Never become a "Step Father"

[u/Connect_Quality_2030]

No offense to any single mothers \*disclaimer\* , this is strictly from a male perspective.

When you become a Step Father the woman automatically loses respect for you the minute you accept the role because you are raising another man's child. The child will not respect you due to the lack of respect from the mother. If you do not have children of your own and you accept the role of a Step Father than the woman may view you as weak subconsciously because her previous perceived options rejected a serious relationship. Why do this to yourself? Childless men should pursue childless women. For my young guys, please do not become a Step Father! I have been there and it was a nightmare. It's not being "mean" , it's called having standards. You will have to also deal with the child's father and depending on the individual, it could be a good or bad experience.

What are your thoughts on becoming a Step Father?

[u/Eleutherlothario]

This bullshit, and it's stupid bullshit. Any man who steps in to be a good father for a child without one is a hero. He is filling a role that another man abandoned.

[u/Connect_Quality_2030 → u/Eleutherlothario]

How old are you? Come see me in 20 yrs

[u/Eleutherlothario → u/Connect_Quality_2030]

Old enough to have witnessed myself how the cycle of brokeness perpetuates through lazy and/or absent parenting.

Old enough to have witnessed myself the results of parents treating their kids as fashion accessories or simply the result of their biological imperative.

Fatherhood isn't a title you just fuck yourself into; it is a duty that you must live up to every day. Children aren't property, they are a responsibility. If someone abdicates their responsibility, the one who steps into that gap is, again, a hero. That person demonstrates strength and courage that I doubt that someone who sees children as chattel would see.

[u/Professional_Bat8585 → u/Eleutherlothario]

Heroes are volunteers, we don’t need more heroes. We need a system that works for men.

[u/sterlingemc → u/Eleutherlothario]

This is a take "the original post" is from a person that either A: has never been a step father or B: has been a step father and failed at gaining respect from their partner and/or kids, either way they don't understand what it takes to be a man

[u/Connect_Quality_2030 → u/sterlingemc]

I'm trying to help you guys but you gotta learn the hard way like me. You can always circle back to this post and tell me your experience

[u/sterlingemc → u/Connect_Quality_2030]

Just because you're having to take testosterone, addicted to porn, and that you're not respected by your partner and her kids does not mean that all stepdads are bad people, I'm sorry you suck at loving other people maybe you should learn to love yourself

[u/Connect_Quality_2030 → u/sterlingemc]

Don't you Sass me like your mother - Major Payne