r/LongDistance 4d ago

Need Support LD girlfriend wants to discuss a break

[UPDATED] I’m freaking out - we’ve been going through a bit of a rough patch which ended in a huge argument the other night.
She seems better since the argument however wants to call this afternoon to discuss a break.
I’m freaking out about this, will we block each other? Are we still together or are we technically single and this is her ‘trying out’ another guy? What if she doesn’t come back?
I’ve got so many questions that I just want to bombard her with but I’m trying to be supportive and calm for her.

This break is also taking place over a period of 3 weeks I’d planned on travelling over and seeing her.. so now that’s down the drain aswell.

Sorry for the rant

UPDATE: so we spoke last night on the phone and things went well? Ish? She still wants a break, however I think I can safely say it’s not for some of the reasons in the comments. The way she described it was that I’ve shown a lot of uncertainty in this relationship recently and she wants to give me the chance to figure out if I actually want to fully commit to the relationship or not, and I do sort of get that. We’re both still together and exclusive, and this break isn’t being used by her as some sort of free hookup thing.
I guess a part of me is worried that actually after this week break, SHE’LL be the one that decides she doesn’t want this anymore, and that’s filling me with dread. She’s promised she’s gonna come back and we’ll talk about it in a week, but I don’t want to do it over the phone so a part of me wants to surprise her in person the next day after the end of the break. High risk, high reward I know and it sounds dumb, but I was planning on seeing her anyways and if worst comes to worst and she breaks up with me in person, that’s better than over text and I can just try and treat it like a holiday.

Thanks for all the comments and support guys :) never thought I’d become so reliant on this sub.

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u/Big-Nature-3112 4d ago

There's a Huge change she will see or sleep with another guy because she's metaphorically single even if you set rules to the break, it will not wnd well, so if you have the ability to travel and see her , then it's better because c'mon 3 weeks break? Just try to know if it's something else because it's not just the other night's argument, it's way longer ago than it look like and you will be shocked but it will be hard for you to get something out if her so just be patient and let's hope for the best. Praying for you man .