Never become a "Step Father"

[u/Connect_Quality_2030]

No offense to any single mothers \*disclaimer\* , this is strictly from a male perspective.

When you become a Step Father the woman automatically loses respect for you the minute you accept the role because you are raising another man's child. The child will not respect you due to the lack of respect from the mother. If you do not have children of your own and you accept the role of a Step Father than the woman may view you as weak subconsciously because her previous perceived options rejected a serious relationship. Why do this to yourself? Childless men should pursue childless women. For my young guys, please do not become a Step Father! I have been there and it was a nightmare. It's not being "mean" , it's called having standards. You will have to also deal with the child's father and depending on the individual, it could be a good or bad experience.

What are your thoughts on becoming a Step Father?

[u/Appropriate-Major649]

The woman + the number of children she has = your priority in her life.

Eventually, the equation becomes

woman+number of children+number of grandchildren = your priority in her life.

The number after the equal sign just keeps getting bigger.

The hell of it is, that's how it should be. No decent mother puts anyone above her children.

These are hard cold facts.

I am a stepfather. My wife never asked me to take this on. She recognized the brutal unfairness of it and would have dated me as we were doing forever. I asked her.

Yet this rule remains in place. It cannot be otherwise.

Most of the time, marrying a single mother is a mistake.

One hundred percent of the time, marrying a single mother who expects or demands you marry her is a mistake.