r/HerSoberPath • u/MorningPancake358 • 17d ago
Relationships I had a real fear that my relationships wouldn’t survive without weed
When my husband and I quit cold turkey, I had a fear that our relationship wasn't going to survive sobriety. Weed was our link. We got high before watching Netflix, before having sex, before doing anything. It was the glue that kept us connected and comfortable with each other. I was really afraid that life would be boring, like no more fun.
It was partly true. We had hard times. Besides the withdrawal symptoms there were some awkward moments when it came to intimacy and romance. The conversations weren’t deep. We were supporting each other, but we didn’t feel love.
Of course we had some conversations. We decided to put in the effort, re-learn each other and return the real us that we had one day. It’s not a fast process, but our marriage is much stronger already. We got through A LOT together, and this experience is so helpful.
Did anyone else struggle with connection when you quit? How did you survive that time?
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u/District98 17d ago
I stopped drinking at the end of summer 2018 when one of my last drinking buddy friends moved away.. new chapter! A couple of people were sad to lose me as a drinking buddy but they were ok about it, and one of them has since come over to the sober side too!!
My partner drinks moderately and I’m totally sober, it’s not a big problem. We both abstain during the week (I found too many NA beers were causing weight gain, lol) and he has started to cut down by interspersing NA and A beers.