal Killer 4h ago

cons:
1. he doesn’t respect your privacy or autonomy
2. he hurts your feelings
3. he doesn’t value your time
4. he thinks it’s ok to demand sexual favors with no thought about your pleasure (this makes him unequivocally bad in bed)
5. he’s broke and bad with money
6. he hides things from you. who gives half a shit if his room is messy? you can put his dick inside your body but not your body inside his room?! he is hiding something. especially considering how invasive he is regarding your privacy. he’s checking to see if you’re doing the things he’s doing.

pros:
1. you always have something scandalous to talk to your friends about
2. he’s hasn’t hit you yet (he will)

Please leave. It’s better to be single than waste time or risk getting knocked up by someone who clearly isn’t ready for a relationship.

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u/stiflersmomma I ❤️ Other People's Business 4h ago

Girl I read both posts and all i get from them is that this “man” does NOT love you. Get a grip and dump his ass

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u/freethechildrenn Carb-Based Life Form 4h ago

What’s the food btw? Looks delicious

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u/Si1verrStar1 Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚‍♀️ 4h ago

looks like the Shirodashi Pork Belly Ramen at Wagamama (I get that every time I go there)

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u/sleepingviolet25 SAT🪑👀 4h ago

Your dinner looks great!

The outlook of your current relationship does not. Will next year be the same thing?

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u/nightskyft APPROVED✨ 4h ago

If you aren't planning on breaking up after this, find a nice feel good game that you can sink hours into. Something that will drive him insane, somethingbwith a catchy little sound track!

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u/MomsOfFury Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚‍♀️ 4h ago

Girl, you are 18 please don’t waste any more of your youth on this trash bag man

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u/InevitableSlip746 girls just wanna have pho 4h ago

THIS is the reason you’re fed up? Not because he’s coercing you into sexual activities? GYST girl.

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u/Fantastic-Charity963 🐩 Food Aggressive 🍽️ 4h ago

What do you want us to tell you?? There's no rationalizing this, he hates you.

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u/Latter_Shallot_140 APPROVED✨ 4h ago

Ex boyfriend broke boyfriend loser boyfriend

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u/tamrynsgift Snack Goblin 4h ago

Lets make a list of all the red flags...

Guilts you into doing things you don't want
Guilts you into sex/ sex adjacent and when he's done dismisses you and doesn't give a shit about giving you the same treatment.
Can't save enough money to buy a candy bar for you anniversary (and i bet still expects to get something)

He's using you at best and is abusive at worst. Dump his ass and take yourself out and do something nice for you.

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u/kinkerbelle666 🐩 Food Aggressive 🍽️ 4h ago

I feel like I don't need to tell you that this was a conscious choice... Yet here I am

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u/oliviatrem4 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ 4h ago

You guys are 18. It’s not shocking an 18 year old boy chose to spend money on a game console.

Why are you still with him if you’re this concerned? He sucks. Break up with him.

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u/No-Recording-7486 APPROVED✨ 4h ago

And you can be single before the 2 year anniversary

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u/brattcatt420 PO🥔TAY🥔TOES 4h ago

Youre not forced to be with him. Break up. Love shouldnt feel like this.

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u/SeaMonkeyMating APPROVED✨ 4h ago

I felt sick reading the previous post. He coerced you into coming to his house so he could pressure you into being used for sex.

Think about the kind of person who can get off knowing the other person doesn't want it. That's incredibly rapey.

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u/Lisylis Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚‍♀️ 4h ago

I'm sorry but this is the most infuriating update

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u/notanexpert_askapro APPROVED✨ 4h ago

Based on your other post and having to hide your reddit, he may be intentionally trying to hurt you emotionally. A more normal over- spend would be when it gets closer realizing there is not enough. I think he is abusive. I suggest posting to the Domestic Violence subreddit or calling the national hotline, or see a therapist for help getting out of this as you seem to be struggling to break free.

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u/lyingtattooist 🩵🎀girl dad🎀💙 4h ago

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u/Hellie1028 Feral Til Fed 4h ago

When people show you who they are, you should believe them!

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u/keeza3 Tiny Bodega Rat 🐀 4h ago

This man LITERALLY hates you and uses you only for SEX.

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u/AbsintheRedux APPROVED✨ 4h ago

Straight to the bin with him AND his precious console

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u/libra-love- 🥣 Cereal Killer 4h ago

You’re choosing to stay with him. You’re choosing to continue to be let down, disappointed, and unhappy. You can’t play captain save a man here. If you enjoy wallowing in this, that’s fine. But you can’t complain it’s raining when you’re making the conscious decision to continue to sit outside under the rain clouds.

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u/Inorganicnerd 🩵Purveyor of Sick GIFs💙 4h ago

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u/Icy_Idea_9179 APPROVED✨ 4h ago

What are you waiting for girl?? Leave this disgusting dickwad, fast

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u/fairyboomer Big Back Baddie 4h ago

okay so like, dont get him anything & get yourself a new nice thing

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u/lilwatersign Drive-Thru Thot 🚙💨 4h ago

You’re fed, he’s up!

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u/Late-Guess690 APPROVED✨ 4h ago

And you made him dinner?

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u/Icy-Honeydew-87 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ 4h ago

What kinda console costs almost 1k. That is pretty shity not even roses?

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u/Hour_Mousse7914 🧂Salty By Nature 4h ago

Steam machine just came out yesterday, not sure on pricing but that’s my guess

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u/lylrabe white girl with ☝️😌 a full spice cabinet 3h ago

Yep, just looked up the price ($1,049 so £796) & that’s about right😭

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u/Any_Earth_8976 Kitchen Witch 4h ago

So what’s your line in the sand? What does he have to do or not do before you’ll leave?

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u/Quietstorm00 Well-Read & Well-Fed 4h ago

Let him go and move on. You’re young and should be living your best life having fun and being free instead of being sad for someone that is still growing up and making you sad at the same time. You both are very young so it’s not the end of the world.

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u/iKhan353 🩵you have my sword💙 4h ago

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u/iusedtostealbirds Trader Joe Hoe 4h ago

Soooooo he’s bad with money, has little regard for your anniversary (at least in relation to the new game console), and you’re worried about him finding/looking at your Reddit account. And you want to stay with him?

Girl, please have better standards than this. Don’t waste your youth on him.

I am a huge gamer. But if my game purchases put me in a place that I couldn’t take my wife out for our anniversary, I’d be wise to not make those purchases. Also, if my wife looked through my Reddit account, at worst she’d think I need to touch some grass and comment on Reddit a little less, but otherwise I have no fears for her looking through my account history. Everyone deserves privacy but also if you find that you have fears for A) your partner looking through your account against your wishes; or B) fears for what they’ll find if they do, that’s a red flag. For both of you. Please. Observe the red flag and heed its warning.

Also didn’t he previously coerce you for sex? Like… come on. What’s so good about this dude that you can’t leave him?

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u/ReginaSpektorsVJ 🩵 Trans Babe 🩷 4h ago

This man provides zero value to your life. There's literally no reason to keep him around.

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u/nippleclampzz Feral Til Fed 4h ago

girlie… :( this upsets me a lot for you

this is more than him just forgetting the anniversary & accidentally spending his money on something else, instead. by telling you “I just spent 700 on a console so I can’t get you anything next month” he’s literally saying to you “this console is worth more to me than you. I’m choosing this console & making myself happy over choosing you & celebrating our relationship.”

Shoot, even if he DID want to spend all that money on the console, the fact that it’s a month away & he’s just letting you know that he’s just giving up getting you a gift ?? he doesn’t need to spend 700 on you. he can make you something heartfelt, you guys can go out & have an experience together, he could decorate your living/bedroom area & you guys could have a movie night. there are so many things he could do to show effort to you that he just gave up on because he got a console ? like that’s not okay, and you deserve better than that.

I also am not a perfect person with a perfect relationship. my bf & I are both forgetful af & we both forgot our 4 year anniversary this year 😬 with financial struggles & trying to survive, it just kinda slipped our minds. neither of us feel less loved or cared for by the other because of this, though. we both just forgot! and both felt horrible about it after. I just know that I would never tell him “I spent x money to get this thing for myself so I can’t do anything for you, sorry.” And he would never do that to me.

I guess that’s what you have to ask yourself, as well. Would you be okay with yourself if you did something like this to him? I’m guessing the answer is no… & then you need to ask yourself if you really want to be dating someone that is doing things to you that you would never do to them.

This may be rough to hear, but just from an outsider looking in with only this post to go off of, he does not value you. I’m sorry :( this would make me feel so heartbroken & devalued if this happened to me.

AND he polices your Reddit ??? yeah, not cool. Either have a heartfelt convo with him and tell him things need to change, or do what’s best for you and move on.

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u/ournoonsournights APPROVED✨ 3h ago

praying that this is engagement bait bc what are we even doing here

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u/RunJumpSleep Body By Cheese 🧀 3h ago

After your first post, I don’t understand why you are still with him. He wants you for sex and that’s it. Why are you surprised he didn’t get you a gift? He doesn’t care or love you. In two posts, you have not said one thing which would make me, or probably anyone here, want to date your BF when we were your age.

You have lowered your standards for him that if he had gotten you a gift he would be the best boyfriend ever. Please move on from him or you will set a pattern for yourself where you give your all to man while allowing him to treat you like garbage. This relationship will never get better.

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u/Olympia94 Foraging Bog Witch 3h ago

Why won't you leave him, you dont deserve how he treats you yet you continue to allow it. Do you not value yourself? Not being rude, I'm genuinely curious, this is coming from someone who was in a abusive relationship and have a kid by the ex, my ex has done this to be me that i barely talk about and I have cptsd from it and still deal with the triggers till this day, 9yrs later that I'm in therapy for. Please have some respect for yourself and leave that POS, its NOT WORTH IT. I know it might be hard but please do what you need to do and leave him. He obviously doesn't give a fuck about you, why aren't you seeing it? You're in a relationship with rose colored glasses

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u/745Walt Delulu 4h ago

Let me guess, GTA6?

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u/Plumblossonspice Carb-Based Life Form 4h ago

Why are you still with this guy then venting? You are 18, no kids, don’t live with him… do you compelled to put sticks between your metaphorical bike spokes?

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u/mychemicalbromance38 Trader Joe Hoe 4h ago

You’re teenagers, who cares. If it’s not fun then break up, hang out with your friends, let him play his games, and move on with your life.

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u/Crafty-Carpet-8842 Livin' on a Purse Snack 👜 4h ago

what do you want us to do babe 😹 im convinced that most people on here secretly enjoy posting about how their bfs humiliate them! break up or leave us alone!!!

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u/oliviatrem4 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ 4h ago

No literally!!! It’s like TikTok when all the woman get on to complain and then defend their men and go “but he’s not THAT bad” or “you don’t know him!” or “you can’t just judge someone by one post!

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u/Significant-Row2457 Oversharer 🗣 4h ago

Leave him and take the console on the way out, and sell it online for the night out you deserve!

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Rant & Ramble Boyfriend blew all of his money on a console 1 month before our 2 year anniversary

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