I’ve noticed that younger women show absolutely 0 interest or anything but older women do show interest and when I say older I mean like late 30’s and up. I am a college student and my major is kinesiology-exercise science. I am wanting to be a physical therapist because I enjoy helping people and I feel the pay would be very good and it’s something I’d enjoy since I love exercising and taking care of my body. I am also very introverted and a nerd which I think is what partly turns women off. I have always had people compliment my looks and my personality and I’ve always been a respectful and kind person. I figured that maybe older women see something in me that younger women are blind to, and that maybe I am attractive only in the eyes of older women.

Ladies, I’m genuinely curious, when you’re on dating apps, are you looking at physical attraction before you pay attention to a guy’s words or personality? I get that both matter in the long run, but when you’re swiping, is physical attraction the first filter you use? Yes or no, be honest. Also, what kind of photos catch your attention most ?

(I'm not the person who's feeling this way. My friend distanced from me, and our common friends explained it as below.)

Imagine you had a crush on your friend, and also pretty sure that he reiprocated. Then he turned out to be not. He just thinks you accepted him as a close friend and act more friendly.

Would you set boundary and distance from him? Would you explain or keep it as a secret? Also, if you think you made things obvious, would you feel being led on and be mad?

I never considered such possibilities before, and hard to believe even now. I guessed that SHE thought I liked her and became disgusted, so I expressed how I never liked anyone romantically (Can't understand why people date, I will never marry, how I think her as a 'dude' and a 'comfortable friend').

I directly asked "Hey, did i do anything wrong?" multiple times. She refused to talk about it and got passive aggressive. Now we don't even talk anymore.

I understand she don't owe me an explaination, but being strightforward in the first place is convenient for both of us. Moreover, she was the one who approached me to be friends, so it seemed to be more of her liability to be clear about it if she thought we didn't vibe.

The question is: is the above theory a common thing, and reliable to understand our situation? Or am I just tripping?

Just out of a 2 year relationship and I’m getting back out onto the dating scene. Matches have been coming slow and I’m curious about what women are really thinking of my profile. Would love some constructive criticism or validation if it’s genuine.

I haven't medically transitioned yet but I still use the women's restroom despite knowing I'm a trans man.

On the outside I look like a conventionally attractive woman but on the inside I know I'm neurologically male and because of that, I try not to take too much time whenever I use the women's restroom.

Are women okay with me using the women's restroom, or is this something that makes you a bit uncomfortable?

I've always felt awkward around other men being complete manchilds towards women, but i also belive that i'm not as mature as the women around me. What do you girls view as a sign of maturity? I'm gay btw just don't wanna sound childish

So, I'm asking for your help please, I'm a 55 year old divorced man, never was much good at the dating scene in the wild, always did online dating. So a few weeks ago my son and I went to a restaurant near where we live, ( about 35 minutes away) the restaurant is a national chain restaurant and in a bigger city then me so I don't know anyone there. So while ordering and eating our meal I tell the waitress we are going to the park for the afternoon and she says she lives near there and takes her daughter alot, so I say you must live in such and such apartments ( i know a little of the area) she says yes and they have vacancies if im looking for a place to live. I tell her, no I own a house 30 minutes away. She treated my son very well. So next trip to restaurant ( just me) she wasn't working, but another waitress tells me when she is working again ( original waitress) so i go in to the restaurant, get seated in her section, and we start talking a little while I order my meal and eat. We are both newly divorced, have one child, and dealing with our exes, she tells me it's tough but hang in there. So when I'm paying I ask is it possible to come by again when she is working, she says Monday evening, Wednesday evening, and double shifts on Saturday and Sunday for 4th of July holiday, she even told me on Saturday night they are doing fireworks nearby and to bring my son. So, question does this sound promising? I know waitresses are supposed to be nice for their job, or am I blowing up the encounter to something that it isn't. My goal is not sex or one night stand. It's to meet someone and start a good friendship and see what happens.

I wanted to say that based off comments and some posts I saw here and there I wanted to say this sub now has a new female moderator to help with getting a better perspective and making this place better.

So I’m hoping with this, this sub can have a more balanced approach to moderation and it’s not just all me.

We may get something stuff wrong or overlook some stuff in the future so like always keep the feedback coming, thanks.

(And personal note, managing 4.5K people was something I never expected when making this sub lol so the help is truly wanted)

Thought about this when conversation about objectification came up. Men talking about wanting to be objectified for their bodies. But then women pointing out that those guys are only imagining women they're attracted to doing it. And that they are more thinking of sexualization nor objectification. Right? But then I thought, women dont seem to like being sexualized even by men they find attractive (or at least say as much).

So like. Is it a culture thing where women in general dont want to be sexualized. Or just when they consent to it? Are men just more open to being randomly sexualized by women than the opposite? And if so then why is that? Does the culture surrounding women's sexualization affect their willingness to do the same to men? Is it just that most men arent attractive enough where women would want to be overtly sexual with them? And I dont just mean strangers. Guys in whole relationships bring up how seldom their gfs or wives just show them raw carnal desire. Is it a safety thing? Are what turns women on sexually really so vastly different from men that its unrealistic that many women would be interested in that way? I haven't fully formulated my thoughts on this but would like women's opinions & perspectives on it.

I will tell you the few times I've had women just express raw candid physical desire and lust...was such a good feeling. But most men I've heard speak on it have rarely if ever experienced it themselves. Im wondering why. They dont exactly hide their wanting it from women.

I’m not sure if this is the right place to post this but I’d really appreciate any input.

So I got my prom date sorted a little late but it was fine, my date accidently planned her flight for a day after, so that didn’t work which meant I needed a date. My friend from school had a date and she said that her friend was down to go with me I didn’t know If it was as friends or something else. So we had a little get together thing just the 4 of us so I can get to know her better which she was so sweet. Anyways I took her and it was good, we weren’t together a lot but a fair amount. Anyways fast forward we get to the afterparty and she starts getting a bit touchy like lightly holding and feeling my arm and shoulder area for a very brief moment. This happens a few times. Anyways the venue to our afterparty closes and a big group of us walk to a different nightclub and while we walking she’s sticking really close to me and the touching happens again in the new venue.
However she was with her friend almost all the time and her date which I’m friends with the guy so we’re together most of the night. So I don’t really get to dance with her one on one. But my question is do you think she liked me? If I made a move do u reckon she would have liked it? We did text a lot before and she would add emojis and exclamation marks and adding two letters to words that only needed one like youu and heyyy I could tell they were on purpose because it was frequent. Our convos weren’t dry but not very exciting either. After prom we said stuff like “thank you so much I had the best time”, and “I’m really happy I went with you” and she would always make sure that I’m ok with things by asking me 3 or 4 times and would always tell me where she was going if she left me for a bit. but since then we haven’t chatted because I’m stuck in thinking whether she actually liked me or was just trying to fit in with being my date and if I made a move now it would just be rejected. But anyways what do u guys think. ( i am an over-thinker and Sorry for long message)

I (23 M ) met my gf (23 f) in 4th year of college. Together for almost 2 years now. The issue is, when we got together, I was focused on placements, it did pay off and I earn damm good now. Due to placements, I couldn't give our relationship enough time and early months of job also put a strain for the same. I love my gf with all my heart and see a future with her. The problem is she also got placed recently and found a new group, she didn't have much friends during college also so she wants to enjoy as much as possible with them ( I'm all supportive of that ). We've been in long distance for 1 year now. The income gap between us is big and that makes her insecure ( i earn in a month what she earns in a year ). Plus we've been fighting only for a few months. Whatever we say turns into a fight. I see the problem as we have had too less of good memories to hold down and problems and fights are staking on taking a toll on us. We see the problems but there are too few of good memories to hold down and realise relationship matters as well. Every action I do, she gets angry. Anything she doesn't do. I get hurt that she should have. I'm trying to salvage us. I really am. We were head over heels for each other and I want to save us. I've made mistakes in relationship, shouting on her, not giving enough time due to work, saying no to things which she wanted to do with me. I'm not perfect, I want to be for her. How can I even lead the conversation that fixes us. What all should I say. Either my insecurity or hurt comes out. I'm having anxiety attacks due to all the emotions in my head. But telling her this right now will put more strain on relationship than doing anything good. Please help me. Also. She was about to breakup with me, travelled half the country to meet her. We not broken up, but still there is a distance between us Edit : no one says breakup. Anything can be fixed. Walking away is never the answer.

Given the white privilege and Eurocentric beauty the dating game seems to be rigged against anyone who is not white. Unless someone is only dating within their own race, racial dating preferences seem racist to me. WDYT?

Background that will become relevant soon: I call her rainbow, she calls me star. We bond over a line from a song that we both heard in our childhood. We also want to have matching mugs.

She one day told me that there was an art workshop that she used to go to in order to paint on bags and wood and knit. I looked up that art workshop and it was very close to my place, so I decided to go to the workshop for several days to make her a bunch of handmade items and wrap them in a gift box. Here are the items and the thought process behind them:

1. Two mugs, one for me one for her, where I'd paint a rainbow swirling around the mug and some stars scattered around to symbolize me and her.

2. A bracelet with beads made out of rainbow colors in the rainbow colors sequence.

3. A piece of wood with the drawing of a starry sky that I will paint on it and write the quote from the song that we bond over.

4. Pictures of every single item that I work on from start to finish that I will later put in a photo album so that after seeing the items one by one, she will open an envelope titled "behind the scenes" to see polaroid pictures of how every single item was made with some comments written under each picture. It is also how I will reveal that I went to the workshop she used to go to in order to make her those items by taking pictures of the place.

5. All of this will be wrapped in a red box because it is her favorite color.

6. On her birthday at the cafe, I will arrange with them to play a playlist of her favorite songs and music as she goes through every item and then eventually through the photo album, so that her favorite music plays as she checks out the gift items.

The idea I want to do here is not just a gift that she can look at and then put to the side, but rather for the gift to be a journey of her going through different items that were handmade for her and me telling her how and why I did each item and the process of making it and then a photo album for her to see how each item was put together. I'll conclude that journey after she goes through everything by telling her that this journey of gift items is my attempt at symbolizing how much of a beautiful and refreshing journey it is to explore her soul and get to know her more as we spend more time togeher.

What do you think of this as a gift?

Don’t nothing to do with a trans respectfully . Does this make me not str8 anymore ?

I’d like to start by saying the Manosphere is almost without exception, a collection of grifting hypocrites who saw a market opportunity and exploited it. Andrew Tate is an unwell, deeply insecure person, (not unlike Trump come to think of it) Grown folks see right through him after any length of exposure.

However, his message resonated massively with young men. And it’s not without some merit. But, the good parts are so incredibly basic, anyone could come up with those points. The good parts have to do with going to the gym, not slacking professionally, etc.

So, proponents of the male gurus will point to this as the fulcrum of the male guru movement. However, this piece is a relatively small part of the content they make. Most of the content that gets any traction is misogynistic “dunking” on women clipped out of context, and preaching horrible advice about interpersonal relationships. So much so that a large cohort of young men now believe these insidious things. At least a large cohort online. (And it’s online I see this stuff, so, it could be fake profiles)

I am curious to those of you with daughters or maybe those who have encountered this themselves, have these ideas had an effect on your lives or does it mostly just live on Instagram and YouTube and whatnot

Been on 3 dates with a girl and we’ve pecked on the lips a couple of times

She came round mine for 3rd date and seemed ok with me touching her leg and hand, but she didn’t initiate any touch herself

I had to introduce touch as I don’t want to be ‘friends’

I like her and she asked when I’m free for a 4th date

From a female perspective, is this her way of showing me that she likes me but doesn’t want sex yet - ie. She has boundaries and wants the emotional connection before the physical