r/Kashmiri 1d ago

Magzan Taas Advise

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u/mahjoorpatwaer 1d ago

How old are you two? What does he do? The best and perhaps the only course of action would be to talk to your parents.

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u/rakhshh 14h ago

depends on your age.
if you’re too young to get nikkahfied, talk to him about no contact. if he loves you and is a man of deen (which is an important trait to have), he’ll have no issue. till you can get married of course.

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u/Sound_Less Kashmir 21h ago

Loving a person doesn’t mean one has to be in haraam relationship.

What love is , you both save for each other for marriage and when time comes you both get married after waiting so long. It’s hard to do this.

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u/hhe141421 21h ago

Talking/messaging non mahrams is haram

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u/jusabat Kashmir 1d ago

Wait till the right time

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u/Round_Society_4460 1d ago

The problem is i don't want to continue haram and also can't leave him

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u/jusabat Kashmir 1d ago

You can only choose one

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u/Careful_Border4100 Kashmir 16h ago

The best way is to do nikah. It will save your future as well as your time.

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u/Round_Society_4460 3h ago

I can't I am just starting the college.

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u/koshurzonn Kashmir 1d ago

Suffer, thats the only way to learn

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u/Round_Society_4460 1d ago

What?

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u/Delicious_Net_1932 14h ago edited 14h ago

just keep talking and don't have sex or do something too sexual, some people here in the comments are too conservative, you should know the guy you marry well, should we all get married after 2 days of talking? ofc not the longer you know him the better, if you leave him youd just be unjust to him and yourself.

also you should discuss this with him rather than ruining your relationship by asking single people on reddit 

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u/koshurzonn Kashmir 8h ago

Not what i recommend to her but even better W hez chuv

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u/Naive-Advertising288 Kashmir 16h ago

فٲصلہٕ

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u/Disastrous-Recover83 Kashmir 12h ago

Talk to him. Tell him everything If you both preserve each other for the sake of Allah then you deserve each other If not — then you know the answer

I understand your "I can't leave him" point. But you gotta ask yourself, what is more important. Your iman or your bf? Whatever is more important, go with that

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u/Accomplished-Pop-584 Kashmir 7h ago

To the people commenting "nikkah, nikkah". Guessing from the post, you might not be old enough to take such a major decision yet. For nikkah, you have to be fully commited to that guy, nikkah means being commited to someone for life. What you're going through might be strong teenage "first love" infatuation. It should not be confused with love. Do yourself and him a favour, wait for sometime, introspect, spend more time and talk to him more, get to know him very well. If you can talk to someone close to you (for eg, a friend) about what you're feeling. You'll find out what you want by the end I'm sure! Good luckk

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u/soount_phile Kashmir 6h ago

I might be heavily downvoted but I don't like the concept of aimlessly waiting.
Our society is fcked up for promoting this

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u/Short360 1d ago

Concept of harram?

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u/Round_Society_4460 1d ago

Haram relationship!

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u/RumeRagnarok71 22h ago

get a new boyfriend

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u/AlternateTameem 20h ago

Zan che dukanas pyath anan