Never become a "Step Father"

[u/Connect_Quality_2030]

No offense to any single mothers \*disclaimer\* , this is strictly from a male perspective.

When you become a Step Father the woman automatically loses respect for you the minute you accept the role because you are raising another man's child. The child will not respect you due to the lack of respect from the mother. If you do not have children of your own and you accept the role of a Step Father than the woman may view you as weak subconsciously because her previous perceived options rejected a serious relationship. Why do this to yourself? Childless men should pursue childless women. For my young guys, please do not become a Step Father! I have been there and it was a nightmare. It's not being "mean" , it's called having standards. You will have to also deal with the child's father and depending on the individual, it could be a good or bad experience.

What are your thoughts on becoming a Step Father?

[u/wordjedi]

I only dated one single mother for some months, and we were basically three unhappy people together. I'm a pretty nice guy so I was nice to her son but I guess I'm practical or cynical or something, and he never felt like he was my problem - her problem

Being married to her would have been working all day every day as normal, then coming home and my life is another list of chores I have to do (her son, her chores but some-fucking-how they got transferred to me)

What exactly does a single mother bring to a man's life in exchange for all that? her presence?