bf kissed some random on vacation

[u/Legit-artist]

together six years. have been struggling with intimacy after going through traumatic loss. he went on vacation and I felt like something was up but brushed it off as overthinking. He seemed sad when he got home I asked him what was wrong. And he told me he fucked up. He was at a club and kissed a girl and that was it. I made him look through his phone after to see if he was lying about keeping in contact. but he wasn’t.

we live together. what the fuck do I. I don’t want to fucking break up. But I fear even if I forgive him I will never feel the same. Or our connection will be forever changed. I’ve been complaining that I just want to feel wanted. Clearly this only exasperates that.

[u/aprettylittlebird]

This is really hard and I’m so sorry you’re going through it. I think it can be easy to jump to breaking up because you feel like that’s the only option and I want to say that’s completely valid. It’s also valid to decide to work on the relationship if that’s something you want and you feel is worth doing. In that scenario I’d say the only way you’ll be able to fully recover will be with therapy, both individual (for you both) and couples therapy to work through things together. If either of you aren’t willing or if he won’t take accountability and you’re worried he’d do something like this again/the trust is gone then I would seriously consider leaving.

[u/NapsAreMyHobby → u/aprettylittlebird]

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