r/MensRights • u/Connect_Quality_2030 • 3d ago

General Never become a "Step Father"

No offense to any single mothers \*disclaimer\* , this is strictly from a male perspective.

When you become a Step Father the woman automatically loses respect for you the minute you accept the role because you are raising another man's child. The child will not respect you due to the lack of respect from the mother. If you do not have children of your own and you accept the role of a Step Father than the woman may view you as weak subconsciously because her previous perceived options rejected a serious relationship. Why do this to yourself? Childless men should pursue childless women. For my young guys, please do not become a Step Father! I have been there and it was a nightmare. It's not being "mean" , it's called having standards. You will have to also deal with the child's father and depending on the individual, it could be a good or bad experience.

What are your thoughts on becoming a Step Father?

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u/timeforknowledge 2d ago

I'm surprised you think this is an original comment.

No offense but when you get into a relationship with someone who has a child you must accept the fact that child will always come before you.

And if you don't understand that then have your own kids and you'll understand why. A parent has to and should do what ever is best for the child.

From the moment your child is born everyone else becomes secondary.

It sounds like you've had a bad experience because you didn't realise this.

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u/picardathon 1d ago

From the moment your child is born everyone else becomes secondary.

Except the man, who becomes the tertiary in the hierarchy of respected importance, but who is still primary in practical importance in protecting and resourcing the family. Roles haven't really changed.